For some reason, it seems like as my relatives age they feel entitled to say whatever pops into their mind. Is it just my family or is this universal?
I was visiting an uncle after not seeing him for a year or so. I guess I was no longer the petite little girl he had in his memory, because after greeting me with a hug, he said: “Well you’ve gained weight, now haven’t you?” Then he stood there just waiting for a response! Shocked, I kind of murmered that yes, I guess I have. Here, I thought his wife (my aunt) would chime in and tell him to shut up, but instead she asked for details as to WHY I gained weight.
I’m actually very comfortable with my weight which is well within the normal range, and this gave me something to laugh about with my sisters later on. Together, we came up with a few rebuttles, my favorite being, “I’ve gotten fat, you’ve gotten old, I guess we’re all caught up. See ya in a year.” 0502-11
I’m convinced that people say stupid things because of a belief that they must say something in order to fill an awkward void with whatever flotsam and jetsam happens to float to the top of their “next on my mental list of something to say”. Don’t validate stupidity with a response. Merely ignore it as if it was never said and move on to the next topic of conversation with a clever bean dip maneuver. And retaliating with deliberate but equal stupidity is not a clever bean dip maneuver.