I keep in touch with a college friend through Facebook, but we haven’t seen each other in years, and haven’t even talked online in a few years either.
Through her Facebook statuses, events, etc, I have learned that she is involved with a charity and has a goal to raise a certain amount of money for the charity by a certain date. I have received invites and messages asking for donations that she has sent to several of her friends at once.
I do not choose to use my money for this particular charity right now, so I haven’t donated. I have nothing against this charity, but I support other charities and am particular about my budget. I also don’t think I need to justify how I spend my money, regardless.
Just yesterday, I received a message from her to me personally asking for a donation. This is the second I’ve gotten that is just to me personally. I imagine that she is copy-pasting a message to one person at a time, but it still makes me feel a bit singled out.
Is there anything etiquette-wise that suggests you shouldn’t repeatedly single someone out for donations? Obviously, it is not on her behalf, it’s for a worthwhile charity.
Is there a faux pas on my head for not responding at all? 0605-12
It appears you have become less a friend and more of a potential donor who receives repeated mailings soliciting donations. The relationship has transitioned from friendship to a business transaction. An adult daughter of a friend of mine sends me a solicitation for a donation every six months, like clockwork, to support her favorite charity while never once having a civil discussion with me. I toss the letters in the mail without a speck of remorse. I’m just not in the mood to fund people whose only connection to me is based on how much money they can extract from me.