Yes, this is about an invitation that asks for money, but it’s more than that. I work with the groom. The bride had booked her wedding for midweek in July and told everyone what a great deal they had got; for less than their budget they got an all-inclusive package: meal, all the hotel rooms, drinks and so on. When asked about wedding gifts, she said they would just ask people to contribute towards the cost of the hotel rooms (the ones included in the package price). So this is just asking for money by any other name. I wouldn’t do it myself but I’m not that upset about it; I’d expect to pay for my hotel room anyway.
Two weeks ago I got the invitation. To my surprise there was a VERY long poem that finally told me the couple were having a wishing well set up (in the UK!) to put in money and wishes which they are ‘sure will come true’ in return for our generosity. Right. I thought they was asking for contributions to the hotel rooms? Then I turned it over, and there was another section. It said the hotel rooms cost £X (or $X for you USAians) per night and to send the money to the bride with your RSVP if you wanted one. But the couple has paid for the rooms in their amazing package deal and the wedding’s not for 2 months. Why the rush to get the £X from me now (which I don’t have since I was only given 2 days to RSVP)? And since I’m effectively giving them £X cash towards their costs, why the demand for more money with the well?
I was surprised how disgusted and almost hurt I was by this invitation. I felt like nothing to them when I read it; just a wallet, someone else to hit up for money. They didn’t even spell my names right, and they ended with a rhyme asking us ‘not to be offended’. If you have to do that, you know you’re doing the wrong thing. Sure I’ll shrug it off and buy them a nice present, and I do wish them well, but that invitation really has made me look at them in a different light – and appreciate how lucky I am to have so many wonderful friends who wouldn’t send that to anyone in a million years.
I’ve rsvp’d yes; I promised months ago that we’d be there, although I feel pretty bad going after this, and my boyfriend is furious. He said he felt he’d been given an invoice, and we should put a tenner in a card, since that’s clearly all they care about. I don’t know if going is the right thing to do or not, although we’re staying at a cheaper hotel. The really sad thing is that I will be putting some money in the well. I usually love buying presents and spend ages wrapping them/writing messages, but this time around, what’s the point? 0601-10
For privacy reasons, the location of the wedding, all names, bank account information and even monetary amounts were deleted from the image. What readers may not catch is that the bride and groom are making a nice profit by arranging an inexpensive package deal for the hotel rooms but charging their guests the rack rate. One of the most diabolically clever way of extracting cash from wedding guests I’ve seen in a long time!