When my husband and I were trying to figure out where to get married (we already had the date and time) a “friend” offered us her house and backyard. She said she would be “thrilled” for us to get married in her backyard and host the reception in her home. Since we were on a shoe-string budget, we were glad for the offer. We rented chairs and tables for outside, and located a tent. Every time I got an updated headcount I informed our “friend” so she would know how many people would be in her home. I asked every time I gave her a headcount, “Are you sure you’re still OK with this many people in your house?” and her answer was always, “Oh, yes, I’m so glad to help out!”.
A month before the wedding I got a hysterical phone call from the couple who was making our cake. They said our “friend” had called them all upset to say she was sorry she had ever agreed to let us get married at her house and she was having second thoughts about it, and they wanted to know why I hadn’t informed them of the change in location. I immediately called our “friend” and asked what the hell was going on and why hadn’t she said anything in the *5* months before now? She denied eveything and said she had no idea what they were talking about; she’d never said such a thing. About 3 days later I got an email from another guest, telling me the same thing – our “friend” had called the guest, all upset over agreeing to let us get married in her house, etc. and the guest wanted to know what was going on. I called our “friend” again, and she denied it all again. We couldn’t move the location at the 11th hour. Invitations had already gone out, tables and chairs had been paid for, tent was being delivered in 3 weeks. Up until the day of the wedding our “friend” kept declaring to our faces she was thrilled to help and glad we were getting married there. For weeks after the ceremony several other guests called or emailed their concerns over what our “friend” had said to them in the weeks before the wedding. That was almost 5 years ago and I still don’t speak to her. 0912-08
Wedding Location? The State of Denial
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