I have to rat on myself for my severe breech of etiquette at a friend’s baby shower some years ago. I was still in high school at the time, and very prone to making social gaffes!
A very sweet young woman at our church (“Sara”) became pregnant out of wedlock, but the women in our church supported her decision to keep the baby and threw her a shower, inviting all the women in the church (so it wasn’t the most formal event). The shower was hosted by one of the deacon’s wives at her home, and my mother and I were invited. However, Mom couldn’t go, and I had a party with some friends scheduled a couple of hours after the shower’s start time. I considered not going, since I was giving my friend “Rachel” a ride to the party. Somehow in my stupid sixteen-year-old brain, I finally decided that it would be okay if I took Rachel with me to Sara’s shower for an hour or so, and then we would leave early for the party. Not a problem, right? Rachel and Sara sort of knew each other from school…several years ago… (Note: Rachel did NOT attend the same church as Sara and myself)
Rachel reluctantly agreed to attend the shower, and I think she even managed to find a small gift, despite my asking her at the last minute. Sara looked a little surprised to see Rachel there, but she graciously thanked us both for coming. An awkward situation of my own making, to be sure, but it got even worse for poor Rachel. During the shower games (a pox upon the crass inventor of the “identify-the-candybar-microwaved-in-the-diaper” monstrosity), Rachel proved to be particularly adept at a baby-ified version of “concentration,” and ended up winning one of the prizes! The poor girl was mortified, as she had been trying NOT to win, and she intentionally left her prize on a side table when we departed a little while later.
At church the next Sunday, one of the women handed me Rachel’s prize, sweetly informing my that my friend had “forgotten her candle holder.” I decided to spare Rachel any further embarrassment, and gave the gift to my highly amused mother. I have since profusely apologized to Rachel for putting her in such an awkward spot, and we laugh about the incident now. I learned my lesson though, and I will never again invite a friend to someone else’s shower, no matter how “informal” it is! 0513-10
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