Conversational Dealbreakers are those little phrases that stop all civil discourse in its tracks, causing it to come to a screeching halt at a crossroads decision to either engage further in what will likely be a more heated discussion, mentally shut down or walk away from the discussion. Here are some of Ehell readers’ favorites:
1. “Of course you’re going to…….”
This usually means that I’m going to do the exact opposite of what’s being suggested and the speaker usually thinks that this phrase will bully me into doing what she wants me to do.
2. “You should do whatever I want!” (Even if it breaks the rules!)
3. Being referred to as a “little girl” … when you’re a grown woman. Sweetie (or doll, hun, babe, etc) – spoken by a man (or a woman) with condescension.
4. “Well, no offense, BUT………”
5. “What part of XXX don’t you understand?”
6. “What do you think you’re doing?”
7. “You can’t say No to this!” (Why, yes,… yes, I can.)
8. “Do you know English?,” when they hear my accent, or saying patronizingly that, “I can understand (an alleged error) because English is not your first language,” mostly when there I use a usage not too commonly used where I live now, but is popular in my home country (and my native language is not English, but IT IS my first language because I started and did schooling in English).
9. “What do you mean, ‘NO’?”
10. “That’s not fair!”
11. “Why can’t I have it?”
12. “And who are you?”
13. “Do you know who I am?”
14. When I’m working: “I’m friends with the owner and HE always lets me _____”
15. “I pay your salary!” Often heard by teachers and public servants.
16. “You know, if it wasn’t for me, you wouldn’t have a job.”.
17. “I don’t pay you to think!” (At work. Actually heard by a friend. She quit on the spot.)
18. “If you tell a person your policy and they reply with, ‘Well, so-and-so doesn’t do it that way.'”
By all means, you have my blessings to explore a business with our competitor then. I encourage it, really.