This is our situation. We are really looking for advice on how to politely handle this situation. Please help us!
My uncle is coming to visit. We both really love this uncle, and are looking forward to it. He is moving across the country and visiting family along the way. Uncle is bringing his golden retriever with him. We live on a farm, and have animals ourselves, so this is not a problem. However, we do not ever let our animals in our house, we don’t like them inside. Since we have built a new house, no animals have ever been inside, and we are hoping to keep it this way.
The problem is that he is insistent that his dog stay in our house. He has mentioned if that can’t happen, he will set up a tent and sleep in there with the dog.
Given that my husbands uncle (respecting our elders), and our guest, this situation makes us feel really uncomfortable (especially having him sleep in a tent when we have many spare bedrooms), but my husband and I really both don’t want the dog in our house. What is the polite thing to do in this situation? 0921-12
Is the dog aged? I have a 12 year old dog, with Cushing’s Disease, whose care I must figure out how to accommodate if I leave the house longer than 5 hours. I’ve taken her crate with me and sometimes even a toddler’s “pack and play” portable play pen to keep her contained. But she is a 12 pound Yorkie, not a 30+ pound Golden Retriever.
While I don’t subscribe to the view that animals are equal to humans, there are people who obvious do. Particularly if the animal in question is their sole companion of many years. However, I do understand a long and deep commitment to stewarding the animal whose care we have been entrusted. The problem you have is that your uncle and his dog are a package deal.
Here are my thoughts….if someone were to want to visit me bringing along a large dog to stay in the house, I would face the same challenge as you. Our reticence to have a dog or cat in the house comes from not wanting to be exposed to specific allergens. I take allergy shots and cannot have a cat or shedding dog in the house. However, if the reason has nothing to do with medical issues, you must weigh what is most important to you, the house or your relationship with a beloved uncle. While inconvenient for a few days to have the dog inside, it is highly unlikely that he will do anything permanently destructive. Scratches on door mouldings, piddle spots, dog drool, and loose hair can all be cleaned up and/or repaired without too much hassle. See if your uncle can compromise and leave the dog confined to the mudroom or to a large crate while inside and then provide a way for that to happen. We own a large expanding gate to corral off grandkids and dog from each other and maybe there is a section of the house you can keep uncle’s dog restricted to using such a gate system (got mine at Petsmart, btw).
Live your life with no regrets. You do not want to look back and regret a decision to value the new wood floor as much more valuable and worthy of respect over the ties of family.