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Should Blood Curdling Screaming Be Grounds For Removal From a Flight?

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I’ve seen the original, longer video of this situation and declined to share it due to the fact that the child’s face is clearly seen. However, this version redacts his face.

In the longer video, the child runs down the airplane aisles and when compelled to stop, these screams issue forth. He cannot sit still in a seat and the longer video shows him standing on and crawling over seats until…once again, he is being asked to stop and the screaming starts. The video game cannot be started and he screams. He appears to be about 4 years old, maybe 5.

I think in this situation it would be justified for the airline staff to remove the family from the flight citing that the child is obviously not in an emotional condition to fly across the Atlantic Ocean for 8 hours. And I do think it is poor parenting to raise children who scream like they are being killed with a 14-inch Klingon danger to the guts when the issue prompting the screaming is really one of entitlement.

Overbearing New Grandparents….Just Whose Baby Is This?

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I am 20+ weeks pregnant with my first child. It is the first grandchild of both sides so understandably the grandparents to be are excited. Unfortunately my MIL and FIL are excited to the point of being hyperactive children. My FIL wants to videotape the entire procedure and my MIL keeps gushing about how all her friends are going to be so jealous about how she’s going to be the first person to see the baby to the point of being tasteless. She crudely joked that if I take too long in labour she’s going to get FIL to strap me down to a table and yank the kid out of me. When I get upset she just dismisses me by saying that I’m just jealous the baby is going to love her more.

Understandably, this is giving me nightmares to the point where I don’t even want the in-laws around my child. I have stopped going over but they complain to my husband about not seeing me. I can’t post on Facebook or Instagram because they hijack my posts saying all sorts of overly positive things like “can’t wait to see meet you baby,” “make sure you eat only organic foods , only the best for my grandchild” and I look petty complaining or blocking them.

It’s just so exhausting being around them. They’re already talking about turning a spare room into a nursery so they can have overnight visits with my child and joke about my husband and I having “adult nights” on those days.
My husband doesn’t seem to care. He just shrugs off their behavior and says that’s how they are or they’ll settle down once the child is a few months old but in the meantime I feel like I’m out in the middle of a storm naked. 0928-18

Are you in the UK? I don’t know what the privacy standards are in UK hospitals or birthing centers but in the US it’s easy to keep specific person or persons out of the labor room. Just tell the head nurse. There will be no videotaping or photography of anything if you do not wish it. Have a talk now with the birthing center or hospital head nurse as to your wishes.

As a former first time grandmother, I can assure you that your MIL’s friends are not invested in being jealous that she might be the first person to see the baby. They likely don’t care. Among my friends, it was typically the mother of the pregnant woman who was allowed in the birthing room to be with her daughter, no husbands and no MIL. Just mom. So consider limiting people in the room to just your husband, the doula/midwife if you have one, the medical staff and your mom claiming nerves as a first time mom. You are about to have a new experience that, while women had given birth for millennia, you have not and it’s scary. You don’t know what to expect.

Your MIL has, perhaps unwittingly, prioritized the future grandbaby over your comfort, almost as if you are the incubator, the means by which she gets a grandchild. That is insensitive and you should tell them that you are not comfortable with the joking at this time.

P.S. Grandmoms may be great but no one replaces mom in a child’s heart, even when they are 30 years old. Be a good mother and all will be well.

Parents And Their Obnoxious Videos

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I am currently sitting in my favorite cafe. I come here once per week because my work schedule has me around the corner and the food is good. Tuesdays are my longest work day (about 15 hours, typically) and I only have 30 minutes for lunch. I come here to clear my head, have some peace and quiet and eat a quick bite.

There is a table across the restaurant that has two small children (ages 2 and 4, probably) that are watching a movie on their mom’s phone so loud that I cannot hear the restaurant music being played on the speaker directly above my head.

I have noticed an onslaught of this type of behavior recently. Apparently it is becoming socially acceptable to play loud and annoying videos in public, without consideration of others. What happened to headphones?? It’s not just children either, adults are plenty guilty. I’ve had this happen on airplanes, subways, restaurants and even in the gym. It’s so annoying and rude in my opinion.

Any thoughts? 1017-17

 

Online Begging To Fund The Able-Bodied Teenager’s Hobbies

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An acquaintance of mine, “Jane”, has a daughter, “Susie”, in high school. Susie is into gymnastics, a really expensive sport where I live. For the past few years, I’ve noticed that Jane (with her husband”s blessing, I believe) has been setting up GoFundMe accounts and making social media posts asking for money to pay for her daughter’s uniforms, equipment, etc. I was raised to work for what I want, and if my parents didn’t have money for an activity, we didn’t do that activity. I was chatting with friends and I said that since Susie has a car, she could get a part time job to pay her own expenses, and that I don’t donate to those tyoe of requests. That opened up a whole discussion. Some of my friends don’t see anything wrong with what Jane is doing, and some of us are floored by it and won’t donate. Are we just out of touch for thinking Susie should pay her own way or drop the activity, or is begging now the newest way of life? 0409-18

You are not out of touch.   You understand that life (and people) do not owe you happiness and if you want something, you work for it.   Breaking a sweat creating a Go Fund Me account does not qualify as “work”.

People who are handed things have no appreciation for the value of what they have been given.   If you want something bad enough, you work for it and that builds character, a deep appreciation for everything you own, and a mature understanding that no one owes you.

 

Funeral Snowflakes Big and Little

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I have never witnessed such atrocious behavior as this. The woman involved is either incredible crass, or incredibly oblivious.

A couple that I know lost their small child suddenly. The day of the visitation (which is held the day before the funeral), the couple realized that they were just not up to seeing small children. So the funeral home arranged a child’s area, complete with dedicated babysitters. There were over 500 people at the visitation, and the line to see the grieving parents was quite long, so this helped the parents as well as they didn’t have to try to manage their children in such circumstances.

So, enter Mrs Special. Who gets in line with her child, the same age as the deceased. Relative of the grieving mother sees her, the following conversation ensued:

Relative: Thank you so much for coming. The children’s room is right over there. I’ll hold your place in line while you take little Dudley.

Mrs Special – Oh no. This child does not leave my side. I can’t possibly to that.

Relative – Well, I believe he knows both the babysitters, and also there are several other children in there he knows. Grieving parents are not up to seeing children today, so I’m going to have to insist.

Mrs Special leaves in a huff. But so far, nothing really egregious has taken place.

The next day was the funeral. Again, children’s room provided.

Mrs Special arrives and is about to enter the chapel, with little Dudley once again in tow. Different relative sees her.

Relative – You cannot take him in there. Either take him to the children’s room or leave.

Mrs. Special – well, I’m NOT trying to be disrespectful.

Relative – Oh, but you are.

So, my question is, what on earth could that woman have been thinking? I realize the visitation was a case of she just didn’t realize, but showing up again the next day?  0618-18

I have met and know of people who have a belief of “love me, love my child”.   If you invite the adults to an adults only function, you should expect them to bring the children as well since, in their mind, the parents and children are one social unit that cannot be separated.   As a host it makes it difficult to deal with that situation.

Kudos to the relatives who had the spine to address the issue in the name of protecting the grieving parents from more heartache at a vulnerable time.