This is a short story but one all of my family will always remember. First, some background… My Aunt Sandy, Grandma’s oldest daughter, a few years ago wound up rediscovering her first ex-husband. Completely forgetting that there were valid reasons they’d divorced in the first place, and stayed that way for 40 years, they wind up getting remarried. My family didn’t like him the first time around and he’s done nothing to endear himself since. In fact, he’s gone out of his way to separate my aunt from her family, and treat the rest of us horribly. They wound up moving out of state, oh that’s too bad.
So fast forward to a year after the wedding of the century. Grandma’s time came, and she had a very dignified passing with her family there to say goodbye. There’s tears but we’re all managing. OK. My Aunt Sandy had in fact been in town and was here to say goodbye to her mother. So now we’re all planning the memorial. We managed to all work together and create a lovely sendoff to a very important part of our family, the kind of memorial everyone should have. Where the tacky comes in is after the service.
Sandy’s husband come flying in to town to attend the services. Other than his being married to my Aunt Sandy I can’t think of any reason he should be there – Grandma couldn’t stand him. What he did next is unbelievable. He invited some former neighbors of his and my aunt’s- actually casual acquaintances of his, my aunt barely knew them- to the service. These people didn’t know my Grandmother, had in fact never met her. OK, that’s unbelievable enough. The fact that they actually showed up just floored me. They came to the service and went on to the restaurant where we had the memorial party afterwards. They only knew 2 people there, the deceased NOT being on of them. Even better, my Aunt Sandy and her husband barely spoke to these people.
So I still, to this day, can’t wrap my head around this.
1) Why would you invite someone to a funeral and the luncheon afterwards, if they didn’t even know the deceased? Was he just trying to show off and take them out to dinner and this was a way to do it on somebody else’s tab?
2) As the invitee, why would you accept?
We all wanted to say something but managed, somehow, through the grief to rise above it. We talked about later sending this clod a bill for the meals his friends had, but decided against that too. 0712-08
I can answer Question 2…the guests were funeral vultures. It’s the same creature that crashes wedding receptions, office potlucks, etc. merely to chow down on some free food.