I invited my sister to my son’s birthday party at a restaurant. She said she could not make the date and proceeded to ask me to change the time and location of the party so that she could attend. I said no, that I would not change the time and place but that she could come by on a later date and give my son his gift. I ended up canceling the party at the restaurant related to all crap that was started when she wanted the party her way. So, the day the party was supposed to be help, right around the time it was supposed to be held, my sister calls me (and my son) and asks us if we would like to go to dinner for my son’s birthday. That’s exactly what I had planned, and she effectively ruined my son’s party. Is this tacky or what? Or is it just me? 0318-12
Your sister is flakey and unfortunately, you are her facilitator by empowering the flakiness. The way to deal with flakey people is to make your plans after suitable input and hold firm to them. It’s as if you have to be the firm framework upon which she lean on and cannot push against. If she cannot come, she cannot come. Oh, well. Too bad…maybe another time. When you host family events, there comes a time when you have to realize that you cannot accommodate everyone and must therefore learn to be content with the guests that do show up. Otherwise you will go crackerdog (anyone care to guess what literary reference that word comes from?) trying to please everyone.