During breaks from college, I always go back to my parents’ house and due to some happy planning, their house is located very close to my uncle’s house. Many times he, my aunt and their 11 year old daughter drop by unexpectedly just to chat.
It’s always pleasing to have them over since they’re family, but my main issue is the way my cousin acts. Even though her parents sit down, she continually hovers near the door and reprimands my uncle and aunt if they stay too long or start watching TV with us with something along the lines of, “We have a TV at home, why are you watching TV here?”
I understand that kids have a short attention span but she’s in 6th grade and still acts much younger, and consistently asks when she can go home, to my poor parents’ faces. The worst was when my mom set a meal out for her and instead of sitting down and eating it, my cousin ran out of the door saying that she was going to eat dinner at home.
I have grown irritated by my cousin’s actions after many years and have realized that I act a bit frostier towards her even though in my mind I try to convince myself that “she’s just a child.” However when both my sister and myself were that age, we had more decorum when visiting my aunt and uncle’s house.
Is there any way I can fix this problem by either changing my own mentality towards her or employing a passive-aggressive way of making her sit down and behave? 0629-12
Other than buying her something to capture her attention (I am under the belief that grandmom’s house should have a wealth of intriguing things for grandkids to do), I don’t see where you have many other options other than learning to tune her out until she is an adult.