It’s Wedding Hell Week! All new stories about wedding etiquette horrors.
As a Wedding Officiant who has been in business for several years, I’ve had instances where couples have showed interest in my services and then changed their minds. But not like what happened today…
I had been in email contact with a potential client for some time. She kept saying she would send the contract as soon as possible, but as the wedding date is on Halloween (it’s October 15th today) we had started working on the perfect personalized ceremony for her and her fiance’. They wanted a handfasting and were not sure how or where to even start. I supplied them with materials, went over the materials with them, helped them to write their ceremony, and provided several hours worth of email support, all the while being thanked for “being there” and “helping us with our ceremony”. I was “a perfect choice” for them until today, when I was informed that they would no longer be needing my services. Here is what she wrote:
“…we’ve decided to go with someone else. We have a friend who recently got ordained and we decided to go with her. She wasn’t sure if she felt comfortable doing the handfasting, since she hadn’t performed one before. But we went over it together (*NOTE: “IT” is the ceremony that *I* helped her to write and perfect!!!) & she feels like she could handle it and not mess up our ceremony. That’s what she was afraid of doing and why I had to search around for someone who even knew what handfasting was! I do appreciate all your help. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for us.”
Of course, by now I have turned away three other requests for Halloween weddings because I was supposed to be doing this couple’s wedding. Not only did she technically steal MY materials, and use my valuable time, she has cost me future business!
Wedding Officiants – before you ever, EVER send anything or work with any of your couples, MAKE SURE you have that legally binding contract IN YOUR HAND!
I have to give her credit, though, for at least thanking me. Sure, thank YOU for making me lose money that *I* need to feed my three kids! 10-15-08