Hi EH, I have a question for your readers (but first the back-story):
This weekend, as a favor for letting us crash at her place for the night, my boyfriend and I helped my friend move the last load of clothing and trinkets from her old apartment to her new apartment. She drives a scooter, so we were happy to be able to help by doing it all in one trip with our car. In the commotion of putting stuff in the car and getting our own overnight items packed back in the car as well, my friend’s large (brand new) camping backpack stuffed with clothes was inadvertently left on the side of the road, missed by all three of us. She realized a day later that it was missing, only to return to find it gone–not in the apartment, not with the neighbors and definitely no longer outside by the tree it had been propped up on. Someone out there now has a fantastic new hiker’s backpack and lots of women’s clothing.
I feel terrible about the situation and feel like I should contribute money to help make up for the loss of half of my friend’s clothing–after all, we all should have been on the lookout. My boyfriend says we are not at fault and doesn’t agree that we owe anything (that said, he is acquiescing to my request and we are donating equal amounts of money; it’s not much, but it’s all we can afford). To be clear, my friend as not made any request for reimbursement, I just feel this is the right thing to do.
I will be giving the money regardless, but I’m curious as to your readers’ opinions on how to handle this situation.
Thanks for your help, EH! 0710-12
Unless you or your boyfriend were specifically charged with the responsibility to oversee that the backpack made it into the moving vehicle, I don’t feel you are obligated to replace the item. Mistakes happen and in this case, the backpack’s owner overlooked it.