My youngest son was born the day before Thanksgiving, 2 years ago. He was 3 weeks early; we hadn’t expected him to come just then! But nature has its way. When I went into labor, we had a friend come and stay with my oldest until my parents-in-law could come and get him, which they did the next morning. They took him to their home, which is 1.5 hours away.
My brother-in-law and sister-in-law were also at my parents-in-law’s house for the holiday. My husband and I spent Thanksgiving alone, in a hospital room, with our newborn.
The day after Thanksgiving, new mommy hormones and holiday sentimentality made me want my oldest child back so that he could meet his new brother. I called my mother-in-law and asked her to bring him, and she said that my sister-in-law flat-out refused to come to our city that day, because she had driven 4 hours from the next state for this visit, and as she was going home on Saturday, we could darn well wait for them to visit then. Apparently, they all had to visit together.
My poor mother-in-law! She was really torn between her daughters-in-law. I tried not to cry and make her feel worse. In the end, she didn’t bring my son up, and my husband and I and our new baby went home on Saturday without a single family member having visited us in the hospital. We never did get any turkey or stuffing that year!
Whenever I hear new mothers complaining about too many people visiting them in the hospital, I almost wish they knew what it felt like to have the opposite problem! 1109-11
Your sister-in-law didn’t earn any brownie points with the family with that display of selfishness.
My second child was born two days before Thanksgiving (Happy Birthday N!) and no family visited either. But the hospital served a spectacular Thanksgiving dinner I didn’t have to cook. A local church youth group had even made these cute turkey decorations for each food tray. Twenty three years from now you won’t care about missing the food or the family as you reflect back on a special day when a new little man entered your life and blessed it beyond imagination. Trust me.