Honeymoon Suite Switch

by admin on June 15, 2011

I just thought I would share something that happened to my cousin’s last year during their wedding. This is going to sound farfetched but I assure you its 100% true and even today my dad still has a hard time believing it.

Now my dad’s side of the family is pretty well off (my dad is not). So they all have very lavish weddings. My cousin was marrying her husband in Sydney (we are Australian) and as my mum does not really get on well with dad’s side of the family and I was living with my grandparents quite a distance away, my father and sister attended the wedding. It was held at a very expensive function center and afterwards the wedding party  went to a posh motel in the heart of the city. Because my cousin could not get time off work for a honeymoon, the couple decided to splash out on the penthouse suite for a few nights and paid for her parents and in-law’s rooms for the night at the same motel. The rest of the honeymoon cash was put away for a house deposit. Very wise in my opinion. The wedding and reception went without a hitch; the trouble then starts.

The newlyweds get taken to their room only to discover that it is not the penthouse suite that was booked. The mix up seems obvious, the wrong Mr and Mrs. Smith were taken to the wrong rooms. It seems simply enough to fix, the porters take the luggage of the newlyweds up to the penthouse to explain the situation to in-laws….who promptly explain back that they had made the change!!!! They did not like the”pokey little room” their son had booked for them!!!! (Pokey meaning spa, egyptian cotton sheets, plasma tv’s ect). Well as you can imagine the newlyweds were floored. They thought it was a joke at first but it turns out that the in-laws were serious. They had on their bath robes and refused to vacate the room. My cousin’s hubby had gotten the staff to set the room up with rose petals and gift baskets from some guests had been sent up. Their wedding gifts had also been taken up as they would be a few days there.

Well, short of causing a scene as fellow guests were coming/going and some of the wedding party had come to find out what the problem was, cousin and hubby went back to the ‘pokey’ room and spent the night. The next morning they were informed that the room had been vacated and they could go up. Not only had the in-laws stolen their wedding night room; the petals had obviously been cleaned up, the in-laws had drank the French champagne the hubby had ordered and rifled through their gift baskets. But the WORST of it was they had OPENED the wedding gifts!!!!! The paper had been cleaned away by staff but the presents were strewn everywhere.

I know that the newlyweds did not speak to the In-laws for a VERY VERY long time. I cannot imagine how embarrassed the hubby was. Why did they do it? General conclusion is that because hubby came from a rich family and the bride a “less well off” one, they resented being given the same class of room as the “poor relations” and wanted something to show their status. Well, it showed it alright, it showed how low they are…    0517-11

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Xtina June 15, 2011 at 12:05 pm

Wow. Just….wow. You would never, ever do a thing this evil to people you DON’T know, much less your own child. There is no way that anyone in their right mind (which I’m thinking the parents must NOT be) can possibly justify actions this awful. And the proverbial icing on the cake is how they took it upon themselves to open the couple’s wedding gifts and go through their gift baskets. Were they purposely TRYING to do everything they could to be absolutely diabolical? And what reason could a person give for possibly doing that?

A note regarding hotel management—they should have intervened, family or not. Understand that the name being the same could have been confusing, or perhaps the parents lied in order to gain access to the couple’s room, but this is certainly serious enough to have security brought in to forcibly remove the parents when the wedding couple tried to go to their penthouse. Good hotel management would have certainly helped to rectify the problem, especially since it was through their error that the parents got into the room in the first place. Was the couple given a refund at the very least, OP?

Admin—I think this one deserves to take a place alongside the “Titanic wedding disaster” in the archives! It’s *that* heinous!

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Sarah Jane June 15, 2011 at 12:17 pm

I agree that based on the story, the hotel is largely at fault…nonetheless, PLEASE tell me this guy’s parents had WAY too much to drink at the wedding and aren’t normally this psychotic…

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alex June 15, 2011 at 12:29 pm

this is truly unbelievable! I am in shock that anyone (especially the in-laws!) would do something like this! I mean the room is one thing but to then drink the champagne and open the gifts!! Unreal!!

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Liza June 15, 2011 at 12:37 pm

I agree, Lia. The in-laws should not have been allowed to initiate this reprehensible switcheroo in the first place by the hotel! The in-laws were not the ones paying for anything, so they shouldn’t have been able to change rooms. Once the hotel staff realized their gaffe, they should have escorted the in-laws out of the room – it clearly was not theirs, what with other people’s gifts, champagne, etc. all in there.

I truly hope the groom did not pay for his parents’ room or champagne or any of that once it became evident that they were refusing to go back to their own room!

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Trish June 15, 2011 at 12:48 pm

why on eath did the husband not demand them to leave the room! i would have went in, gathered the in-laws “crap” set it outside the door and then politely take mom and dad by the hand and lead them out of the room and shut the door and lock it. and then not speak to them until an apology was made, in person! with a reason as to why on earth they thought this was “ok” to do!!

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boz June 15, 2011 at 1:40 pm

And the zinger is….the young couple had paid for all the rooms. I would not speak to them for a very long time either. Hopefully that young husband has learned to deal with his parents or there will be much interferance and entitlement from them in the future.

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PattyAnne June 15, 2011 at 1:43 pm

Wow. Just wow. Just goes to show money can’t buy everything…..including class.

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Library Diva June 15, 2011 at 1:57 pm

Just when you think you’ve read the worst that someone could possibly be capable of doing…

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Hemi Halliwell June 15, 2011 at 2:43 pm

I think this is the most atrocious story I have ever heard. How truly sick do you have to be to do this to your own child? Maybe I am a rude person, but I would have had security physically remove them from the room I paid for and most likely never speak to them again.
I agree with the people who say the hotel was at fault. Even if people have the same last name, surely someone knew the room was for the bride & groom, not the in-laws. Where was the hotel manager or event planner?
Geez, they will probably want to be in the room when the grandchildren are conceived.

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SHOEGAL June 15, 2011 at 2:45 pm

I think it is unusually generous of the couple to springs for the rooms of their parents – and it is just atrocious that they were taken advantage of by the people who should want the very best for them on this once in a lifetime type night. I also blame the hotel – with all of the couple’s personal belongings already there and the special arrangements that were made to prepare the room – they shouldn’t have assumed that this switch was alright – they should have checked. I can hardly believe this myself.

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Elsewhere June 15, 2011 at 3:08 pm

How does a “posh motel” in downtown Sydney have a penthouse?

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David June 15, 2011 at 3:20 pm

It’s bad enough that they stole the couple’s honeymoon night plans, but you just know that the parents didn’t bother to keep the names of the gift givers with the wedding gifts.

If my parents pulled something like this, they would never be spoken to again. I wouldn’t want to expose my family to people that would do something so vile to another human being, much less a family member.

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chechina June 15, 2011 at 3:59 pm

How unbelievably cruel.

I’m not sure what exactly happened at the hotel. It is awfully strange that the in-laws asked for the change and the front clerk just said, “Sure!” There must be more to the story.

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ABF June 15, 2011 at 4:24 pm

WOW! Boy, if that’s how they act now, imagine what every celebratory moment will be like from now on. Those people are toxic! That is so incredibly sad and sick. My advice to the newlyweds, get as far away from them as possible immediately and get some counselling to make sure that behavior chain is broken.

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Amanda Kate June 15, 2011 at 4:38 pm

Wow. I can’t even think of anything to say about these people. I’m horrified. It’s not just that they stole the room, which was incredibly rude, but it’s their wedding night anywhere, right? What makes it worse is they opened up all their presents, which they absolutely had no right to do.

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acr June 15, 2011 at 4:57 pm

People keep blaming the hotel – but I think it’s very possible they got entry to the room through some subterfuge “Oh, we need a room key so we can leave a special surprise for our son, the groom!” or borrowed the groom’s key for some reason and then moved in.

I can (kind of, sort of, vaguely) see the groom and bride being too exhausted on their wedding night to want to deal with this carp, but I’m surprised they didn’t gather-up the gifts, champagne, etc.

I wouldn’t be speaking to my new MIL and FIL either, until they grovelingly apologized and repaid me for the cost of both penthouse suite AND their original room.

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gramma dishes June 15, 2011 at 5:10 pm

Leslie Holman-Anderson ~~ I think you honestly should have explained to your sister-in-law about your ‘sevice’ and the room you were given at the hotel. Since your niece and her hubby had apparently already paid for the honeymoon suite, they should be told that that was definitely NOT the room you got! Your disappointment is not the big issue. Whoever paid for the room you were SUPPOSED to get got rolled! You know they were charged for the higher priced honeymoon suite even though that’s not what their money actually got.

Your “Uh, it was a room” comment would lead her to believe you were just an ungrateful complainer for whom nothing would be good enough unless she KNEW why your assessment of the room was less than enthusiastic. If you didn’t tell her what happened, I don’t honestly blame her for feeling a little offended.

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The Other Amber June 15, 2011 at 5:25 pm

I can actually really easily see how this could happen at the hotel, if the parents outright lied. And gauging by these parents I can believe they’d do that. Since they were the groom’s parents chances are they had the same last name, so all they had to do after seeing their room is go down to the desk and say no no I think there must be a mistake, we’re supposed to have a much nicer room because of the wedding and the hotel would find the reservation for the honeymoon couple. And if the son was a Jr then Dad would have the same name, making it really easy for Dad to claim the room. Even the same initial would likely suffice if the hotel was checking for ID.

I can’t see the hotel giving the room away to the parents without the parents outright saying that they were supposed to be in that room.

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June June 15, 2011 at 5:47 pm

I agree with the comment that the in-laws might have taken the keys for the bride and groom. Maybe they are the ones who took the gifts up there in the first place.
The gifts are really the worst part. I didn’t even THINK of the domino effect of thank you notes until I read the previous comments. That’s so horrible that some guests might think poorly of the bride and groom if they don’t receive a thank you note. Ergh.

I can only imagine: you’re exhausted from your wedding, and maybe even half-drunk. Suddenly, your parents/in laws are being jerks and not leaving YOUR suite even after you paid for their room. You just don’t want to deal with it, don’t think the gifts might be at risk, and just want to spend time together as newlyweds. Maybe this is the latest in the series of incidents from these parents.

The silver lining: some of the wedding party came to see what was going on. That way, others in the family (as evidenced by this story) know what happened and these two greedsters will get the family reputation they deserve.

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Dear! June 15, 2011 at 6:32 pm

I so dearly wanted to cry for the couple. Then I felt anger. For some reason this story just hit a nerve.

But coming from the hotel industry, let me clarify how this could easily happen.

Being that it was a wedding, and it sounds like there were a few guests staying at the same hotel, they probably booked as a group. Groups can get a bit tricky since there are so much people involved. If Mr. & Mrs. Smith A were understood to be the bride and groom of the group and Mr. & Mrs. Smith B were understood to be the parents, Mrs. Boron Smith could have lied and said that her and her husband were the wedded couple and there had been a mixup with the first names.

Think about it-
A. The hotel would not argue with her, especially if they think she had just been married- who would argue with a newlywed and tell them they are lying if you have no reason to suspect they would be.

B. They all now had the same last name and would have been listed as part of the group’s portfolio. If you have two married Smiths, one the parents and one the happy couple, chances are a front desk agent would not be able to fathom that the parents would lie in such a way and a mix up would be very feasible.

C. Without the couple saying anything, the hotel would be none the wiser. The contact on the group portfolio would be their home contact, so the couple would also not be able to be reached to confirm the mixup. And, the other poster was correct. The hotel’s only option to remove the parents, who were not supposed to be there, would have been to call security. (POOR COUPLE!)

I blame the parents completely. I would not speak to them again if I were the girl, and if I had to because, after all family is a permanent festering sore that we cannot rid ourselves of sometime, I would limit interactions to as few as possible. UGH! SO disgusted. I hope the parents find this one day and feel shame beyond shame.

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MeganAmy June 15, 2011 at 6:52 pm

So sad. And I totally believe it. It’s the kind of thing my mother would do. She’s very narcissistic and she seems so nice and honest and can sweet talk nearly anyone to get her way. She’s talked a banker teller into letting her use a bank account that she opened for me as a child which had my US social security number on it. I was in my late 20s and she was trying to use it. I had to write numerous letters to officials at the local and national level to get my social security number off the account. It would be right up her alley to sweet talk someone at a hotel and talk them into a switch like this. And I could see her open a few presents to 1) be nosy and 2) throw away anything she thought we wouldn’t need. The only things working in my favor are my father probably wouldn’t go along with it. Although, I say “probably” not for certain. She does as much as she can behind his back when she pulls stunts like this. And I definitely would have called security and at the very least would have had a bellhop bring all the gifts and champagne to my room. I feel bad for the couple. And I feel bad for the bride because I get the impression that the groom will continue to let his parents steamroll them. I hope I’m wrong.

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airlinepass06 June 15, 2011 at 7:32 pm

My story is along the same lines but karma prevails. Bride and groom get married. Bride’s uncle pays for the hotel suite as a gift. Bride’s aunt and cousins (under 18) pick up extra key so they can “see what kind of present we got Bride and Groom”. Aunt and cousins surprise Bride and Groom (and visa versa) as they have already checked in and start their “honeymoon”. Uncle finds out and has a fit. Aunt turns red and apologizes everytime she sees Bride and Groom thereafter. Family members bring up the story at future bridal showers and weddings. Hotel gives apology and free room to the couple and the boot to the night assistant manager. Bride and Groom laugh it off, forgive clueless Aunt, and make it a point to secure the door from here on out.

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Leslie Holman-Anderson June 15, 2011 at 7:55 pm

@Gramma dishes — My only excuse was that she asked me at our anniversary party and I’d been in the champagne. I did explain it to my brother the next time we talked and he said SIL was OK about it. It was her reaction that made me realize something was amiss — I’d just assumed that Bigname Hotel wasn’t all it was cracked up to be.

And actually, I hadn’t been looking forward to a nice room anyway, so it wasn’t so much a matter of being disappointed as shocked at their treatment of us and at being given a room at Bigname Hotel that was dirtier and less comfortable than rooms I’d had at the Super 8.

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gramma dishes June 15, 2011 at 10:28 pm

Okay, good. I just wouldn’t have wanted your brother and your SIL to think you were so uppity that you weren’t happy with the “luxurious” room they THOUGHT they had provided for you that they had paid for!! ;-)

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bunnyface June 15, 2011 at 10:36 pm

Trish, I’m with you- the hotel could have changed this situation, but the husband could have too. So could the wife, for that matter. Everyone chose not to.

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Jess June 15, 2011 at 11:10 pm

Hi, Im to OP. Just thought I would clear up a few things. I say ‘motel’ but here we call the Hilton a ‘motel’ so maybe I should have said Hotel? And when I say they diddnt speak for a very very long time, my family is very close (on my mums side) so a very very long time to me would be 4-5 months, which is how long it took the couple to forgive his in-laws. Somehow the Groom escaped the ‘snob’ attitude of his parents and is very happy-go-lucky. I have no idea how his parents acted before this date but even if they were ‘snobs’ I dont think he could have predicted they would go THAT far. Also for the changing of the rooms, as someone guessed the son has the same first and last name as his father. The In-laws simply went up first and asked for the key to the honeymoon suite for Mr. and Mrs. J.Smith, they were given the key, I am not sure what else was said but the staff should have checked I suppose. As far as I know non of the gifts was stolen, but the thank-you cards were impossible as all the paper had been thrown away by the cleaners. By the end of the wedding, everyone knew what had happened anyway so we certainly were not upset at the lack of thank you’s and I am sure no-one else was either given the circumstances. I think the bride and groom were upset and annoyed at the parents about the room, but I think they wanted to forget about it as quickly as possible and get on with their ‘honeymoon’ rather than call security on family with close friends witnessing it and perhaps ruin their night even further. I think the straw really broke, when they found out they had opened their presents. They still had their honeymoon night together but they could never open their presents together or send the thank you’s. One good bit of news though, something special happened that night and a few weeks ago they welcomed a very healthy little baby boy into the family….

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Mojo June 16, 2011 at 1:03 am

Just when you think you’ve heard it all….

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James June 16, 2011 at 8:17 am

Oh My God…. what a spiteful way for the parents to act. If someone I knew did something like that to me, I don’t think I would ever be able to forgive them, parents or no. My endless respect to the newlyweds for being able to put actions like this behind them!

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Enna June 17, 2011 at 6:15 am

If the in-laws had really tricked the hotel they should have physically moved the in-laws out of the room when it was discovered. This is why the hotel is to blame here as well as the in laws. Not only that but this is a sercuity issue as the hotel needs to know who is in which room in case there is a fire to avoid confusion for the emergancy services.

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Juanita Ecker June 17, 2011 at 7:24 am

This story reminds me that so many people could use a lesson in etiquette! It amazes me to realize what some people are capable of. I just do not understand why the groom did not kick his parents out? They needed to be put in their place, that is for sure.

What a great example of people’s lack of manners!

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Michelle P June 17, 2011 at 3:18 pm

As someone who has worked in the hotel industry for years, I don’t blame the hotel. Now, I worked at fairly small hotels, only one being a chain, but the hotel was not to blame. The OP has cleared up how the inlaws did it, which is what I suspected from the start. Once, a guy came up to the front desk where I worked and asked for a key, he had “lost it.” I checked his ID, which was required, he had the same last name as the guests. Oops, he was their estranged son and got into a physical fight with the dad, cops called, the whole nine yards. It was a mess. I was reprimanded, but it was understood that it was an honest mistake on my part.

You wouldn’t believe how many people complain about having to show ID to get into a room. I’m trying to protect them.

It’s easy to judge the bride and groom; we weren’t there and thankfully, I’ve never been in that situation. I probably wouldn’t want to have dealt with that at that point either.

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PrincessSimmi June 17, 2011 at 3:28 pm

To the OP- thanks for clarifying the name thing.

Congrats to your cousin and her hubby on the baby! I hope they have a long happy life together.

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Cat June 19, 2011 at 2:40 pm

I would have gone to another hotel, legally changed my name, and I would never have spoken to them again. If they would treat me like this on my wedding day and tried to ruin my wedding night, imagine what the rest of marriage will be like with these folks.

I had a brother who abused me for twenty-five years and then our parents died. He still cannot understand why I won’t let him continue to abuse me-after all, he got away with it for a quarter of a century. I bet this bunch will continue to abuse this couple. It’s a power trip for them. “We can treat you any way we want to and there is nothing you can do about it!”

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Calli Arcale June 20, 2011 at 10:50 am

WOW! There must be some flaming obnoxiousness in that family; this can’t have been the first incident, and sadly, it likely will not be the last.

People shouldn’t be blaming the groom for not kicking out his parents. Very few people can stand up to their own parents like that, especially when they’re a) young, b) exhausted, c) really looking forward to doing what people are supposed to be doing on their wedding night, and d) grew up in what was probably a very controlling environment. Incidents like this don’t just happen out of the blue; if the groom’s parents are willing to go this far to express their displeasure with his choice of bride, they clearly are accustomed to controlling his life. You don’t break out of that easily.

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Me June 21, 2011 at 12:17 pm

Where I live you have to give your passport/gov’t ID number when you book a hotel room or tickets, and they check the number on the ID when you check in. But I can see that if the reservation says “Mr & Mrs Smith” and a Mr and Mrs Smith check in, the hotel isn’t really at fault.

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Y June 21, 2011 at 1:42 pm

This reminds me of an incident I witnessed a couple years ago. A good friend of mine from high school, Julie, was getting married, and as a member of her wedding party I was helping her run errands. One of the things that we did together was registering for her china pattern. Her fiance didn’t care at all, and just approved a few general styles online, but left the final decision to Julie. She picked a lovely pattern with platinum banding on the outside rims, tiny platinum dashes around the rim just inside the banding, and a platinum fleur-de-lis on the centers of the plates and serving pieces. Very classic and tasteful.

Fast forward to the first shower, which happened to be thrown by the groom’s aunt. The guests were his female relatives, Julie’s mother and sister, and the bridesmaids and maid of honor. Julie begins to open her gifts; she opens a couple of pieces of her everyday ware (red Fiestaware) and then unwraps a dish neither of us recognizes. It was obviously pricey bone china, but it is plain white with a pearlized finish. Julie unwraps all of her gifts, and ends up with many pieces of this china and none of the pattern she chose. Being the sweet woman that she is, Julie waits until all of the guests have left. She then tentatively mentions to her future mother-in-law that she believes there’s been a mix-up at the store. She only tells her because she will be exchanging the china pieces for the corresponding pieces from her pattern and does not want her husband’s family to be surprised at the first holiday.

“Oh no,” says future mother-in-law, “it’s not a mistake. The store showed me the pattern you chose and, well dear, it was just so gaudy and trashy! I insisted that they allow me to correct your registry. I deleted all of that horrible pattern and added on this china. Isn’t it nice?”

We were all just frozen in shock. This is a small town, Julie’s future mother-in-law holds a great deal of power, and the store was a smaller, independently owned shop. Those are the only reasons I can fathom for the store allowing the witch to change Julie’s registry without her knowledge. Luckily, everything got sorted out. But the relationship between Julie and mommy dearest is still, understandably, stilted.

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Asharah June 24, 2011 at 12:37 pm

I commend Julie for having the restraint to not scream “YOU DID WHAT????? WHAT IN THE NAME OF GOD GAVE YOU THE IDEA THAT IT WAS ACCEPTABLE FOR YOU TO GO BEHIND MY BACK AND CHANGE MY BRIDAL REGISTRY??????”

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See August 7, 2011 at 4:21 am

Yeah this is why I would insist on having a honeymoon no where near my parents. Cousin got married and had her wedding night at home in her childhood bedroom across the hall from her dad’s room and down the hall from her moms. Short of a major disaster nothing could get me to spend my wedding night in the same building as my parents. There’s a running joke about my mom who likes to know where we are all the time even when we go out of town. We said she’s going to call on our honeymoons just to see what we’re ‘doing’. I said that I’ll tell I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing on our wedding night and hang up. Actually I doubt that I’ll answer the phone but that usually sends my mom into panic mode for some reason.

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Merriweather August 11, 2011 at 4:05 am

Wow, this one makes my ex-in-laws seem absolutely pillars of correctness in comparison. My story was similar to the poster (sorry, did not note the name) who’s inlaws came to their house on their wedding night and played cards. My groom (ex-husband now) and I were quite young, quite poor, and had a very small basic wedding at the base chapel, not much more really than a city hall type ceremony (though I did have a department store wedding dress bought on clearance, LOL) in my state, where he was stationed at the time as well. His parents were from two states away.

We had no money for a real honeymoon, so his parents wanted us to visit them, and have a “reception” for us a week after the wedding in his home town (really just a punch and cake get together at the church hall, for me to meet old friends & extended family), as only his immediate family could come down for the wedding. I was young, naive, and very timid, so went along with it (only input I recall having was being asked what colours I liked for decorations).

Anyway, we decided we could afford to take our time driving up to their home, staying two nights along the way, our wedding night and one further night, in order to have a mini-honeymoon before staying at his parent’s home. The day before the wedding, using the excuse that we had mentioned his car had been having a few minor problems, his parents decided they would follow along behind us on the entire route, staying whereever we did! They were very insistent about it. And I should add, it was not just his parents, but four young siblings as well. I found out then that I wasn’t quite as timid as I thought I was, and told my soon to be husband that if he didn’t put his foot down and tell them that simply wasn’t going to happen, the wedding itself wasn’t going to happen either. I even went to far as to find a different room for our wedding night (we couldn’t afford a wedding suite, so it wasn’t hard to cancel & re-book last minute) at a hotel in a town two towns from us, in the oppostie direction of the state we were headed to, threatened my groom with his life if he told them where we were going, and insisted we drive off in the direction everyone would expect, only eventually turn back onto other roads to head the opposite direction to our wedding night hotel. No way was I going to spend my wedding night with his parents in the next rom and his four young brothers and sister running up and down the hallways! I honestly don’t believe his parents ever understood why we didn’t want them following us in case of car trouble, after all, his dad was a mechanic, lol.

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