This is a interesting one, because it involves responding to acted bad manners with real bad manners. So, my role-playing group (think impromptu acting with dice to determine random actions) really likes to get into character, and as such whenever one of us plays a brute they treat the others as you would expect. Now, this is completely okay as far as we are concerned because hey, that’s the idea. As long as the person isn’t being rude in real life, they can yell in a church or call another person a idiot because it’s all in character.
Well, we had a new person join our group, the girlfriend of one of the other members. We meet once a week, and it’s something we take somewhat seriously. We start to get into character and the newbie makes a mistake. My other friend calls her out on it while in character, so he came off as brash and mean. She then steps away from the table and starts to break down in tears. We weren’t heartless, so we tried to explain the situation to her. However, she screamed at all of us, calling us immature and moronic (I think satanic was thrown in there as well) and then told her boyfriend to never play with us again.
Now, I could understand her reaction if my friend was being legitimately mean to her, BUT HE WAS ACTING!!! She didn’t even listen to us afterwards! Needless to say, she never came to our sessions again, although her boyfriend did. They eventually broke up because she was overly sensitive. 0322-11
Tsk, tsk. Too bad there was no person playing the role of the avenging angel, pissed off parent or strict schoolmaster to put Mr. Brute in his acted place.
Being that she was a newbie and she promptly made a mistake, I think the gracious thing to have done would have been to step out of character and gently inform her of the correction needed. I don’t think staying in character should take precedent over kindness to the uninitiated or inexperienced. It would have cost little in lost time and saved a whole lot of possible drama. And if she was truly that sensitive, even more reason to extend a momentary kindness so that later accusations of unkindness have the ring of hyperbole to them.