A Political Registry

by admin on June 27, 2012

At Ehell we’re not afraid to confront etiquette faux pas committed in the name of politics but it’s not a topic that usually appears here.   But I received so many submissions for the following “story” that ignoring it did not seem to be an option.   So, for your consideration, I give you the…..


Obama Re Election Event Registry

Got a birthday, anniversary, or wedding coming up?

Let your friends know how important this election is to you—register with Obama 2012, and ask for a donation in lieu of a gift. It’s a great way to support the President on your big day. Plus, it’s a gift that we can all appreciate—and goes a lot further than a gravy bowl.

Hmmm…not since Newt Gingrich’s extravagant (and greedy) registry for his third wedding went online viral have I seen a more tackier use of a registry by a politician.   Veteran Ehellions recognize every wrong thing about this….1) Weddings are not fundraisers regardless if it benefits the happy couple or some political campaign or cause.  2) Registries exist to suggest gift ideas to inquiring guests.  There is no “asking”, aka “directing”, guests for specific gifts as if one expected to receive the very things one has registered for.

The worst, imo, is the politicization of a private celebration such as a wedding which should be a solemn occasion free of any entanglements to a particular political party or cause.   I prefer to not be placed in the awkward situation where my acceptance of the invitation is a tacit endorsement of a candidate.

{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

LilyG June 28, 2012 at 10:21 am

As an ardent, lifelong raving Democrat, I say…ugh.


E June 28, 2012 at 12:31 pm

Pye – thanks, clears it up!


Monica June 29, 2012 at 1:48 am

Actually, President Obama (or cheeky staffer thereof), I can’t serve gravy from a tacky donation grab. It slides off the paper and gets everywhere.

I would be seriously tempted to include in the congratulations card a record of donation to Romney. Obviously that’d be just as tacky, especially considering I support neither candidate. More realistically I think I’d send a gravy bowl.


clairedelune July 2, 2012 at 3:49 am

Admin, I’m with you until the last sentence–this is an (awkward, gauche) gift request, not an announcement of a theme wedding. You certainly needn’t comply with the request, so I don’t see how acceptance of the invitation itself could be construed as “tacit endorsement of a candidate” any more than accepting a different invitation and sending a nice set of towels constitutes “tacit endorsement” of the couple’s china pattern.


Angel July 3, 2012 at 7:13 pm

This just makes me angry. It’s bad enough when people think, just because they are getting married theycan tell people which charities to support, but to tell them now, that their gift will be going to politician’s re-election is simply disgraceful. I don’t care what politician it is or what party, it’s downright disgusting.

I would be tempted to get them a silver platter engraved with their names and the wedding date so they cannot return it!


Enna July 5, 2012 at 10:26 am

Is this a joke?


nk July 7, 2012 at 12:43 pm

If you turn your wedding into a fundraiser for a political party instead of a celebration of the beginning of your marriage, expect at least some of your friends and relatives whose political beliefs differ from yours to decline the invitation. This is not only the tackiest thing I’ve seen in awhile; it’s also a great way to alienate people instead of bringing them together for your special day.


JGM1764 July 9, 2012 at 12:41 pm

@ CaffeineKatie-
I think I’d say more like tacky with a capital ACK! 😉


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