Begging On Behalf Of Fido

by admin on September 12, 2012

A couple of years ago I received a friend request on Facebook from a person I haven’t seen in ten years or so. We’d previously been part of the same social circle, and at one time I had considered this person (who I will refer to as B) a close friend. My view had changed somewhat when many years ago B borrowed a sum of money from me ($50), which he never repaid. It wasn’t a huge sum, but we were all in our twenties and were impoverished musicians or artists and the fact that he didn’t pay me back when promised changed my view of him, which had led to us growing apart and losing contact.

When I received the friend request I chose to put the past behind me – after all, we’d once been close and it wasn’t a huge sum of money, and ten years had passed. I was confident he’d have grown up and changed a lot, as I had.

After adding him as a friend, we chatted a few times, uploaded old photographs and generally reminisced. It was a lot of fun and quite nostalgic and I was glad to be back in touch with B. It was nice, but B had moved from the city we lived in and now lived quite a distance away, so we never got the opportunity to meet up again. Life moved on and we once again fell out of contact, though we stayed on each others’ friends list.

About a year later, I received a group invitation to come along to a reunion dinner for our old social circle. B was the group creator and within the message he mentioned that he had recently been in a serious car accident and injured both himself and his dog and written his car off. He mentioned that he had been on the road working and traveling with his dog who he had trained from a pup to perform tricks. He was devastated about his dog who was his best friend, it was suspected that due to needing unaffordable surgery, the dog would never perform again. The dog and his car were his income, and due to the injured dog and lack of car, he was coming back to the area to stay with family while he recuperated. He said he’d love to see everyone and catch up.

The message was quite emotive and I was touched by it, so when I found out I wouldn’t be able to attend due to work commitments, I took the time to write a personal (private) reply to B directly. I expressed how much I would have loved to see him and the old group and how sorry I was to hear of his accident. I wished him a speedy recovery and said we ought to meet up at a later date before he left town again.

The next day I received a message from B that simply said, “Don’t worry if you can’t make it. I just wanted to ask everyone to donate some money to help me get a new car and pay for my dog’s surgery. My bank details are XXXX.”

I was shocked and suddenly felt very glad I couldn’t make it. I felt like the group reunion dinner was just a ploy to get a large group of people together so he could solicit for donations. I later spoke to some friends who had attended who were quite taken aback when he’d passed his own hat several times during dinner and drinks, even asking strangers at the bar/restaurant to contribute.

As if that weren’t bad enough, it has just come to light that the cause of the car accident was B’s own doing. He had been driving drunk and speeding, and had lost control of the vehicle! 0829-12

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Kathryn September 12, 2012 at 5:06 am

I have a question regarding outstanding debts.

About 8-ish years ago, I borrowed about $50 from a friend. We have since drifted apart due to life circumstances and am now finally in a position financially to pay her back. Whenever stories like this come up, I felt twinge of guilt about not having paid her back (after all, as the OP says, it “changed my view of him, which had led to us growing apart and losing contact”).

She is a very nice person and I wonder if paying her back would be weird and I should drop it, or if it would be appreciated.

As to the original post, you dodged a bullet there in not making it to the dinner! Definitely a friend not worth reuniting with.

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Weaver September 12, 2012 at 5:11 am

Throughout most of this story, I was simply rolling my eyes at B. However, that changed when I read the very end. He should count himself extremely lucky that he got away with damaging only himself and his car due to his vile and selfish actions, and didn’t take someone else’s life.

That being said, I am genuinely sorry for that poor dog. If it were me (and if I had the funds to spare) I might have found out whether it was possible to donate directly to a vet in order for the dog to get the treatment he needs. Although even then I suppose it would be back to a life of exploitation at the hands of his irresponsible owner. Ugh.

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Michelle September 12, 2012 at 6:14 am

Well, I have to admit…my first (unworthy) thought when you wrote that he gave you his bank account details was that you should go into said account and withdraw the $50 he owes you.

But what I really think is, considering his history and the true story behind the accident, the dog might have been a ruse. Many people have a soft spot for animals – myself, included – and he might have made up the story about the dog to solicit more cash. But at least you can say you’ve truly learned that some people just never change.

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sv September 12, 2012 at 6:26 am

Oh, major pet peeve of mine!! I work in a veterinary hospital, and you would be shocked how many times I have seen this ( or worse, the “facebook group to raise money for Fido.”) Because I have the inside scoop, as it were, on the true condition of the animal/ the true situation it always sets my teeth on edge. It is astonishing how often the owner exaggerates the condition, or leaves out pertinent details ( such as in this case, how the Op’s former friend actually caused the accident) or paints the veterinary hospital in a bad light and accuses us of being heartless or “in it for the money”, omitting the fact that they have already received free services, medications, hospitalization and things of that nature. Generally, people who set up these type of groups seem to be upset when they cannot receive EVERYTHING for free. Due to privacy laws in Canada we are unable to comment or explain the true situation in any way, and so simply have to say nothing while receiving a public bashing for being so cruel. Of course, there are legitimate groups of this nature who are simply trying to do the best they can, and for those people I have nothing but respect. But for the ones who want others to accept responsibility that belongs to them….grrrr!

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Jess September 12, 2012 at 6:52 am

The WORST part of this story was hearing his lack of concern for his own potentially murderous behavior. I cannot STAND people who risk other peoples lives on the road. I am sorry the poor dog had to suffer for his owner’s stupidity and than god the idiot did not harm an innocent person or family.

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Green123 September 12, 2012 at 6:52 am

Anyone who drinks and drives is a jerk, period.

B sounds like one of those people who will never change – he’ll always want *something* from *everyone* he meets in his life, and will always treat his ‘friends’ as a potential source of that something (money, in this case). It sounds like the OP has had a lucky escape. I’m sorry you and your friends were used in this way.

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penguintummy September 12, 2012 at 7:13 am

Wow. If the dog and car were so vital to his income, why did he not have any insurance? This is such a rude thing to ask people, especially by disguising it as a social get together. Most vets i think would be pretty open to issuing a bill or payment plan for extensive surgery. Drink driving and speeding is inexcusable!

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jena rogers September 12, 2012 at 7:32 am

I really feel sorry for that dog…

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Lilya September 12, 2012 at 7:32 am

Somehow, this story got “Minnie the moocher” stuck in my head…

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L.J. September 12, 2012 at 7:56 am

That poor dog :(

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Hemi September 12, 2012 at 7:58 am

I feel terrible for the dog and hope B gets jail time for driving drunk.

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The Elf September 12, 2012 at 8:27 am

Health care costs can be expensive, and dogs rarely have insurance. I understand the desire to ask for help. But this is ENTIRELY the wrong way to do it! And to ask strangers on top of it? WTF!

I hope, at minimum, he learned his lesson about driving drunk. That is an entirely preventable thing. Plan ahead, people!

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Justin September 12, 2012 at 8:36 am

I can certainly understand needing to ask for help when things go wrong. I have a circle of friends who over the years have pitched in with moving, places to stay, rides and cars, etc. over the years for one another. In my circle we don’t keep score, but at multiple times everyone has done a kindness for another in the group so no one hesitates to offer what assistance they can and no one feels bad asking.

Just scheduling a get together to beg is tasteless, and even more so when the reason for the need was a bad decision. I depend on a vehicle and certain tools to conduct my work, they are all insured and I treat them with respect by not driving drunk, not leaving expensive items unsecured. While it may seem crass to lump a dog in with business tools if it is part of a livelihood this is a great reason to have pet insurance to help defer some medical costs.

My experience has been that if you want help from others you have to offer help as well. Most people won’t hesitate to assist someone who has demonstrated unselfish actions.

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DGS September 12, 2012 at 8:55 am

Sadly, it has been my experience that people like B never truly change and grow up. I have “friended” old acquaintances on social media that had grown up since their adolescent days (gotten over insecurities, stopped being petty, in general, have evolved into mature, interesting and gracious adults), but I have also had experiences much like OP’s, and I have found that dishonest, manipulative and cunning people continue that behavior throughout their adult lives.

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Just Laura September 12, 2012 at 9:09 am

One can’t change a person who truly feels s/he is entitled.
I’m glad you weren’t able to go, OP. It was nice of you to take a moment to write a kind, personal letter.

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lkb September 12, 2012 at 9:18 am

I agree with others who suspect a scam: He makes his living from his performing dog? Somehow it just doesn’t sound plausible to make a living from that, unless he was employed by a circus. OP probably dodged a bullet.

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Politrix September 12, 2012 at 9:39 am

Nothing to say about this situation that hasn’t already been said. COngratulations to OP for dodging a bullet.
@ Kathryn,
Pay your friend back. I know it’s weird, but it’ll ease your conscience and put to rest any doubts your friend might have had about your integrity.

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2browneyes4 September 12, 2012 at 9:42 am

I think it’s funny how people will “slip up” and tell you their true intentions and how they can be so clearly read. This story reminds me of what happened to my former friend D. D was invited to a birthday party for a soon-to-be one year old. D called the mom to say she could not make it and was told “That’s okay, you don’t have to come because she’s registered at Babies R Us!!” So, while D’s presence wasn’t necessary, her present was expected.

BTW, this story is also an example of why I am not on FaceBook. When friend R asked why I would not get a FaceBook account to connect with old acquaitances, I told her that, except for one person I have met in life, I was still in contact with everyone I wanted to be in contact with and that I wanted to keep my current location private. In addition, I said, I don’t want some old acquaintance reconnecting with me only to ask to borrow $40!!

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Cat September 12, 2012 at 9:43 am

You now know that you are not viewed as a friend, but as an accessible piggy bank. This would be a good time to remind him that he owes you fifty dollars and that you are writing off the debt in lieu of any other donation to his drunk driving fines. Now you can both move on without one another in your lives.

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Margaret September 12, 2012 at 9:46 am

Kathryn — pay her back. Some people may just shrug off small loans, but I’ve never met that person. It’s the kind of thing that rankles at someone — it’s not that it was necessarily a huge amount (although it may have been to her at the time — I’ve had the days when I’ve looked around for spare change to buy milk, and I’ve had the days when I was in credit card debt so any loan was effectively costing me 20% interest since that was money not going on my bills). Even if the amount wasn’t particularly significant to her, you took advantage of her, and that is always unpleasant for someone. What I would suggest would be that you pay her the $50 PLUS something else — flowers, chocolates, wine — some token gift of apology — and write a note or tell her something like, “I don’t know if you remember, but 8 years ago, I borrowed $50 from you and never paid it back. I’ve felt like a heel about it ever since. I know it’s awfully late, but I’d like to pay you back now. Please accept my apologies.”

OP — Maybe you should tell B that in light of his current situation, you are forgiving the $50 debt as your contribution.

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Aje September 12, 2012 at 10:06 am

Kudos to the author, because when you wrote about how it was ten years later, and only a small sum and you were willing to let the past be the past, I thought, ¨Wow, what a nice person!¨

You´re certainly the bigger person here! And thank goodness you couldn´t meet up with the friend after all….

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Cammie September 12, 2012 at 10:07 am

Kathryn – Yes, by all means, send her a cheque and your heartfelt regrets for not doing so sooner. At the very least you will have improved your Karma.

OP – Don’t worry about it. You can’t fix stupid, and this guy goes beyond stupid into the realms of moronic. He’s obviously willing to put his livelyhood at risk by drinking and driving, and to neglect pet insurance on his source of income is akin to not taking out life or homeowners insurance when you buy a house. This is exactly what pet insurance is for.

Although I find it interesting that in the year you were fackbooking you don’t say if he mentioned the dog and his gigs. Isn’t that what performers do, talk about their shows and post pictures, flyers for upcoming shows, and all that? All the friends I have that are in the arts have portfolios on facebook/DA/etsy, etc. of all their work.

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Bint September 12, 2012 at 10:07 am

Kathryn: yes, of course you should pay her back. Eight years or not, you still owe her $50 and will do so unless she tells you to write it off. Even if she did, I would insist on making some form of recompense.

There is nothing weird in not ripping off one’s friends.

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The Elf September 12, 2012 at 10:17 am

Kathryn, why not send her a card with a check enclosed, with an apology for taking so long? She can always return it.

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Ashley September 12, 2012 at 10:48 am

I feel like if he really was making money off of performing with his dog, you would have known about it, even if you weren’t talking directly to him but were friends with him on Facebook. I have a multitude of friends who are performers and every single flyer they have mentioning their band/show ends up on my news feed, then by the next day pictures of the performance itself are up…So the fact that this seems to have come out of nowhere really makes this sound like a scam just to get money for him to live off of for a while.

Regardless, the thought of luring people somewhere under the guise of a reunion only to shake them down for money to pay for the side effects of your own drunken stupidity is wrong. If I had gone to the “reunion” I would have left the second that any mention of “hey I need money” was made.

Also, I feel legitimately sorry for that dog. Even if he was just a pet and not part of a performance, he was an innocent victim of his owners drunken antics, and that’s just awful.

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Annie September 12, 2012 at 10:50 am

Kathryn, you should certainly pay her back! This reminds me of my dearest friend, P, who in middle school shadowed my aunt for career day. She never wrote my aunt a thank-you note, and about 12 years later she asked for my aunt’s address because it bothered her that she had never done the right thing. My aunt was very amused to receive the note, and also rather touched.

By the way, you should add a bit of interest. 2% annual interest would mean you should pay her $58.58.

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Abby September 12, 2012 at 11:26 am

B sounds like an entitled, self-absorbed jerk. He drives drunk, destroys his car, injures himself and his poor dog and then rounds up his friends with a sob story (that conveniently leaves out the drunk driving detail) so he can blindside them with a request for “donations.” Class act!

I too wish there was some way to donate money only for the dog’s medical care — and then place the dog with an owner who will appreciate him!

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Enna September 12, 2012 at 11:44 am

@ penguintummy – car insurance can be void if the person was drunk at the wheel.

I can’t believe the audacity of B. That dog should be taken off him, he is clearly an irresponsible owner and driver. I hope B was charge for drink drving and dangerous driving. Maybe he needs the money to pay bail or pay for the damage he caused: the dog’s expenses maybe a part of it.

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Shalamar September 12, 2012 at 12:01 pm

This may sound super-petty, but to this day I’m ticked off about a friend of my daughter who owes me $10. This happened when the first “Twilight” movie came out – at the time, my daughter and her friends were around 14 or so, and they really wanted to see it. They knew the movie would probably be sold out on the first night, so I visited the theatre after work and bought tickets for everyone so that no-one would be disappointed. Every single one of my daughter’s friends paid me back except Shelby. When my daughter asked her for the money, Shelby said “Oh, yeah, I don’t have it right now. I’ll get it to you later.” For MONTHS my daughter would remind her, and Shelby got more and more irritated, saying “I said I’ll GET it! Stop bugging me!” Naturally, she never paid it back. She and my daughter are no longer friends (turns out that she has other charming traits besides not paying back money), so I’ll never see that ten bucks. Lesson learned!

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chechina September 12, 2012 at 12:04 pm

Kathryn- It’s never to late to do the right thing. Please do send her the cheque, but make the note simply about how you owe her the money and an apology. If she would rather not have anything to do with you, then she won’t feel obliged to respond.

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Calli Arcale September 12, 2012 at 12:26 pm

Kathryn: I’m the sort of person who doesn’t mind not being paid back for debts like that. If I give money to a friend, I never expect it to be paid back. Not because I don’t trust my friends, but because I know they’re in difficult straits and because I see it as a gift. If I start keeping tabs, it’ll sour the relationship. I just make sure not to give more than I can afford to lose.

But repayment is always nice. No lender is going to be offended by getting the money years later, and it means you never forgot what they did for you. It just took a while to have the means. The gracious thing is to repay. If the money is refused, take your friend to dinner at a nice restaurant instead or do something like that for them. Whatever it takes. You don’t need to have that guilt eating away at you, not when it can be set right so easily. If your friend is a good person, it will be a very touching gesture. If not, well, at least you can rest easy that you have settled the debt.

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Lisa September 12, 2012 at 12:38 pm

When loaning money, only give the amount you can afford to lose. I’d rather give than loan so it doesn’t jeopardize the friendship.
I feel sorry for the dog; having to perform for his supper then forced into a car wreck due to lameness of the person he’s supporting.

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Magicdomino September 12, 2012 at 1:58 pm

@Kathryn: As a person who has loaned money, I would be delighted if that person paid it back even 20 years later. Even if it was a relatively small amount and I was rich, I’d appreciate that you thought of it, and didn’t just write it off.

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Coralreef September 12, 2012 at 1:58 pm

OP – Good thing you didn’t show up for the fundraising. I despise drunk drivers with a passion.

I feel sorry for the poor dog. He deserves a better owner.

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Twik September 12, 2012 at 2:09 pm

What would the going rate be for “a dog that does tricks”? Unless he’s a professional entertainer, I can’t see he’d really be making his living from it. Unless he’s busking on sidewalks, perhaps.

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Ann September 12, 2012 at 2:33 pm

Wow. That is one troubled, entitled, clueless and potentially dangerous boy-man. I am glad you escaped the pass-the-hat fiasco.

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kingsrings September 12, 2012 at 5:52 pm

Speaking of Facebook, here’s another begging ploy I sadly see more often than not. The beggar will create an event on Facebook and call it “donate a dollar”, then explain what the $$ is for and how to donate. For instance, one gal wanted a trip to Disneyland for her birthday, but couldn’t afford it, so she created this “event” and sent it to each of her friends. The conniving thought is, if one has, say, 200 friends, and everyone donates a dollar, then the beggar will have $200. (which is explained in the event, just in case people don’t get it). Yet another way to become a beggar on the Internet….

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White Lotus September 12, 2012 at 6:59 pm

Kathryn, I agree with the people who say pay your friend back. I like the idea of an apologetic card. I have a friend who owes me some money — not a huge amount, because I would not lend a friend money I could not afford to never see again — but his failure to repay it has altered my feeling for somebody I still like very much, but no longer respect or trust. A dollar a week or five a month would have made a huge difference to my feelings, if not my bankbook. Getting a check for the whole amount in the mail would lift my heart! Please do this. It really is the principle of the thing.
For OP: My vet offers a specific credit/payment plan that is available to just about anybody who applies. (USA) I think they (several vets at this office) would even accept direct payments to them if they knew you. I might send money directly to the vet, because the dog needs care and none of this is the dog’s fault, but of course I would never give any to B. With his track record, I would have no assurance that anything I gave him would go to the dog’s care, and the dog is the one I would want to help.

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Vicki September 12, 2012 at 7:23 pm

Not being a bank, I don’t lend money that I couldn’t afford to lose. But when an under-employed friend of mine borrowed money from me, and then I got a series of checks from him over the next couple of years, repaying it, I was pleased as well as surprised.

A friend who lends you $50 is different from a relative writing you a check on your birthday; they may not need or expect the money back, but they’re unlikely to be offended if you repay them. (At most, they may suggest that you pay it forward, or give it to charity.)

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Sarah September 12, 2012 at 9:21 pm

Has anyone ever heard the saying “Never a borrower nor a lender be”? My Nan always tells me that.

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--Lia September 12, 2012 at 9:43 pm

Kathryn– Of course you should pay the money back. Offer to pay interest. Then don’t expect anything different from the distant friendship you have now. Look at it this way: It’s weird if you pay the money back and weird if you don’t. At least let it be weird with a clear conscience on your part.

For the OP, the polite thing to do is nothing. Just leave your old buddy on your facebook list, and let the friendship drift into nothingness again, but I’m evil enough to imagine sending him a note saying that the $50 he owes you from long ago is your contribution to his current collection for all the hard times he’s going through.

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James September 13, 2012 at 4:54 am

Some people’s thought processes seem to go “I need money. How can I get money?” and stop there, never considering how the people they interact with or hit up will feel. Or in some cases, of course, they just don’t care.

On another subject, I will never loan money to friends anymore. If a friend is in trouble and I feel like helping out, it’s a gift pure and simple. That way I don’t have to kid myself I’ll ever see that money again.

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secretrebel September 13, 2012 at 7:07 am

@Kathryn

I know someone, “Marcus” who borrowed several thousand pounds from his housemates “Barbara and Ellen” because of a bad financial situation. He couldn’t pay the money back and ended up being evicted from the house. Barbara and Ellen took a financial hit on the money Marcus owed and thought they would never see it back.

But years later, to their surprise, Marcus contacted them offering a payment plan for the money and gradually paid it all back. To this day I know both Barbara and Ellen are so impressed by having got the money back that this stands out much more to them than the original borrowing.

Barbara said to me “of all the many people who borrowed money from me over the years only Marcus ever paid me back.”

Pay your friend back. You’ll like yourself more for it and the guilt will go away. :)

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Lucky September 14, 2012 at 11:45 am

I would ask for the name of the veterinary hospital and then call to ask if I could make a contribution directly to them on behalf of the dog. If he can’t provide that information, I won’t feel badly about not forking over. I love pets but I also love not being scammed.

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Robert September 14, 2012 at 2:58 pm

@Kathryn As everyone else has said I would pay it back. If you are in a position where you can afford it I would send her $100 and a note thanking her for the $50 loan and apologizing for how long it took to pay back.

@Calli Arcale I’m the same way. If I “loan” someone money I never expect to see it back and when I do get repaid it’s a pleasant surprise. I did figure out a way not to become someones ATM.

Many years ago a former roommate called me asking if I could loan him $75. He had never asked for money when we lived together but I knew him well enough that I had a strong feeling if I gave it to him it would be the first of many loan requests. When I gave him the money I told him he did not have to pay it back BUT if he paid it back he could feel free to ask me for a loan in the future. If he chose not to pay it back then I told him not to bother asking for another loan because all he will get from me is, “Where is my seventy-five dollars?”

I’ve kept in touch with him over the years. He never paid back the $75 but he also never asked me for another loan.

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babs September 14, 2012 at 10:10 pm

@Katherine. I know that this isn’t the subject of the thread, but YES! Pay her back! If you can afford $100, do that, or whatever you can afford over and above the amount owed. Believe me, people do NOT forget when a debt is not paid, and it’s never too late to pay it back. Who knows, she may be going through a rough time herself, and it would be a welcomed surprise! DO IT! To OP, do whatever you think your heart is leading you to. Facebook has opened another avenue to make us feel guilty. I get invites to join groups set up for charity, or to help someone out all the time. Some, I participate in, and others I just let go. Whatever your decision is, don’t give into guilt.

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Cat Whisperer September 15, 2012 at 12:57 pm

Kathryn: pay the money back. As others have said, if you can, pay something extra as a token of thanks and contrition for not having promptly paid the loan back. You borrowed it, you owe it, you obviously feel some guilt about it. You will feel better if you pay it back, and you will make the person who loaned it to feel good, too. Pay it pay it pay it.

Regarding the story: FWIW, the old saying about “leopards never changing their spots” has a lot of truth to it. I’m pretty sure OP had other issues with the guy besides not getting his $50 back, or the friendship would probably have survived. So when the guy’s invitation to a “reunion” dinner turned out to be nothing more than a way to hit friends up for money, no big surprise. The leopard hadn’t changed his spots.

Regarding feeling sorry for the dog: FWIW, what I got out of the story wasn’t that the dog was in need of veterinary care to have an ordinary life as a companion animal, the dog (allegedly) needed veterinary care of some sort to resume performing as part of the guy’s act. Big difference. If the dog is able to have a good quality life as a companion animal, but has to retire from “show business,” I don’t think there’s a need to feel bad about the dog. Most dogs just want to be with their people and be companions, and really don’t care if they’ll never have a career as an entertainer.

From context, it sounds to me as if it’s more likely that the guy was really trying to get money to fix/replace his car, pay his own living expenses, and maybe have some “drinking money” on the side.

General comment: Facebook has facilitated this kind of “broadcast” impersonal invitation, which the “gimme pig” people have found a useful way to shake people down for presents and money. My feelings are that if someone isn’t close enough to me to contact me personally, individual to individual, to invite me to an event, then I have to assume that the event I’m being invited to is some sort of shakedown. I don’t respond, ever, to general Facebook invitations. I find I haven’t missed anything by taking that approach.

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Sarah September 16, 2012 at 11:44 pm

As someone very involved with the “dog world,” from showing to training to having friends that do just about everything imaginable (yes, including ones who tour the country with dogs that do awesome tricks and hold some world records), there is no way in hell he remotely makes enough to even feed himself and the dog and fuel a car with a dog that “does tricks.” If he somehow does, he is one of the best in the world and would have a wide group of friends tossing money at him for the dog’s care.

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Chris September 18, 2012 at 1:27 am

I’m on mailing lists with a group of other rabbit owners who all live in different countries (mostly I think USA and the UK), some people know each other really well, some have met IRL etc. Rabbits can be hard to find pet insurance for so sometimes if someone’s pet is having health problems and the bills are stacking up people will ask if they can contribute. The accepted fashion is for the owner to tell us which vet office the rabbit is with and if people are willing to spare some money they can donate directly to the vet – this also means that people don’t actually know who does and doesn’t contribute, so there’s not any pressure aside from feeling bad yourself because you can’t afford it right now. There’s also things like organising transport across long distances to get bunnies to a new home, advertising shelters that have just had a lot of rabbits dumped on them that need foster homes, etc. It’s social charity done right I think because everyone knows exactly where the money is going when money is involved – it would be much harder to rip each other off allowing them to pay the vet directly than by handing out your own bank details or passing around a hat.

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