This story is about what happened to my partner before he met me. They spent every Christmas at his ex-wife’s family’s house (her family was “more important” than his) and as my partner is a pretty good chef he used to make most of the food each year. He told me that that meant he was stuck in a kitchen in a house on another part of the property cooking all day, with no one coming to spend time with him as he worked. He spent most Christmases alone, cooking. That’s not very nice for him but his position in that family was especially highlighted one particular Christmas.
His ex-wife’s sister was a couple of hours late for Christmas lunch, so he spent those hours trying to keep the roast meal tasty and not letting it dry out. When she finally arrived, all the food was brought out for the family. Just as they were sitting down to eat, someone noted there was no gravy, which had been overlooked when the sister finally arrived.
Not to worry, he said, I’ll nip off and make some. He said he’d be five minutes.
When he returned with freshly made hot gravy he found the entire family was most of the way through their meals, including his ex-wife and their daughter. They had not waited for him even though he had prepared most of the food, had worked hard to keep it tasty, and had only left to prepare gravy at their request.
On the upside, he is now with someone who appreciates his cooking! He said that last Christmas was the best he’d ever had, as I kept him company while cooking and was actually appreciative of the effort he went to! 1123-11
As the main meal preparer for my large family gatherings, I am tempted to feel under appreciated and out of the loop on all the fun. So, this holiday, remember to shower some gratitude and attention on the person(s) who work so hard to feed you a lovely meal.