Greedy Guests

by admin on June 18, 2009

A little background. The wedding was May 25, 2008 so we made our RSVP deadline the beginning of May. Unfortunately we had to track many people down for their responses. (Our reception venue required a final number and final payment a week before the wedding, May 19, 2008) One of those people was my DH’s uncle. Uncle “S” finally got back to us that he would be coming but his wife Aunt “M” would not be able to make it.

Fast forward to May 21st. We had gotten our final numbers in on time after successfully tracking down those who did not originally respond. That night I get a phone call from DH. Aunt M had called FFIL to ask if we can just order a meal for her to be sent home with her husband. Beside the fact that this was impossible as our final numbers were in, I could not believe someone would not come to a wedding but expect to be sent a free meal – a free meal that would have cost us almost $100 as the reception rate per person included a lot more than just food. Thankfully FFIL had already told her that wouldn’t be possible.

Uncle S then showed up at the rehearsal dinner uninvited. I guess they got their free meal after all… 10-15-08

{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Alexis July 6, 2009 at 2:21 pm

Rehearsal dinners are supposed to include out-of-town guests as well as close family members and the wedding party.

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Vicki July 14, 2009 at 9:06 pm

That doesn’t sound right to me. I have been to weddings where the majority of guests are from out of town – usually when the bride has moved away from her home city but wants to have the wedding there. If there are 50 out of town guests, is the groom’s family (or whoever is paying for the dinner) REALLY obligated to pay for ALL of them?

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lalala July 22, 2009 at 8:56 am

This is another one of my submissions. Alexis, generally I would agree with you. However just because someone is technically “immediate” family does not mean they are “close” family.

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Brenda October 21, 2009 at 4:03 pm

The first time I ever heard of a rehearsal dinner was about twenty years ago. They are NOT some ancient tradition. And the dinners only included the parents, the members of the wedding party, and, if possible, the officiant. It was a way to have everyone who was in the ceremony relax and get to know each other before the wedding. Expanding it to everyone in the family and out of town guests just makes it another huge burden on whoever is planning and/or paying for the wedding.

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Jay September 28, 2010 at 2:10 pm

“Rehearsal dinners are supposed to include out-of-town guests as well as close family members and the wedding party.”

Really, they’re “supposed to” include the people you invited, and not the people you didn’t.

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DrKwang November 4, 2010 at 2:06 pm

Regardless of who is “supposed” to come to a rehearsal dinner, where in the story does it say that Uncle “S” is from out of town? There’s nothing in the story that says whether he had to drive five days or five minutes to get to the wedding.

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