This past weekend my wonderful husband threw me a surprise birthday party for my 50th birthday. Not to be bragging but this is no easy feat. I’m either very astute or very nosey depending on who you talk to. I’ve always been able to take the smallest bit of information and figure things out.
DH went to the extremes! As he knew we would be together the entire day of the party, he enlisted the help of his sisters, (he has three) my younger brother and two of my best friends. They did a wonderful job setting things up and decorating. He even went so far as to talk my sister into coming all the way from her home state which is a plane ride, not a long drive, away. He pulled it off! I had no idea until we almost got to the house!
It was great and wonderful to see all my friends and family there and I was so excited to see my sister as she and I are very close!
I barely got settled in and the comments started.
His brother’s comment, “She’s lying, she knew all along.” #1) He was wrong #2) Why would he want to take this joy away from my DH? (He was not kidding either and even if he was, the joke wasn’t funny.)
One of my SIL’s (my brother’s wife) comments, ”You wouldn’t believe what I had to give up to make it here I have so much work waiting for me at home!” (Sorry you were inconvenienced?) And, “Where is the food, what’s to eat and what time can we begin?” (To ME! The one who had nothing to do with it!)
One of DH’s friends…(yet again to ME..see above)…”I can’t believe it’s BYOB, you should have had more choices to drink”. This guy knows we gave up trying to provide drinks for everyone years before because by the time you try to get everyone’s favorite you’re broke….but still…he knew I wasn’t in charge of anything. He was also insulted about the last minute invitation.
And the kicker…the youngest of the SIL’s….I made a point of talking to everyone, thanking them for coming and truly meaning it. I got to her, I said, thanks so much for coming. Her response was,”Like I had a choice.”
I didn’t let these downers ruin my fun as I had so many others there to enjoy my party with and the extra days with my sister was a bonus.
If there is any point to this story it’s to please watch what you say to the guest of honor at a party, whether it be a surprise party of not. You might THINK its being said in a light- hearted manner but the guest of honor should never feel like they are a bother or a bad host to anyone. 0328-12
Some of what was said was stupid blather from people not thinking how their words will be received. What the youngest SIL said was just plain unkind but also attributable to being young and therefore often stupid. Focus on the happy, gracious people, be gracious and kind to the blathery ones and relish the fact that your husband expended so much effort to make you happy.