My husband and I got married about 5 months ago and were engaged prior to that for about 2 months. I was thrown a small bridal shower when we were engaged and my future mother-in-law told me that she had a wrapping paper station for me, but that she didn’t want to bring it to the shower as it was large, she would give it to me at another time. It’s been half a year and I haven’t heard a thing about that gift since then. Around the time my husband and I got married (5 months ago), she told him that our wedding gift from her was going to be a new vacuum cleaner, and I haven’t heard anything about that since then, either. I know his mother is notorious for saying she is going to gift you with something, and won’t give it to you for years, if ever. How should I broach this subject? I don’t need either gift, but it leaves this cloud over me of feeling like we have “unfinished business.” Is it rude to bring it up and ask about it? Thanks! 0814-12
I suggest two courses of action. First,accept the fact that your mother-in-law likes to engage in wishful gifting and appears to rarely, if ever, follow through on her stated desires. You will be happier if you do not allow any expectation to creep into your heart and just dismiss her verbal gifts as unsubstantial as bubbles drifting on the wind.
Second, just drop it. Say nothing to her. It’s not as if you are owed these items and pursuing your MIL to inquire about them will drag you down and probably never result in the earlier offered gifts actually appearing.