I don’t want children because of one simple reason: I don’t like babies. That’s right- I am a woman who doesn’t like babies. I love toddlers, love small children and older kids. (I’m a 6th grade teacher, after all!) But babies, I cannot stand. And for some reason, this seems to be unacceptable at my profession.
If you work in a school, you really can’t escape babydom. Pretty much every female teacher leaves for maternity. Some take a year off to care for young children. Because of this fact, I normally keep my mouth shut, except for a hearty “congratulations” and “good luck” to the co-worker. I mean, if it were me, I wouldn’t want some person talking about how they don’t like babies while I’m expecting! It just seems rude.
Apparently, Shana didn’t think it was something to keep silent about. She is a co-worker who has 3 young kids. Actually, she spends a great deal of time telling us stories about them which have nothing to do with anything. (Example: Billy was drawing a house yesterday!) Anyway, one day at our merry lunch table, Cindy said she was expecting. I congratulated her.
“Oh you don’t really mean that!,” Shana said laughing. When the rest of the table turned to look at her, she quickly added, “Amber doesn’t like babies!”
I confess, I turned red. I didn’t know how to respond. Cindy was very kind- she laughed and commented that regardless of how I felt about infants, I certainly had a talent with 11 year olds. Aw, how sweet. The moment was almost saved when Shana said, “That’s probably why she’s single now, most men want children, you know.”
At that moment I turned a beautiful dark red and wanted to crawl under my seat. I had just broken up with my boyfriend of two years a few weeks before and made the mistake of mentioning it to Shana.
Later, away from the audience of co-workers, I confronted her about what she had said such outlandish rude statements. Shana made the excuse that she was only doing it, “Because I thought you’d want the other single teachers to know that you’re available again!” Incredible! 0131-11