My boyfriend and I were invited to a going away dinner of a friend (“Jim”) by Jim’s girlfriend (“Jenny”). There were about 20+ people (we are all mid-late 20s) that “Jenny” invited and dinner was going to be in a popular restaurant. Now the invitations were done via social network but my boyfriend and I do not join online networks so naturally I phoned to ask for the information. “Jenny” never told me about any changes and I always heard it from other friends or when I asked her. When I asked, it was going to be $XX amount per head which was reasonable.
Dinner turned out to be great, everybody had a great time. After dinner, everybody planned to go to the bar for drinks but my boyfriend and I already had plans which we told “Jim” and “Jenny” ahead of time. When “Jenny” came around to collect money for the bill, a few people who sat across from me (her friends) only brought cards. I assumed they would go to an ATM or pay back later since splitting the bill was out of the question for a large party.
When “Jenny” came to my boyfriend and I, she asked for $YY and any donations for ”Jim.” I was surprised the price had nearly doubled from $XX to $YY and was not told about this or about the donations. Apparently, the price had changed the night before when “Jenny” confirmed the event with the restaurant, and it was my fault for not joining networks to be up-to-date. (“Jenny” said this jokingly, but I did not find it funny at all). Really, how hard is it to dial a phone or send an email? Fortunately I had enough money to pay my part, but my boyfriend paid for me (very sweet of him) and gave her a nice ”donation.” My boyfriend wanted to buy “Jim” a drink but since we were unable to attend, he thought putting money in would be thoughtful.
Well, it turns out that the donation money was not wholly used for it’s intended. I found out when I overheard “Jenny” tell her friends that she collected enough money from everyone to foot the bill, and so they didn’t need to pay her for their part of dinner. I was still quite peeved hearing that some of my boyfriend’s money (and probably money from other people) was used to pay for somebody’s dinner when really it was intended for “Jim!” Sure there was money left for “Jim”, but it was so thoughtless of “Jenny” to pay for her friends’ dinners on the expense of others. Glad my boyfriend and I did not join them later for drinks for we would be seething the entire night. Is it also rude to know about the event and price ahead of time but not bring money for it (like “Jenny’s” friends)? At least go to an ATM beforehand! 0620-10
Pay Your Own Way, You Little Moochie Poochie!
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