Continuing on in the Ooops – Foot In Mouth vein…
Some moons ago, I was 19, and had three plates in the air at once over the first summer home from college. I was enrolled in a course in my major taught very well at the local university; I had a part-time feature-reporting internship that paid in nickels but was experience! and to actually make money to live on the following year I had a fast-food gig.
I was sent out one fine summer morning to interview the proprietors of several pick-your-own farms popular in the area. In talking about who runs the farm, the farmer says that it’s just he and his wife.
“Oh, no children yet?” I lightly say.
“No,” he says flatly.
“Oh, maybe soon,” I chirp.
Awkward pause while I change gears and (thankfully) refer to my pre-written list of questions.
I don’t know whether they were childless by choice, unable to have children, unable to agree on having children, or had recently lost a child.
I do know that never again have I probed any further than “do you have children,” and then only when it seems to be necessary. (“If you have children, the church has a nursery….” for example).
My face was the reddest fruit on display that day. 0115-09
Imagine if we were reading the story from the farmer’s perspective:
I was being interviewed by some inept college student who had the audacity to ask about future children. [insert various scenarios here] We’re child-free by choice/we just lost our 1 week old son to SIDS/we are infertile which is breaking our hearts …thanks stupid college girl for reminding me…..etc… Tacky chick didn’t even have the heart to apologize for her gaffe. Just left after an awkward silence.
There are nearly always two sides of a story or the rest of the story we never hear about.
The OP’s story is the reason why people should be gracious and forgiving in cases of unintentional Foot in Mouth disease. One never knows if it’s a learning experience the Ooopster will never forget which changes how they behave in the future. Imagine the privilege of being the instrument by which someone else grows and matures to be a better person!