A businesswoman friend of mine wanted to meet me for a beer after work. We arrived separately at about the same time, and I was walking past her car as she got out. When we were walking in I noticed that her blouse was open, and it was obvious she had “missed a button”. Since we were walking into a nice restaurant, I was a little uncomfortable about it but simply said, “I think you missed a button”. She said, “No, it’s just too tight.” That happened about a month ago, and ever since then, I have noticed it must be fashionable right now, because a whole lot of women have “missed a button”, and it’s way past showing a little cleavage, and more like “Look at my boobs !” What’s a guy to do? 0502-11
The problem with pointing out attire malfunctions of a delicate, personal nature is that it is an admission that one’s eyes having traveled to look at those areas. How does one tell a man his fly is wide open revealing that your eyes have zeroed in on his private parts enough to have noticed ? If it’s my husband or a male member of my family, I whisper it in their ear. But if it’s a man I know somewhat or not at all, I point it out to my husband or son who then informs the other guy of the problem. Most of this is to reduce embarrassment for the guy. Some will disagree with me but I just don’t believe it is appropriate for an unfamiliar woman to be telling a man that his genitals are not adequately covered by means of zipper functionality.
As for undone buttons on a woman’s blouse, once a woman is an adult, the days of anyone telling her how to dress should be over. Deep cleavage via the unbuttoning of blouse buttons is not a clothing malfunction. It is a fashion and life style statement. Despite the obvious non-verbal invitation being given to direct one’s eyes to the mammary valley, a gentleman does not accept the invitation, at least not in public. And for heaven’s sake, he NEVER comments on “missing buttons” thus confirming that the invitation to take a look has been acted upon.
And one thing you, the OP, should seriously consider is the danger of appearing too interested in the number of buttons buttoned or unbuttoned by your female co-workers. It is unhappy fact of life that some female employees do not dress in a professional manner but rather in a provocative way which opens the door for their male counterparts to step on the slippery slope of ogling the offered goods and right into a charge of sexual harassment.