A few things to know: I am in my early twenties, I am newly married and I have a severe neurological disability. I’ve got the parking permit and the cane and, although it’s clear with a little observation that I cannot move very quickly without falling, I do not look “disabled”. I look like a normal young woman, if a little tired and pale.
So one day my husband and I went to Wal-Mart. It was a bad day for me so I was waiting on a bench by the entrance of the store. At the same time that a woman in a motorized scooter was going by me, I noticed my husband coming towards me with the groceries. I stood up shakily, almost dropped my cane and then heard the woman in the scooter ask in a very cruel tone of voice, “And what’s wrong with you?”
Startled, I looked to my left to see this woman craning her head around to scowl at me. I’m not very fast on my feet, so all I managed to do was stutter out a quiet, “Excuse me?”, that I’m not even sure she heard. She gave me the up and down, rolled her eyes and then scootered away.
My husband reached me as she was going out the exit doors and he asked me what happened. Still confused I told him, and he thought that was stupid as all heck, but my question is this, friends: Should I have explained? If I had been faster on my feet, would a brief ,”I have a neurological disorder so I use this cane to help me walk,” have been okay? Or does rudeness like that not warrant a response? 0812-11
Ehell NO! You should not explain whatsoever since it is absolutely none of the woman’s business what your health issues are. She’s a total stranger, why should you give one iota of thought as to what she thinks of you? I wouldn’t even dignify her with looking at her, that’s how far I’d go to ignore her comments. Saying, “Excuse me?,” is the limit of verbal interaction one should have although next time say it with more astonishment and indignation. Widen the eyes and arch an eyebrow for added effect.