A friend had invited me and my husband to a cookout at her home, along with another couple they were friends with (that we didn’t know). The other couple never showed up to the cookout—neither did they call or in any way contact the hosting couple about where they were, if something happened to them—just nothing. Understandably, hosting-wife was worried that something had happened and tried to get in touch with no-show couple, but to no avail.
Several weeks go by with no contact between the two couples—hosting-wife had tried a few more times to reach them. One day, hosting-husband bumped into no-show-husband at the local mall, and asked no-show what happened that day. No-show-husband’s explanation? “We decided to go shopping that day.” When asked by hosting husband if they’d forgotten or lost track of time, he simply said, “No”. That was it, the whole explanation, spoken without a single iota of regret or apology or further explanation, as if that was a perfectly acceptable reason to ditch a previously confirmed invitation. This was not a formal event by any means, but still—in my world and most people’s that I know of, if you say you’ll be there, then you show up unless there is an unforeseen emergency that prevents it, at which point or soon thereafter, you contact the host and let them know what happened.
My friend and her husband are no longer in contact with that couple; as my friend says, she saw where she ranked on the totem pole with them and chose to no longer socialize with them. This happened several years ago and my friend and I are still in awe that someone was that rude and unabashedly dense about broadcasting it to the world. 0517-11
Good riddance to bad guests! The best revenge is to just continue hosting the best parties and live life sans rude people.
I’ve known people over the decades who will bitterly complain of being lonely or socially out of the loop. I eventually discover why after they display a casual disregard for any sort of commitment to their rsvp (if they do it at all) and a total lack of gratitude or reciprocity. They end up slowly being dropped from future guest lists in favor of people I know what to come.