I have been a lover of your site since I found it (it has kept me from making several faux pas) but I now ask for some much needed advice.
The time has come for my high school 10 year class reunion and I’m not sure I want to attend. First some background on my high school experience. I went to a very small h.s. and the first couple of years were pretty good; however, when senior year rolled around, I’m not exaggerating when I say that every one of the people I had been friends with since 1st grade ditched me. I was later informed that it was because I chose to go to my part time job instead of parting with them. The parties of my senior class consisted of drinking and seeing how many people one could sleep with in one night (not my scene). I spent my senior year getting great grades, working, and going to a bookstore out of town on the weekend nights if I didn’t work. I didn’t begin to make friends again until my second year at university. I’m a stronger person now than I was then, but I’m still faced with a conundrum.
Our class president who is organizing the class reunion also happens to be one of the friends that ditched me. She contacted me via facebook and asked for my address to send me an invitation for the reunion. I sent her my address thinking that if I decided to go at least I would have the option. Apparently, by doing so, I inadvertently R.S.V.P’d even though I only sent her my address and nothing else. When the invitation arrived in the mail today, already on it was that I had selected that two were attending. Even if I were to go, I’d never force DH to go, and it’s definitely not on his list to meet those that made my h.s. experience hell.
My question is if I decide not to go, how do I tactfully decline the already written in R.S.V.P. as there is no number on the invite to contact? And if I do decide to go and the conversation inevitably steers towards the “awesome senior year” how do I react if I’m asked about my senior year experience? Any advice would be appreciated on how to handle either of the situations and not come off behaving as though I belong in E-Hell. 0523-11
If you decide to not attend, contact the organizer via Facebook and politely decline the invitation. “I am sorry but I am unable to attend the reunion this year. Perhaps the next one!”
If you do attend, you are under no obligation to reveal the details of your personal life to anyone you don’t care to. When asked how your senior year was, coyly glance with affection at your husband (show that man off!), smile as if hiding a secret and say, “My senior year was positively divine.” People don’t need to know *which* senior year you are referring to.