A very dear co-worker of mine got pregnant “by surprise.” She was a total trooper with the pregnancy, and after the initial shock, really started to become excited about having a child. So of course, I was thrilled to be asked to attend her shower.
I arrived late to the shower because I had to work (our workplace is staffed 24/7, and weekends are particularly difficult to get time off for). I was happy to see my co-worker, plus several other people that I haven’t talked to in a long time. I greeted the mother, and started conversing with some of these long lost friends. I noticed that several people in attendance at the party were making baby onesies with iron on patches and stamps. I did not jump into this activity because I didn’t know how to do it (I’m not particularly crafty) and I had already worked an 8 hour shift. I figured that I had come late, so I would just sit this activity out and enjoy the company of others, wish the mother well, and present my gift. I also noticed, looking around the room, how frustrated the other women were becoming with this craft, upon realizing it required sewing around all of the ironed edges and other minute details. The project required a lot of focus and energy, and basically took over a lot of the shower.
When I mentioned out loud that I didn’t think I would do a onesie because I’m not crafty, the hostess looked at me and said, “Oh no, you HAVE to do a onesie.” Now mind you, no one is eating, no one is drinking, no one is visiting with the mother or playing games, but everyone is engaged in this craft project. I was then handed a onesie and some fabric, and basically told to get to work by the hostess. The co-hostess then proceeded to critique my work and the fact that I didn’t know how to use the various stamps and iron-on patches, and seemed very annoyed with my slow/inadequate progress and the fact that I didn’t already know how to do all of this. The shower felt more like a onesie sweatshop. In the end, I picked a simple design that I wasn’t terribly proud of and didn’t do a very good job with because I felt rushed. In the end, I could have skipped the whole experience, because the few women who WERE crafty and liked the activity produced 2-3 onesies apiece.
Is this how things are at baby/bridal showers? I don’t think your guests, who have already purchased a present and taken time out of their afternoon should be pressed into also turning out overly complicated crafts. 1012-12
Best line of the post: “The shower felt more like a onesie sweatshop.” hahaha