Battle For The Banana Bread

by admin on March 5, 2012

My husband and I an argument about whether eating from the middle of a cake is ever acceptable.

Tonight I made a banana bread. It was fresh out of the oven, still in the pan.

After dinner, I went to turn it out of the pan to serve it and found him hovering over it. Much to my surprise and shock, he had already started munching away from the middle of it. It looked like a dog had taken a big chunk out of it!

When I got upset about it, saying how uncouth it was to do this, he argued back that he didn’t use his mouth; he had used a spoon. Why was I making such a big deal out of it since it was only for us anyway! I couldn’t believe he could use such an argument to justify his poor manners. He blamed me for being so uptight about it. This is from a man who gets angry at me for using the wrong utensils.

Can you please tell me if I was making a bigger deal out of than I should have, or no matter what, he should have at least had it cut slice by slice from one of the ends like any other normal human being would have? 0303-12

I bake my banana bread in a lovely cake pan from Nordic Ware (see photo at left) which produces a very pretty loaf of nanner bread.   It comes out perfectly every time.  In fact, I’m making some banana bread today!

Some members of my family love the crust and so they choose the end pieces.  Others, like me, prefer the softer inside pieces.   I really don’t mind them *cutting* a piece from the middle or ends per their preferences.   However, not having the self control to wait until the loaf is out of the pan and  instead scooping it out with a spoon is rather tacky, not to mention making it harder to get the loaf out.   Your husband should have asked you if the banana bread is ready to come out of the pan – “Honey?  Can this banana bread come out of the pan now?   I’m dying to have some…it smells soooooo good.”    And if it was, your end of the deal is to not get uptight over what part of it he eats.

Of course, all bets are off if the bread is intended for a dinner where guests would see it before it was served.  A missing section having the appearance of having been chomped on isn’t very polite or appetizing.

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Just Laura March 5, 2012 at 9:45 am

That’s it, I’m surfing over to Nordic Ware now.

I agree with the OP – why eat out of the middle? What if a friend drops by? I’d hate to offer something that I know is good and sanitary, but it looks like my cat found it first.

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admin March 5, 2012 at 10:04 am

Just Laura….Nordic Ware Banana Bread pan is the.best.ever.

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Jay March 5, 2012 at 9:53 am

Someone making bread just for themselves can do whatever they want with it. Someone sharing bread with someone else should make a bit of an effort to be couth about it.

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Harley Granny March 5, 2012 at 9:54 am

Seriously? You got upset over this?
Oh my goodness.
If it were from guests I could understand but good grief is was just for the two of you.

Please find something real to get upset over.

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Angela March 5, 2012 at 9:55 am

Annoying, sure, but if this is the worst thing he ever does, consider yourself lucky. The getting mad about using the wrong utensils is more of a red flag to me.

I love the pan.

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Jojo March 5, 2012 at 10:00 am

Eww. OP and Admin are in the right here, particularly when OP’s husband is rather hypocritically defending his greedy behaviour while criticizing OP for her uncouth utensil usage. Personally, I make most of my cakes in mini muffin tins ( in the case of banana bread it’s one large tin and a small muffin one for any left over batter) because I know the extent of damage that can occur to unattended cake – particularly when my fiance and brother are around. They are informed of the cakes they can eat and know NEVER to touch the main cake unless I state otherwise. It also means I can give away the smaller cakes to friends and family or just have a smaller, calorie controlled portion myself. They’re particularly handy for cheering up co-workers and bribing bosses ;-) My grandparents, who really don’t like large portions of anything love my mini-christmas cakes made this way ( saves hours of oven baking time too).

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Huh March 5, 2012 at 10:02 am

I just don’t understand why he was taking a spoon to the middle. Why couldn’t he have taken it out of the pan and cut himself a slice from the end, middle, wherever he wanted it? Who just starts eating from the middle of something that is intended for more than one person?

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Carrie March 5, 2012 at 10:04 am

Gross! I agree, your husband needs to learn some manners. What if that bread hadn’t been intended for him? You can’t serve it to guests or give it to a friend with a hunk missing out of the middle. You can bet I would have made him make another one! I make a gluten free banana bread that I cut into pieces and freeze to eat for breakfast in the morning. I would have been so mad if someone had eaten a banana bread special to my diet, that I had intended for myself and was supposed to last me.

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Wink-n-Smile March 5, 2012 at 10:05 am

If he took ONE bite, with a spoon, then the middle would still be sanitary. However, if he double-dipped with that spoon, he’s spreading his germs to the cake. You, who kiss him every day, might not have issue with that, but you certainly shouldn’t serve it to anyone who drops by.

As for the location of his piece, end or middle, that doesn’t matter so much, as long as it has been sliced.

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Cupcake March 5, 2012 at 10:14 am

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with eating from the middle, but only if you cut a slice out! I’m surprised an adult would start scooping away at a cake instead of just taking it out of the pan and slicing it. I’m known for being greedy and always wanting to eat something before it’s ready, but it wouldn’t even occur to me to take a spoon to the middle of the cake. But when all’s said and done this husband sounds much nicer than most of the people written about on this site :)

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Kendra March 5, 2012 at 10:41 am

Not on topic, but wanted to say that we have a beautiful loaf pan, not sure if it is nordic ware, that we got from Williams-Sonoma. Might be worth a look if you have a Williams-Sonoma close to you and you don’t want to wait for the pan in the mail. They have awsome baking dishes for just about anything.

On topic, I think the OP might have made a bit of a mountain out of a molehill, on the other hand, I can completely understand her annoyance. I would be really annoyed, even if it was just the two of us, that the husband couldn’t control himself enough to at least cut a piece himself. To me, that would be the same as drinking out of the milk carton. I’m sure she wanted a nice dessert to present after dinner, even if it was just the two of them. I think he owes the OP an apology.

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Erin March 5, 2012 at 10:41 am

@Harley Granny, I think that if someone takes the time and effort to make something nice, and someone else, even her husband, comes along and ruins it, that person has the right to be upset.

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AMC March 5, 2012 at 10:44 am

I agree with OP. I would have been upset too if my husband had done this. How childrish! I don’t bake often, but when I do, I put a lot of effort into it. for someone to come along and dig an ugly chunk out of my creation is very inconsiderate. I think it’s akin to eating all the toppings off a pizza and leaving the bread behind. The least he could have done was ask first and cut a slice out instead of scooping into with a spoon. Who does that?? If he insists on continuing this behavior, perhaps he should do his own baking from now on.

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Gracie C. March 5, 2012 at 11:07 am

That pan is adorable! I don’t like banana bread, but that pan makes me want some. :-)

I agree with those saying that if this is the worst he does, then it’s not the end of the world, BUT, this site isn’t about whether something is the end of the world or not, it’s about whether it’s bad etiquette or not, and I think that it is extremely poor manners. And I have to say, it would annoy the crap out of me, too. I like things to look nice and presentable. And unless they are planning to eat the entire banana bread in one sitting, it’s possible someone will drop by at some point and the OP may want to offer a slice. I’d be hestitant to offer a slice if my husband had scooped a giant portion of it away with a spoon.

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Bint March 5, 2012 at 11:08 am

“Seriously? You got upset over this?”

I wouldn’t be impressed if anyone dug out a cake *I’d* made from the middle with a spoon. What is he, five years old? Does he lick his plate as well? And he gets upset when she doesn’t use the right utensils. Hypocrisy upsets people too.

“Please find something real to get upset over”

Please stop making interesting assumptions. The OP submitted an etiquette faux pas – which this totally is. She didn’t pretend she was traumatised or thought it was the Worst Thing Ever. Submitting a story on the internet doesn’t mean she has nothing else upsetting her in her life and we all know that.

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Lucy March 5, 2012 at 11:11 am

While I agree that this is a minor issue . . . the fact that it’s a minor issue means that it’s also not an imposition to ask him to behave like a civilized adult. Remove the loaf from the pan and cut a slice, you greedy slob!

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Beth Erickson March 5, 2012 at 11:14 am

I am a chef/caterer and if someone did that to me, I’d take it as a high compliment.

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Ashley 2 March 5, 2012 at 11:17 am

Oh wow o.o I want that pan so bad right now.

I think the OP was overreacting a little since it was just for the two of them in my opinion. He could have cut it from the ends like a normal person, but hey…maybe he’s just not normal xD

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Gee March 5, 2012 at 11:18 am

I prefer the middle pieces, hubby prefers the end pieces. So I cut off the end piece, leave it on the tray for him, then cut off the next slice for me. Simple.

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Kirsten March 5, 2012 at 11:24 am

Remember that episode of the Cosby Show where Mr Huxtable eats the middle out of a cake Mrs Huxtable has baked, then fills the gap with kitchen paper and spreads the icing over it?

I don’t think the husband’s behaviour was great, but I don’t think it’s worth an argument. If presentation is important, slice out the scooped-out middle bit and stick the two pieces together and ice over it.

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Goldie March 5, 2012 at 11:27 am

Agree with Wink-N-Smile – if he double-dipped, it’s gross, even if it’s just for the two of them. Otherwise, anything goes.

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The Elf March 5, 2012 at 11:35 am

I agree with Admin – if he had just sliced his part off then it wouldn’t have mattered. I love the end peices, and Mr. Elf likes the middle, so when we bake bread it looks funny with both end peices and part of the middle gone! But it’s only just us, so it doesn’t matter. Company is another matter altogether.

I do the mini-pan thing. If I want to bake something and I am not reserving it for company, I break it into as small portions as possible so that I can have my treat and freeze/give away the rest. A mini-loaf of banana bread will satisfy my craving today without being a temptation all week long. Another benefit to the mini-pan is more crust!

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Sarah Jane March 5, 2012 at 11:43 am

This raises an interesting question. Aren’t spouses allowed to make their own rules of “etiquette” when only between themselves? Of course, I’m not talking about basic consideration for each other’s feelings or certain offenses each person is able or unable to tolerate. But do the same expectations we have for social situations have to apply to our spouses in our own private interactions?

I’m thinking of my husband, who flosses his teeth with me standing right there in the bathroom, not the only thing he does in front of me that he wouldn’t dream of doing in front of anyone else. If I’m not downright repulsed by it, then it’s okay, because I’m his wife…right?

Are you downright repulsed by what your husband did? Otherwise, I’m not sure it’s a question of etiquette between a husband and wife?

Speaking of things I wouldn’t do in front of others…I’m salivating over that Nordic Ware pan.

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Oh Joy March 5, 2012 at 11:44 am

I would have expected him to separate a clean slice to eat however he chose (if he was sure this wasn’t baked for a gift or guests). We do have a rule about bread in our house: cut ends must be covered so they don’t dry out. So, if a slice is cut off the end, flip the remaining loaf so the cut end is facing flat down on the board. If you cut a slice out of the middle, push the end pieces together.

But, this is one of those things that if it’s the biggest problem in your marriage, life is good! :-)

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Ashley March 5, 2012 at 11:54 am

I’d be annoyed simply because if anyone came over and they saw I had baked, I’d feel awful if all I had to offer them was something that looked like it got attacked by a crazed flock of birds. Especially since my family doesn’t really make banana bread, we turn it into a cake and frost it with chocolate frosting, and it’s kind of hard to frost a cake with a big random chunk missing out of the middle.

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SciFiLeslie March 5, 2012 at 11:55 am

I am amused by the number of replies referencing people dropping by, presumably(?) without calling ahead first, which could be rude in and of itself.

The OP could have sliced around the missing chunk and arranged pre-cut slices in a platter (although she does not mention that there is any company. I do feel that the husband was wrong to have dug in and for him to get upset over a utensil seems wrong; however, we do not have enough information to know if the utensil in question is more of eating dessert with a salad fork or trying to serve peas with a knife.

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Wim March 5, 2012 at 12:08 pm

Slightly off-topic (although I could argue that I “need” the information in order to accurately assess the level of distress caused by the OP’s husband’s actions ;-)), but could someone please provide me with a good (and possibly fool-proof, as I have only very limited baking experience) recipe for banana bread? It sounds and looks delicious, but I’ve never heard of it or seen it in Belgium.

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Meghan March 5, 2012 at 12:22 pm

I actually have a loaf of banana bread sitting on my counter right now (and there are no spoon gouges in it, thankyouverymuch). I would be seriously annoyed if my BF attacked the loaf with a spoon, and totally agree with whomever said it’s like eating the toppings off the pizza and leaving the bread. It really ruins the entire area around the spoon marks for everyone, including the OP, who made the bread! Who is going to eat the piece that has spoon marks in it? I also prefer the middle to the ends, (though the BF does like the end) and have been known to cut off the end slice and take the next slice for myself. But I would never attack the middle of the loaf (still in the pan!!!) with a spoon. It’s gross.

And while I only intended the loaf I baked to be for me and the BF, I was very glad to have the bread this weekend as my brother stopped by and I was able to offer some to him. Just because you don’t intend to serve something to others, doesn’t mean other people won’t eventually eat it. Frankly, while husbands poor manners in relation to the bread are annoying, his response to her totally legitimate gripe is concerning. She baked it, and asked him not to mangle the entire loaf by digging in with a spoon. Instead of agreeing to a totally reasonable request, he got defensive and accusatory. That, and the picking on her about her utensil choice, does not speak highly to his character.

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Lilya March 5, 2012 at 12:39 pm

Nope, I’m with OP: husband was just being lazy.
I have a huge sweet tooth and I also prefer the center of the cake to the sides, but I wouldn’t dream of doing something like this, even if I baked just for BF and me. If you have a cake, you cut a slice and eat it, all of it – sides included.

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LovleAnjel March 5, 2012 at 12:40 pm

Eating from the middle is no worse than squeezing your toothpaste from the middle. Annoying to some, not a big deal to others.

What is a big deal is that he didn’t even wait for the bread to cool enough to be removed from the pan! And he ate it with a spoon like it was jello. That’s weird, and makes it a real PITA to get the bread out and sliced for the rest of humanity to enjoy.

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--Lia March 5, 2012 at 12:45 pm

This is your husband, and you’re asking US how to deal with him? You know him better than we do. If you need help from anyone, ask his mother.

There is no one set of rules that work for marriage. In the outside world, there are etiquette rules that cover most situations. In a marriage, it’s up to the two of you to negotiate. Me, I don’t mind family members eating out of a communal bowl or pan, but my husband does, and he won on that one. It wasn’t that important to me. You might suggest cutting a piece from the center as a compromise. We’ve argued and worked it out on other subjects. The bottom line is that it doesn’t matter what we think. It matters what the two of you come up with. After all, do you really think he’d change his ways if you showed him that a bunch of strangers said he should? Would you be willing to concede on a something important to you if he told you a bunch of his buddies said you should?

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Amanda H. March 5, 2012 at 12:51 pm

I think Admin’s spot on here. The husband should not have dug at the bread with a spoon while it was still in the pan, but if he slices it first then it doesn’t matter if he goes for an end piece or a middle. And to get defensive over the spoon-digging and yet harass his wife for “using the wrong utensils” for things? Hypocrisy and childishness by the sound of it.

OP, what Admin said about whether to take an edge piece or a middle piece (whether it’s cakes or breads) is right. In our household, when Hubby bakes a loaf of bread, we usually start at the middle and use the end pieces to help preserve freshness, so they end up being the last parts we eat. But other people like the end pieces and go for them first. So long as the bread is properly sliced first, what does it matter? It’s similar with cake. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a middle piece instead of the edge piece. The cake should just be cut properly first, and if there are multiple people getting pieces, anyone who wants and edge should probably be served first to make that middle piece easier to get to.

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Ann March 5, 2012 at 2:01 pm

Since it was “only the two of them” he should have been in no doubt whatsoever as to who to ask if it was okay to sample the banana bread. After properly turning it out, of course.

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Aje March 5, 2012 at 2:23 pm

I don´t have a husband, but I do have a brother, and while snitches of a crumb from the edge of a cake is not uncommon, he´d have gotten it from our folks if he´d ever had the nerve to do that!

I hope it´s not too harsh to say, but to put it plainly, only rats eat big holes out of the middle of cakes or pies. Human beings, on the other hand, will cut a piece neatly. He could have taken it out and cut himself a piece from the middle if that was his intention.

BTW, I agree that this is sort of a minor fight, but a lot of spats in families are. We have a joke in our family that our fights always revolve around potatoes. XD

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German Shepherd March 5, 2012 at 2:24 pm

Best title ever!

Eating from the middle is fine as long as the bread is sliced and ready. Hubby should’ve waited or at least asked you if the banana bread was ready. On the plus side of all this, you know you make very good banana bread if people are that impatient to eat it :D

“This is from a man who gets angry at me for using the wrong utensils.”

And he used a spoon to get his piece of banana bread? ;)

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Miss Raven March 5, 2012 at 2:31 pm

My thoughts are that this isn’t a huge deal, but something about it does certainly make me uncomfortable. My own darling BF certainly has some etiquette issues of his own (don’t we all?) but I can’t imagine him doing something like this and I’ll tell you why I think it is:

You made the banana bread with your hands, and your time, and your effort. Because you like baking and having nice things for the two of you to eat. Without even letting you know, he went and grabbed a chunk for himself, making the bread harder to slice in the future and harder to get out of the pan and uglier.

When I bake, BF normally waits until I serve up some of whatever it is for the two of us (and I like warm baked goods, so I don’t wait long!) I can see him stealing a cookie off the tray, but not taking a spoon to a quickbread.

I think what makes me uncomfortable, and what made you uncomfortable, is him so callously taking advantage of your efforts. It’s maybe not an etiquette blunder since the bread was just for the two of you in your own home, but it’s definitely a hiccup in how the two of you interact.

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Stacey Frith-Smith March 5, 2012 at 2:44 pm

No one should be cutting into food that just came out of the oven and isn’t “cleared” to be served yet. It interferes with the cooking process in that she might have wanted a moment to enjoy the appearance of the whole loaf, might have wanted to plate it, might even have wanted a “thank you, that smells delicious” before he got into the process of enjoying it. Now, if he has issues with which utensils are used and under what circumstances, we know he isn’t a “casual” kind of guy. Food offered even to family is a gift of time and love, and one that should be appreciated and savored. If you can’t make it to the table with a couple of plates and a cup of tea before digging in, at least give the cook time to remove the cake from the pan before disemboweling it. Has anyone else had cheesecakes and other desserts cut into before the glaze was even ready? It is not a pleasant prospect for the cook. And it really isn’t as pleasant for the diners either, since we “eat with our eyes before eating with our mouths”. Of course, I suppose that’s the point here. Her spouse was delighted with the results. In that case, a bit of heartfelt praise and “chef love” would probably have won him instant forgiveness and maybe even a giggle. Insisting that it’s normal behavior didn’t charm the cook.

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Cat March 5, 2012 at 2:54 pm

This is akin to those people who look over your box of chocolates, pick out the one they want, take one bite, replace it in the box, take another one, take one bite, put it back in its wrapper in the box-and see nothing wrong with it. That’s fine-if you have been raised by wolves and your name is Mowgli.

At least he didn’t do what my older brother liked to do-wait until the layers of a cake I was making began to rise, and then repeatedly slam the oven door to make them fall so he could tell my parents that I messed up the cake.He was in his twenties.

The first rule of living together, regardless of the relationship, is to respect the other person and their work. Your husband failed in that he thought only of himself and what he wanted. If this is his only failing, fine. If this is only the tip of the iceberg of how he treats you, I’d think seriously how to make the necessary changes in your relationship.

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Jenny March 5, 2012 at 3:27 pm

How about a simple rule – the person who makes the food gets to decide how it gets eaten.

For instance, If I make a cake just for us, but I want to decorate it, you have no right to say “I want it now!” and insist I not decorate it. Instead of appreciating your efforts, the husband was self-centered and impatient. That was what was so rude.

To be honest, I can’t imagine eating banana bread with the spoon. This sounds like something a 5 year old would do, not a grown up.

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Jenny March 5, 2012 at 3:32 pm

(Not to mention, as other people pointed out – messing with something like that before it’s out of the pan can wreck it. It might stick and not come out, or come out in chunks).

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Enna March 5, 2012 at 3:33 pm

I think Husband should check that the cake isn’t for something special and if he must have the middle bit at least he should cut it in a way that it can be easily made right again afterwards. Yes this is a minor inccident but Harley Granny if it was going to be your birthday cake or if you had baked it for something a bit more special I think you would be quite rightly annoyed at it. What I don’t like is the way that husband will telll OP off for the way she uses utensails. I think OP you need to have a chat.

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sv March 5, 2012 at 4:25 pm

If you made it, it’s yours to serve. If he made it, it’s his to serve. If he can’t wait to eat it he should have at least let you know he wanted some, and to dessimate the loaf from eating out of the middle would have sent me through the roof. Obviously, when people in a family bake it is for everyone – but if I made it, I would have been seriously upset to go in the kitchen and see my banana bread, still in the pan, with the middle missing. It just feels…disrespectful of your effort.

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Crystal March 5, 2012 at 5:04 pm

@ Wim:
Banana Bread
Ingredients
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
¼ teaspoon salt
½ cup butter
¾ cup brown sugar
2 large eggs, beaten
2 1?3; cups mashed very overripe bananas
Directions
Preheat oven to 350°.
Lightly grease 9 x 5 loaf pan.
In large bowl, combine flour, soda and salt.
In separate bowl, cream together butter and brown sugar.
Stir in eggs and mashed bananas until well blended.
Stir banana mixture into flour mixture; stir just to moisten.
Pour batter into prepared loaf pan.
Bake in preheated oven for 60-65 minutes until a toothpick inserted into center of loaf comes out clean.
Let bread cool in pan for 10 minutes, then turn out onto a wire rack.

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MellowedOne March 5, 2012 at 6:03 pm

I really don’t see what the big deal is. OP baked a pan of banana bread for herself and hubby only. So he scoops out of the middle without waiting for it to be formally sliced? He did wait until after dinner, and he did use “a” utensil to remove it.

Married life can be tough enough without stressing over the small things.

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Katrina March 5, 2012 at 6:14 pm

Wim- just search for it online! It’s simple and yummy. Kids love helping smash the bananas, the older the bananas, the easier to smash. You can peel older bananas and freeze them to thaw when you are ready to bake.

To take a scoop out of the center is just rude! I would feel he did not respect the work or time that was put into the bread, this sounds much like a gimmie pig!

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Cat Whisperer March 5, 2012 at 6:36 pm

He took a spoon to take a chunk out of the middle. Oh, the humanity! *LOL*

Transgressions I have personally witnessed within my own family:

My grandpa used to swig milk directly out of the bottle from the refrigerator, rather than pouring it into a glass. He defended his action by saying it saved grandma the trouble of having to wash up the glass. (This was in the days before dishwashers were commonplace.) Much to her chagrin, he taught all 9 of his grandchildren to do the same thing.

When my mom made pudding for the family, we kids would “sneak” tastes of it right out of the bowl in the refrigerator. Sometimes we used spoons, sometimes we used fingers. (I was cured of this when I took a fingerful of what I thought was vanilla pudding but was actually pancake batter. Yuck!)

Everyone in my family, from my grandparents on down, has at one time or another been caught shooting aerosol whipped cream directly into their mouth.

One of my brothers would eat the frosting off of any cake my mom baked or brought home. He liked frosting and didn’t care so much for the cake. He did manage to restrain himself until everyone had been served at least once slice of cake with frosting. After that, there was no holding him back.

These are just the most striking cases of barbaric behavior I’m willing to own to on behalf of my family. There are others, but I won’t go there, except to mention that for a while, one of my siblings used to store wads of chewed bubble gum in the freezer to re-chew them at a later date. It made the pennies spent on bubblegum go farther.

The point is, most people have two sets of food manners: “family manners” and “Other people are watching manners.”

That said, there’s another aspect of etiquette and good manners that should be taken into account. That is, it is never good mannesr, nor is it courteous or respectful, to intentionally distress people you profess to love.

This is, however, a two-way street. Is it discourteous of OP’s husband to take chunks out of the middle of the banana bread, knowing that this distresses her? Perhaps. Is it discourteous of OP to insist on “company manners” in private and get after her husband in a public internet forum over what is really a very minor issue? Perhaps.

Are there other issues that are involved here that go deeper than how banana bread is eaten by family members in the privacy of their own home when nobody but family members are present? Perhaps.

Whatever the answers are, this is a situation that ought to be readily resolvable through compromise and conversation. My own solution would be either two smaller loaves of banana bread, his and hers, to be eaten as they please, or banana muffins for individual consumption.

If all the banana bread gets eaten, then it’s all good (literally) and how it gets eaten when nobody outside the family is watching is not a big deal, IMO, as long as rules for food safety are followed. When I bake banana bread, my husband and daughter are circling like hungry sharks by the time it comes out of the oven, and we all dive in and cut off chunks and eat it however we want. Banana bread intended for guest consumption or for gifts is treated with more respect; we wrap it in plastic as soon as it’s cool enough.

As far as how it’s consumed, frankly, as long as it doesn’t involve a mess I am expected to clean up, I really don’t care as long as I get my fair share to eat. JMO.

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SS March 5, 2012 at 7:10 pm

I just asked MY hubby if he would consider this to be rude. Note that my husband is notorious for being oblivious to the fine points of social etiquette. Even his reaction was “Of course that is rude!” He said that even he knew that if he really wanted the middle he should first ask the person that did all the work to make it, and then cut a clean piece out of the middle.

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Mabel March 5, 2012 at 8:29 pm

Aaaahhh! I love that pan!

I made banana oatmeal cookies today. GREAT for breakfast. Also, OP should relax a little. She’s lucky to have a husband. I do not, so I have to eat my cookies alone. :P

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badkitty March 5, 2012 at 9:06 pm

The issue isn’t that he took from the middle of the cake, it’s that he went at it with a spoon like a toddler who believes they won’t get caught. A little disturbing, but in my mind it’s not NEARLY as big a deal as the fact that he got all huffy with her and called her “uptight” when he gets after her for the very same thing: using an inappropriate utensil for the job.

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Anonymous March 5, 2012 at 9:28 pm

I don’t even like banana bread, but count me on the OP’s side. Since the OP used such a pretty pan, I have to assume that this was a bit more “special” than regular banana bread made in an ordinary pan. Even if it wasn’t, the OP made this, and her husband effectively destroyed it, by just scooping a chunk out of the middle. Maybe the OP made it for them to enjoy together, or maybe she made it for company, or for a bake sale or something–but, her husband didn’t ask, he just dove in and made a mess of it. I kind of agree with the muffin tin idea, but I don’t think the OP should have to go to that length to protect something from being ruined by a mentally competent adult who supposedly loves and cares about her. I think the husband should have to make another banana bread to make it up to the OP.

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sweetonsno March 6, 2012 at 1:36 am

I think the OP’s anger is legitimate, not so much because her husband was completely and totally lacking in table manners, but because he completely and totally disregarded his wife.

Did anyone else think about that episode of The Simpson’s where Marge makes an extra cake for Homer “to destroy”? I certainly did. That’s what this reminded me of. The OP’s hubby wasn’t thinking about anyone but himself when he started eating the middle directly out of the pan. He didn’t consider the work that his wife had put into making the banana bread. He didn’t consider the possibility that someone else (such as his wife) might want to have a slice (maybe even a middle slice). He didn’t think that perhaps she would have liked to enjoy it as a dessert with him. He just went for it.

My inner baker also suspects that taking a big chunk out of the middle of the loaf means that it’s going to dry out a lot faster.

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