Once again, my neighbor has phoned me to cancel the plans we made for today. I asked her if she would like to go to an upscale thrift shop and we made plans for lunch as well. Now she has decided that she would rather do housework instead.
Another time I had a coupon for a buy one/get one free ice cream cone. She said she’d go the next weekend. The weekend came and she said she had to put it off until the next weekend. The next weekend came and she wanted to put it off for another weekend. For a forty minute visit, having to wait a month to use a coupon was too much for me and I told her to forget it.
She is oblivious to the fact that, every time she decides to cancel out on me, she makes me reshuffle my schedule. I can understand having to cancel due to illness or an emergency but housework? Laundry? If I don’t want to do something, I decline gracefully when I am invited. I don’t give my word that I’ll do something and then change it at the last minute.
Now I am giving up. I won’t ask her to do anything with me again. 0412-12
You have tossed your neighbor some friendship “balls” and she’s dropping them unreturned. I suggest ceasing with your efforts to build a better relationship with her and wait to see if she decides to toss a ball or two to you. If she doesn’t, oh, well. You will then know that she wasn’t interested in anything other than superficial, neighborly contact. Move on to the next neighbor.