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Crazy the amount of relative stories I have, ugh. It was just after my parents got divorced and my father got remarried to Cruella deSkank. Awful awful person. My mother and I moved to Atlanta to be near my brother and sister. Well since I’m only 21 my car is still in his name. This doesn’t settle well with Cruella. She must have driven him mad because he calls me and demands I put the car in my name. I have no credit , not bad credit just no credit. I try for months to do this. He finally calls and SCREAMS at me to put that f&@$$ing car in my name or he’s calling the cops on me. Ummm what??? I’m his daughter wtf???? I’m so hurt and confused. I went to the most understanding lender, she seemed very nice and literally cried my heart out to this woman. She was truly sad for me and the bank did everything they could to make it happen. Fast forward to Christmas Day and my father calls. I immediately hang up on him and didn’t speak to him for two years. We eventually spoke but it was never the same. Family sometimes, ugh. The silver lining was I ended up with 765 credit because of the loan in my name that I paid off early. 1211-18

My response isn’t likely to be one you were expecting. I don’t believe children are owed a vehicle provided by a parent or parents. Particularly children who have reached the age of 18. In this story you are 21 at the time and while you had no credit history, you were quite able to pay off the car loan earlier than scheduled.

A young friend of mine had a nearly similar situation. She was driving a car that was owned by her father and he was the one making the car payments. At age 19, the father insisted she take over the title to the car and make the car payments. She did but she promptly sold the car, used the sale money to pay off the car loan and then she bought a used car she could afford.

Instead of being grateful for the use of a car from age 16 to 21, a blessing that many of us did not have btw, you see it as an entitlement that when removed from you results in a deterioration of your relationship with your father. Seriously, how long did you think he was going to continue paying for your car? Until 22? Maybe 25? Daddy had to compel you to grow up and take ownership of your car with all the rights, benefits and responsibilities associated with that kind of ownership.

This story hit Twitter, Reddit, Facebook and then the news outlets late last week.   I screenshot the Facebook posts but it’s probably easier to simply direct everyone to read one of the news media stories.  So trot on over to this URL:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html

And then come back here to discuss….

Is this a real story?   We’ve read of some pretty horrific bridezillas on Ehell over the years.   It falls in the realm of being plausible given that extreme entitlement is not a new phenomenon.

The question I have pertains to the groom. He clearly knew of this scheme. There’s a lot of “we wanted…we toured…we dreamed…we asked” written in that Facebook status and culminate with the groom’s family pledging $3K for the wedding.    And yet in the comment sections on sites where this appears, many people write that the groom “dodged a bullet”, as if the guy was an unwitting victim only just now realizing what a bridezilla he nearly married.   Say what?   He’s just as guilty as she is of trying to milk friends and family of a LOT of cash to fund an overly extravagant wedding.

In a turn of events, someone claiming to be Susan’s cousin said the Facebook status was only up for 15 minutes before it was deleted.

‘Clearly she has entitlement issues, but I have never known her to be this obnoxious. Honestly, over the years she’s been nice and overall sweet. No red flags come to mind,’ the cousin said.

‘On a final note, I understand everyone’s valid concern about her leaving her son for two months to go backpacking. However nobody believes she’s actually going to South America. This woman has never been outside the US.

‘We all think she’s saying that to be dramatic. I also have a feeling she may have been drinking while writing this status, it’s especially vulgar and incredibly embarrassing. It was only up for maybe 15 minutes before she took it down.’

My fiancé and I are planning to get married in fall 2020. We are on a quite small budget (preferably under 7k not including dress) and we are doing everything ourselves instead of hiring a planner, hence why I am asking this question so far ahead of time!

After kicking around a couple venue ideas, he suggested renting a large beach house at a nearby beach for the ceremony and reception. We just cannot afford to reserve a block of hotel rooms plus a venue, but some of our guests are on a very tight travel budget (mostly on his side) and we would love to be able to provide them with a low-cost sleeping arrangement. Some of the houses we are looking at would mean that for guests, it would be as low-cost as $200 per room for an entire week in a beach town! To clarify, that doesn’t mean that fiancé and I would only end up paying $200 for the week either – we would be paying the big lion’s share, plus event fee.

By renting a house instead of just a one-night venue, we get much more fun for the money, and get to have a mini-honeymoon after the wedding with some of our close friends and family. This is really the only aspect of the wedding that fiancé has been very vocal about preferring.

However, we are not going to be able to offer everyone overnight accommodation in the house, both because of space and lifestyle differences. I can’t imagine hosting my elderly, old-fashioned grandparents in the same home as some of our friends, for instance. And some guests, like my aunts from a number of states away, likely don’t want to hang out for multiple days with strangers.

What is the best way to divide the beach-house guests from the non-beach-house guests? All of the non-house guests would have no financial problem getting their own accommodation, but I don’t want to make anyone feel like a B-lister. We are only planning on inviting 35 people max, so it would not be a “select few” in the house while a big crowd has to find their own lodgings.

My plan so far would be to include a little extra card in with the paper invitation, sent out decently ahead of time for time-off’s sake, inviting the beach-house guests to stay and keep the fun going with us. All guests’ invitations would link to a wedding website which would include policies and rules of the rental (there are several with any beach house), such as no smoking, party has to end at a specific time, where to park, et cetera. 0420-18

Hmm, this is a conundrum.   My first thought is that you are presuming to know the preferences of all of your guests as to whether they would prefer the beach house accommodation versus a hotel.   Second, presuming that some of your guests are able to afford the more expensive hotel option.  Third,  you want to put the information regarding the beach house on the wedding web site all guests will have access to read it.   Fourth,  it sounds like you are categorizing guests into the “fun crowd we want to hang with” and the “old fuddy duddies”.   It just seems to me that there are too many presumptions that have the potential to backfire on you in the form of offended guests who were specifically not offered the option of a cheap beach vacation.

I’d send the same card to everyone and let the chips fall where they may.   People who really want to be with you that post-wedding week will hustle to RSVP and get in on the cheap beach house accommodations.   People who wait will lose out.   This is what happens when a block of rooms are reserved at a hotel, the first guests who RSVP get those rooms and when they are gone, oh, well.   Too bad for those who waited.