China For Sale!

by admin on April 8, 2010

I have a story from my fairly recent engagement party.

My parents hosted a lovely engagement party for me and my future husband at the family home.  Since they have a large house, they invited everyone who is being invited to our wedding.  One of the many guests was my Aunt B.  I don’t often see her as she lives quite far away, however, she made an effort to be there and I appreciated it.  Since there were so many guests, I only had a chance to speak with everyone very briefly.  I did notice however that she had brought a black wheeled briefcase/suitcase and had it sitting in front of her during the party.  The party ended and we had a wonderful time.

Now my Aunt B, hand paints china.  I found out after the party from more than one guest that she had been trying to sell her hand painted china during my engagement party!  Thanks for making the extra effort to come congratulate me on my upcoming nuptials (enter sarcasm)!  I wonder if she would have come had she not been able to make a quick buck.  Luckily, my informant guests declined and didn’t feel obliged to make a purchase.  How very tacky.  I wonder what she will try to sell at the wedding!   0323-10

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DGS April 8, 2010 at 9:15 am

That’s pretty tacky of your Aunt, but congrats on your engagement! Thankfully, you didn’t find out during the party, so that your experience wasn’t ruined, and you were able to celebrate with your guests. Hopefully, she won’t try to bring her wares to your shower or wedding!

A few years ago, I was matron of honor for a dear friend of mine and in the process of organizing a shower for her. A cousin of hers had emailed all the bridesmaids, asking if we could turn the shower into a Pampered Chef party for the cousin who sells their products. Obviously, the answer was a resounding ‘no’, and we proceeded to host a fun and elegant shower for our friend. However, that didn’t stop her cousin from bringing product catalogs at the party and approaching numerous guests with them and pointing out that her Pampered Chef wares were higher quality than some of the gifts that the bride received. Thankfully, this cousin’s mother had the grace and class to take her daughter aside and to tell her to stop, and she left shortly thereafter (and did not, might I add, bring a gift for the bride). The nerve of some people…

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Ruth April 8, 2010 at 12:10 pm

Wow. I have a colleague who’s very pushy about her network marketing business, but that takes it a level beyond what even she’s done (same with the DGS comment). Other people’s parties are a chance to network, but there’s such a clear line between that & making sales. Especially celebration parties…

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Mary April 8, 2010 at 7:41 pm

I once was offered a baby shower by a friend while pregnant with first child. I said wonderful, that would be very generous. Then a few weeks later, she told me that she wanted to make it a Creative Memories shower where everyone would work on a page for baby’s scrapbook (her sister is a consultant). I managed to convince her otherwise, using the excuse that the baby’s scrapbook would never be finished, since I detest scrapbooking. I think they are beautiful, it just gives me headaches when I try anything creative. I didn’t want to tell her that I thought it was an extremely tacky idea!

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SammyHammy April 9, 2010 at 7:06 am

I would suggest that you (or another relative) have a brief conversation with Aunt B before the wedding and make sure she knows that your wedding and reception are not the appropriate venue for her commercial enterprises. And I’d make sure someone kept an eye on her, just in case.

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Crystabee April 10, 2010 at 8:48 pm

Is your aunt on a fixed income? She may be trying to make some extra money to make ends meet, I know it doesn’t excuse the tackiness, but it may give you some insight into the ‘why’.

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Amy Whitetree April 13, 2010 at 3:33 pm

It could be worse. I was at my cousin’s wedding reception. It’s a small town, and I had gone to school with the groom’s cousin and her husband (since kindergarten!). I was excited when the aunt of the groom (mother of said cousin) sat near me to give me updates on the cousin and her husband. But then she tried to peddle some sort of make-up or skin care. I am guessing the expression on my face was not as tactful as I intended because she did not stay long at my table after that. I was quite shocked that someone would try to sell something at a wedding reception and use her daughter and SIL as bait!

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gellchom April 21, 2010 at 2:04 pm

I have a similar and even worse story. My “eccentric” uncle, my father’s brother, had an idea for a memorial at the 9/11 site and had set up a non-profit to fund it. His idea — a tower, to be the highest structure in the world, with a school in it –would have cost a gazillion dollars and was to be funded by donations of ONE DOLLAR each– presumably, from everyone in the world. Okay, absurd, but harmless.

He solicited donations for this project at … my father’s funeral.

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livvy April 23, 2010 at 1:11 pm

At a family party, one of my DH’s cousins and her husband were chatting. Turns out we live close to each other, so the husband says, “we have to get together, can we get your number?”. I didn’t have any paper other than my business card, so I wrote our personal information on the back. One week later, he was calling me at work trying to solicit my company’s financial business. No call about dinner yet.

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