There’s something that’s been bothering me, something I’m worried I may have done wrong. The “victim” assures me that it’s ok, but I still wonder if I violated etiquette.
It was my BF’s birthday, and I wanted him to have fun. I gave him permission to be free to get really drunk if he wanted to, and I would take care of him.
His birthday celebration was a smash hit. Everyone had a great time, and I was lavished with praise by him the entire night for being such a wonderful sport (I was his designated driver, and drank nothing but water an energy drinks to keep awake, and made sure everyone was having fun).
It was going amazingly well, but in a very short period of time, where several people bought him several rounds of shots, he went from drunk to out-of-control, unable to speak cohesively or even stand up drunk. I called it a night immediately when I noticed him unable to stand upright without help, which upset some of the other guests who were having a good time. I already had his car keys, but also had to take his phone to keep him from drunk dialing people.
A large group of his friends wanted to keep the party going at a swimming pool they owned, but I told them, “No, he needs to rest,” in a tone that I admit was rather curt. At that point, I was scared about alcohol poisoning, which may have been overly dramatic of me but I was honestly frightened that I may have to take him to the ER. I’m sort of known as the party killer now.
Was it wrong of me to stop the party that was made by and being held for someone else? In my eyes, I was invoking “My heart will break if he dies of alcohol poisoning tonight because I love this guy” rule but part of me wonders if that was really my call to make to end the party. 0202-11
The only opinion that matters is the guest of honor at the party, your boyfriend. If the agreement was that you were his caretaker while he consumed alcohol freely, then you performed within the parameters of your agreed upon duties which you’ve stated BF appreciates. You were thinking of him and putting his welfare first whereas the other guests were selfishly thinking of their own need to continue the fun regardless of how that would affect the guest of honor.