Enabled Moochers

by admin on December 6, 2012

My fiancee and I recently a party. We had yard games for people to play and a bonfire – people could be outside or inside. I made a ton of food for our guests to eat – crock pots covered our kitchen and I had made one special dish that I knew our friends loved. This dish is so popular with our friends, that I made triple the normal amount.

One of our guests showed up SUPER early for the party with her new boyfriend. They were planning on going out to the bar that night and not stay at our party (we were just happy to see her and meet him, so that was fine).

As soon as she saw the crock pots, she asked about the special dish. I showed her that I did indeed make this and told her to help herself. I saw friend and her new guy make plates of food for themselves. No one else had arrived yet but these two and two other friends that showed up early to help decorate.

Friend and guy made HEAPING plates of food for themselves. Mostly just the special dish. I was upstairs and glanced down a few minutes later. They were going back for more. Then again for a third. Before I could say anything or move the crock pot, more guests had arrived and were in the backyard playing games and I had to go greet people, so I went out back.

By the time everyone arrived (on time, may I add), I went back inside to check on the food.  The only people inside my house? Friend and boyfriend.  The crockpot full of the special dish was totally gone. They ate the whole crockpot!!   Then they left and went to the bar. Without saying goodbye or thank you. They showed up early to get a good meal and just left.

Good thing we aren’t having a buffet at our wedding. 1106-12

Note to self for future events:   Never say, “Help yourselves.”  This sentence is the golden ticket to unlimited consumption by greedy moochers who have no concept of thinking beyond themselves to consider that maybe there are other people who would enjoy some special dish,too.   Instead say, “Dinner will be ready at 6 pm.  I hope you can wait till then!”

Addendum: The recipe that inspired such moochiness:

“Moocher Mushrooms” aka Crackpot Mushrooms

We call the dish “crackpot mushrooms”. Because it’s made in the crockpot. It was 4 containers of small white capped mushrooms, two sticks of butter and two packages of dry ranch dressing mix. It’s left in the crockpot on medium for two hours. It is pretty freaking good. Even if it will give you a heart attack form all that butter.

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Bint December 6, 2012 at 4:18 am

Please please PLEASE tell me that you called them on this. Please don’t say you said nothing, or did nothing, or have carried on as though nothing happened. This is just not ok, they knew perfectly well it wasn’t ok (‘Help yourself’ doesn’t mean ‘eat the whole thing’ and everyone knows this), and they behaved disgustingly.

“I’m pretty disappointed that you ate that whole crockpot and didn’t leave any for anyone else. You know that’s not what ‘help yourself’ means.”

Or better yet…

“Friend, why didn’t you leave any of my special dish for other guests?”

I’d like to see her defend herself if asked that one except with some whining about ‘help yourself’.

Really, who goes back for thirds anyway? What a greedy pair of pigs. I hope you admitted when asked that they’d eaten it all and don’t invite her back.

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m December 6, 2012 at 4:55 am

The guests were dude, but that’s nothing new under the sun. What I really want to know is what is this special dish that makes people act like this? I think my subconscious is telling me that it’s time went to get lunch, but the question remains, OP.

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Libby December 6, 2012 at 6:07 am

Good grief. How disappointing to make something special that you know your friends will enjoy only to have two people show up early and greedily spoil it for the rest of the guests. Why don’t people get that there are others who will be sharing the food and that you shouldn’t take it all for yourself?

I remember one Christmas at an office where our workgroup of about 20 people were invited to another office for a Christmas party. We had to go in shifts to keep coverage of the office and I was shocked to see a couple of women who had gone over before me come back with huge plates-full of goodies that they had gotten from the party. “This stuff was just sitting in the kitchen so we took it,” they said laughing. I guess they never heard of replenishing platters of cookies etc. as the party progresses instead of putting everything out at once.

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Yasuragi December 6, 2012 at 6:18 am

C’mon man! Don’t hold out on us! What was the special dish?

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admin December 6, 2012 at 8:17 am

I envisioned some kind of meatball dish.

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LadyLelan December 6, 2012 at 6:51 am

Once again, Admin’s comment is spot-on.

As for “Good thing we aren’t having a buffet at our wedding.” ==> I hope you’re not planning to invite to your special day people with such a poor behavior, are you?

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Emmy December 6, 2012 at 7:15 am

Hindsight is 20/20. If this friend had shown no sign of being a gimme pig prior, the OP could not have predicted her acting in such an uncivilized manner. The friend and her boyfriend were very rude for showing up early. The hostess would have been within her rights to direct them to a seat on the couch with a drink and mention the food wasn’t ready yet, tell them to come back later, or even ask them to help with the decorations. This really seems pre-meditated. ‘Friend’ knew about the special dish and decided to bring herself and her boyfriend by to get first dibs on the free food before heading to the bar. With friends like this, who needs enemies.

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coralreef December 6, 2012 at 7:48 am

In my book, that is worthy of the black list. A moocher is never invited back again.

If you fall in love with something offered in the buffet or during the meal, leave with the recipe (why is it I can never remember how to spell that word?) you have humbly asked from the host(ess).

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Lo December 6, 2012 at 8:11 am

I can’t believe grown adults behave this way.

Though I agree with Admin that maybe nextime you shouldn’t say it, “Help yourself”, regardless of whether you are staying or going, should never be taken as an invitation for two people to finish off an ENTIRE dish. I know it would be hard to stop them after the first helping but this is an instance where you should really muster all your strength and say “Sorry to cut you off but I have to make sure there’s enough left for the people who came for dinner.”, or even more passively (as I would because I’m awfully shy about calling people out) “Can I get you some bread or something if you’re hungry? I’m happy to let you have a taste but I need to save this for the party.”

As someone who makes huge amounts of food for parties because I obsess over whether everyone is getting enough to eat, this kind of behavior would drive me to hysterics. I would be thinking, so now it’s not enough to make more than enough of everything, I have to make huge amounts of every single thing just in case someone wants the whole bowl??

You take a little of everything so everyone gets to try everything. You take a little more once everyone’s had their first serving. If you are offered a taste then you take a little and leave the rest alone. People who don’t understand this kind of blow my mind.

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barb December 6, 2012 at 8:32 am

I don’t know, I fail to see how two people could eat the entire amount of a dish that was made for many times that number of people, unless it was something like a shrimp dip that was not supposed to be the main course, and they made it THEIR main course.

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MinnieMouse December 6, 2012 at 8:50 am

This is horrific! Your friends are gross and greedy. I also hope you called them out on it, possibly publicly the next time this group of friends got together. And I am also dying to know what this dish was. I would have guessed something like guacamole, but that wouldn’t go into a crock pot.

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hakayama December 6, 2012 at 9:00 am

Wedding?! Please say that that “friend” is not invited.
Also please say that, a rather timid person that you are, you are gradually and subtly “letting go” of that friend. And any other “friends” whose attitude towards “free food!” is similar to the one you described.
You do not need selfish, entitled pigs in your life.
Best wishes on your upcoming nuptials and the life happily ever after…

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DGS December 6, 2012 at 9:14 am

Ditto to what all the PP’s have said, and now, I’m also dying to know, what was the special dish?

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PhDeath December 6, 2012 at 9:17 am

As a vegetarian, I was imagining the best thing a crockpot can hold for me: insanely rich mac-and-cheese. :)

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Jay December 6, 2012 at 9:19 am

I’d bet a lot she DIDN’T call them on it at all.. Hence the last line of the letter.

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Just Laura December 6, 2012 at 9:26 am

‘Help yourself’ doesn’t mean ‘eat the whole thing’ and everyone knows this

I completely agree with Bint. “Help yourself” merely indicates that a guest is welcome to serve themselves the food without waiting for others. It is not an invitation to consume all of the food. That would be stated as, “It’s all yours.”

At the risk of sounding like a sycophant, I also like Bint’s phrase, “Friend, why didn’t you leave any of my special dish for other guests?” I have used phrases akin to this in the past when deal with people and they’ve worked well (usually with people who attempt to drink all my expensive alcohol without offering anything in return).

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Rap December 6, 2012 at 9:33 am

Yeah – “Help yourself” might not have been the wisest thing to say… but still, at a get together or someone else’s home, you have some self control and let everyone get a taste first.

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Elizabeth December 6, 2012 at 9:36 am

Arriving early is every bit as rude as arriving late. Why is it that people think arriving early isn’t rude? And to arrive early AND dig into the food? Surely you’re not so in need of ‘friends’ that these people remain on your guest list.

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WildIrishRose December 6, 2012 at 9:39 am

I too am curious about the dish! C’mon, OP, share if it’s not a secret family recipe!

I probably wouldn’t invite the friend back, either. I’m really flabbergasted at the rudeness people display at parties when it comes to food, as if they think they’re never going to eat again.

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Allie December 6, 2012 at 9:43 am

For some reason I’m envisioning BBQ baked beans. We must know what this dish is you speak of, OP.

As for the conduct of this pair, this is something I never do. I learned manners going to my grandpa’s brother’s house for tea when I was little. His wife always had the best snacks! All thing a little kid would love like squeeze cheese, ritz crackers and Hob Nobs, that kind of thing. I was taught it was impolite to make a pig of myself and so I would take a small amount which I would savour slowly and then wait until the hostess invariably plied me with more. That is still my practice to this day.

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A December 6, 2012 at 10:04 am

I’m less worried about the rudeness of the guests and more worried about how two people could split an entire crockpot full of food.

Although, unfortunately, it seems this story is like an analogy for the mindset of people today: we don’t think of others and we eat too much. :(

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Andie December 6, 2012 at 10:15 am

Why do people think it’s okay to show up early to parties? I think they figure that they’re supposed to show up early for every other appointment, so it must be the thing to do for parties too.

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Crockpotdish December 6, 2012 at 10:18 am

Hi there! I’m the poster.

I should have said something to my friend, but to be honest she scares the hell out of me. And I am trying to distance myself from her. Besides doing this, she has recently called me fat (when she was drunk) and is angry she is not in the wedding party (because she called me fat). She probably won’t come to the wedding, because her exhusband will be there (she is recently divorced and this guy she’s with is her new boyfriend). New guy is a real winner – 3 driving violations while drinking and is just a jerk when you talk to him. This party was my first time meeting him. I have seen him since. Not impressed. We did have other food at the party. She has the receipe too.

And yes, I know it’s hard to believe someone ate the whole thing but they did. Unless they made to-go bags….I never did check her purse! :-P

We call the dish “crackpot mushrooms”. Because it’s made in the crockpot. I doubled what I usually did, so it was 4 containers of small white capped mushrooms, two sticks of butter and two packages of dry ranch dressing mix. It’s left in the crockpot on medium for two hours. It is pretty freaking good. Even if it will give you a heart attack form all that butter.

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Stacey Frith-Smith December 6, 2012 at 10:21 am

OP- if you have guests who arrive early in future do not leave them unattended. Perhaps you can answer the door beginning at a quarter of an hour prior to the event. It sounds awful to resort to this but no one should be running amok in your home and you deserve the time to finish getting ready in peace. It’s rude to arrive very early, in any case, without a specific invitation. The hosts deserve some consideration too. I don’t know what you can do about foodie “gimme pigs” except to halt them with a smile and a firm “no”. Say it humorously if you must but don’t tolerate utter disregard for yourself and others. I have to admit that I don’t know where the line is for a host or hostess faced with an unreasonable guest but I’m positing that it’s well before they have mowed through your food, your home and your patience.

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Mrs. Lovett December 6, 2012 at 10:21 am

I totally agree with Elizabeth. Unless you have asked the host(ess) if you can come early to help, it is never a good idea to arrive early. I enjoy hosting dinner parties, and I usually time things out very carefully so that I’ll be pulling things out of the oven just as it’s time for guests to start arriving. Those last fifteen minutes before the party starts are usually hectic and if I have to greet early guests, pour them beverages, take their coats, etc. it totally throws me off.

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Goldie December 6, 2012 at 10:37 am

OP, you’re a better person than I am. Guests who show up SUPER early to my party risk seeing me in my underwear and bra, frantically vacuuming the dog hair. Luckily, I’ve never had anyone arrive earlier than 15 minutes ahead of time.

Agree with A above – I, too, am curious about how two people can eat a crockpot full of food and not get sick! Did they pack any of it to take home with them, by any chance? And yes, I want the recipe too, or at least a hint at what the dish was.

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Crockpotdish December 6, 2012 at 10:38 am

I wrote double above, but it was not double. I had not yet had coffee. I have had coffee and realized my mistake. Sorry about that :( It was a lot of mushrooms in any case.

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Cat December 6, 2012 at 10:53 am

Did they come to your party or did they just come to get a free meal and depart? You were busy preparing for your party, had other guests who arrived to help you, so I don’t see how you had time to visit with the twin bottomless pits.
Afraid of a moocher? I remind you of Mohammed Ali’s famous take on the 23rd psalm, “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall fear no evil-for I am the meanest So-and-So in the valley!” If you are not afraid, it’s not courage. Courage is standing up to your fears.
I would not invite her or her current bottomless pit to the wedding. If she asks why, I would say, “Because I don’t want you there.” That will be the end of this one-sided friendship.

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Missy December 6, 2012 at 11:16 am

For the most part, if I count someone as a friend, I trust them to be thoughtful of others. If I know someone can’t be trusted, I don’t call them a “friend.” I like to surround myself with friends where I don’t feel like I have to police them or make sure they don’t take advantage of me. I do have a long-time friend who did once take advantage of me, and I’m only still friends because I confronted her about it and she stopped. If she was still trying she wouldn’t be my friend.

While in hindsight, you probably should have said something, you were probably thinking you could trust her with the basic adult behavior. (Even if she is not always a kind person.) It stinks to find out that you have to monitor another adult’s behavior to be around them. Sorry.

I will have to make the mushroom dish for my mother. She will love it. (And her cholesterol count isn’t too bad so I can risk it.)

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LadyPhoenix December 6, 2012 at 11:17 am

Your friend sounds less like a friend and more like a parasite. You don’t like being around her and she certainly doesn’t treat you right. Also, the boyfriends sounds like areal piece of work.

I suggest cutting all ties with them and moving on. Don’t invite to any more events and certainly don’t socialize with them anymore. They are just not good people to be around, at all.

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hakayama December 6, 2012 at 11:36 am

Thank you Crockpotdish for the recipe. Let’s face it, ANYTHING with butter and mushrooms is a winner! And your version of them “feels like” the Stroganoff part of beef a la S.
The pig out couple have possibly paid for their excess, since according to those in the know, even edible mushrooms when consumed in huge quantities can have frighteningly toxic effect.
If you are “afraid” of that ACQUAINTANCE (she’s not a friend), and she’s anything but nice to you, there is no reason on earth why you even should consider inviting her to your wedding.
If the invites haven’t gone out yet, hold off on the one to her. Most likely, as a fringe benefit, SHE will be the one cutting you off. In any event, you need to be prepared for recriminations at best, and a huge personal attack on the other side of the spectrum.

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Cat Whisperer December 6, 2012 at 11:47 am

Two sticks of butter = 1600 calories. If it’s salted butter, there are approximately 1040 mg of sodium in two sticks of butter. The packets of dry ranch dressing probably contribute at least another 750 to 1000 mg of sodium. (Your recipe sounds tasty, but also sounds like the kind of thing meant to be eaten as an appetizer-sized portion.)

If this is typical of the way these two cretins stuff themselves, then karma is probably already asserting itself on their arteries, their blood pressure, and their general health. Think about that, OP, and you are revenged.

OP, you said “…I should have said something to my friend, but to be honest she scares the hell out of me….”

Good grief. If she scares you, why do you have anything to do with her, much less call her “a friend”? She sounds like the kind of person that I’d cross the street to avoid, if I saw her coming, and the same goes for her boyfriend, only doubled and squared. They sound like two very toxic people.

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amyasleigh December 6, 2012 at 11:56 am

OP, your “friend” sounds like a nightmare. Nonetheless; it does seem that when free food is involved,
many people — even those who are in the main, decent and OK-behaved — go berserk and throw all etiquette and proper conduct, to the winds. One of the prevailing oddities of our species…

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Jen December 6, 2012 at 12:14 pm

OP that sounds awesome.

But your “Friend” sounds super scary, as does her friend. Please don’t let her bully you anymore. I think there is more than enough from what you’ve said to justify never, ever seeing these people again. Not in the wedding party? Heck, I don’t see any reason to invite her to the wedding.

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livvy17 December 6, 2012 at 12:16 pm

@OP/Crockpotdish – good for you for getting this “friend” out of your life – she’s obviously a loser who thinks friendship is a ticket to getting a free meal. Hopefully, she won’t make a scene at the wedding, but once you’re done, send her a thank you note (assuming she gets you a gift), and be done.

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Calli Arcale December 6, 2012 at 12:22 pm

Oh my sweet lord, that mushroom dish sounds incredible. Pity my hubby has a rather visceral reaction to the flavor and even the smell of mushrooms cooking; that sounds unbelievably awesome.

What a shame you couldn’t trust your friend and her boyfriend to be grownups. You will not miss them once they are out of your life.

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Enna December 6, 2012 at 12:28 pm

Wow how rude. I wouldn’t invite those people around again. How entittled!

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Tyler December 6, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Common sense should dictate that one should never finish off an entire dish prepared by the host for other party attendees before the party even starts. This couple sounds more like a pair of “crackpots” as opposed to mere moochers.

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Rug Pilot December 6, 2012 at 12:46 pm

I knew it. Just from the “going to a bar”. This is typical alcholic behaviour. It’s all about ME, ME. ME. Then, on your follow up post, you confirmed that these people are alcoholics. If you can’t tolerate this behaviour stay clear of them and any friends they may have.

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June First December 6, 2012 at 1:24 pm

I like admin’s response.
You could also say something like, “Oh, you’re early! The food’s not ready yet, but you can hang out in the backyard until other guests arrive.” Since the party was indoor/outdoor, that might keep them from checking on the food. You know, if they say they want to taste-test it.
Really, since crockpot recipes usually have to cook for a certain amount of time, it’s feasible that they aren’t ready when someone shows up ridiculously early.

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Lo December 6, 2012 at 1:29 pm

OP – holy cow, I going to make that for Christmas, that sounds amazing!!!

Honestly, this is too mean to say but I would have been sorely tempted to tell somone who called me fat that I would immediately work on losing the extra weight– starting with her.

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Sarah Jane December 6, 2012 at 1:32 pm

Thanks for the recipe, OP! I think I’ll make that for my next get-together, but I won’t be inviting these “friends” of yours :)

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Barbarian December 6, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Here is a solution that might work for OP in the future or other people on the board who entertain and have to deal with partyhoppers looking for a free dinner date to kich off their fun:

1. Personally serve them a small sample from your dish and then tell them that’s all you can spare-XXX number of guests have already RSVP’d and that dish will only feed XXX number.
2. If the partyhoppers plead hunger, you can offer them a sandwich that is not part of the party goodies or recommend the nearest cheap fast food joint.
3. Put a time limit on the visit-Just say ” You can only stay til xxx time(5:30 PM) because I still have tons of stuff to do before the guests get here. You know how people love to show up early………..”,

It really annoys me when I see guests help themselves to heaping plates at the buffest and then go on to ask you to make doggie bags for their kids at home before the rest of the guests have even had a chance to serve themselves.

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mpk December 6, 2012 at 2:16 pm

I’m wondering if it was a passive aggressive move on your so-called friends part because she’s angry you didn’t ask her to be in your wedding. Knowing you made it for all of your guests.
If you’re that afraid of her, just stop getting in touch with her and letting all her calls go to voice mail. But, sometimes you just have to face your fears. Can’t go through life letting people intimidate you. They’ll just take advantage of you whenever possible.
My story isn’t about food but it relates a bit. My then boyfriend and i lived in an apartment building years ago and became friendly with another couple that lived there. The woman was alot bigger than me. I’m 4’11″ and she was probably close to 6 ft. Well, whenever she thought something was funny she’d punch me in the arm. She started out doing it lightly but over time she started getting rougher and rougher where it would really hurt. I finally had a talk with her and told her that she had to stop because she was hurting me. Don’t know what she was thinking but she wouldn’t stop. Maybe she thought i wasn’t really serious – I just don’t know. so both my bf and myself sat down with the 2 of them and just told them we didn’t want to be around them anymore and that that was the reason. I think her boyfriend was a bit upset about it, but i didn’t know what else to do to protect myself. Years before i actually had a boss that would do that and he wouldn’t stop either. Ended up going to hr department, since that was the only way i could get him to stop. He didn’t think i was serious until that point.
Don’t let her scare you. She knows how she’s affecting you.

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Ashley December 6, 2012 at 2:27 pm

Any LOGICAL adult should know that “help yourself” does not mean you get to eat the whole dish! Because I’m addicted to my fiance’s aunt’s cheesy potatoes (most potato dishes actually) but that doesn’t mean I go and horde them all to myself so no one can have any but me…

I agree with admin, the next time people come over early, whether it’s these friends or others, or people start eyeballing food before the designated dinner time, just say politely “Dinner is at six because that is when all the food will be done, and we’d like everyone to have a little of everything!”

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admin December 6, 2012 at 3:45 pm

We are not talking about “logical” people who have the decency to not hoard and gorge a food item at a buffet. We are talking about self centered, entitled moochers who had absolutely no regard for anyone else whilst they stuffed their faces. For moochers, “help yourself’ is a culinary license to kill and eat everything within sight. And I agree with others that an incredulous look into the empty crockpot and exclaiming, “Oh, my. That was supposed to have served a dozen people or more”, would have been appropriate to say.

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Miss Raven December 6, 2012 at 2:31 pm

I am feeling the need to jump to the OP’s defense, here. There seems to be a lot of pseudo-blaming going on when the truth is the OP did absolutely nothing wrong.

No one should have to constantly monitor any guest in their own home. To leave your guest “unattended” while you tend to other guests is just kind of how it works, unless you have clones. And “Help yourself,” is a completely innocuous pleasantry that the OP’s friend deliberately took advantage of.

OP, I don’t like to mince words. Your friend and her new beau are losers, mooches, and boors and the friendship seems toxic. Time to cut ties. If she scares you, do it via email. But I wouldn’t leave out this gem. Seriously, what full-grown adult acts this way? Call her out.

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Anonymous December 6, 2012 at 2:43 pm

OP, I have a feeling that karma might have punished Bottomless Pit Friend and Bottomless Pit Boyfriend in the end–any dish as rich as the one you describe, with two sticks of butter AND two packages of ranch dressing mix (!) will almost certainly cause gastronomic distress. I know that I always get stomach aches when I eat something that’s too fattening, which is why I make a point not to eat too much fat in one sitting. So I have a feeling that the “friend” and her boyfriend probably felt pretty sick after that party, having EACH consumed the equivalent of a stick of butter and a package of ranch dressing mix, with just a few mushrooms to hold all the fat together. Also, OP, just curious, does your friend normally eat like that? Is she overweight? I know it’s not rude to be overweight, but it is rude to be a greedy guest, and it IS rude to call other people fat, so for her to be that greedy, and also repeatedly call you fat, is completely beyond the pale. If she’s overweight as a result of her actions, then it’s not only rude, it’s also hypocritical.

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Shoegal December 6, 2012 at 3:03 pm

In the effort to be a good hostess I would have definitely said, ” Help yourself” – what the OP described as crockpot mushrooms sounds more like an appetizer and not a meal. In this case, these “friends” made a meal out of it. It is the equivalent of making buffalo chicken dip and having a couple of people scrape the dish clean instead of the entire party full of people all having a bit of it. As a hostess, I like there to be enough so nobody goes home hungry and everyone goes home satisfied but in this case, these people made absolute pigs of themselves and without thinking of anyone else.

As for coming early, well, as a general rule – just don’t do it – it is more courteous to the hostess. I once told my dear Aunt to come to my party “any time she wanted.” So she came way early – I wasn’t ready and I couldn’t sit with her or talk to her because I was running around trying to prepare. I had everything timed to the start time and I would have been done before any guests arrived but this was my own fault. I should have said – it starts at 6 – come at 6 or anytime thereafter.

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Laura C. December 6, 2012 at 4:04 pm

If it wasn’t for the driving violations, I would think this is one of my cousins sons. They were never taught manners and their father (my cousin’s ex) is just the same. My parents threw me a large party (big back yard) for my 33rd birthday. The party started, I think, about 3:00. Cousin’s ex (long story) came with his sons, all grown men, and their girlfriends. They arrived at 10am (before me) while my mother was in the middle of prepping some of the food, specifically homemade eggplant parm/ meatball heroes. Well, they decided they were hungry and wanted a second breakfast so there went the heroes my mother prepped. They ate again when the rest of the food came. Out of the 7 people, not one even thought to bring a card.

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Huh December 6, 2012 at 4:16 pm

Did their mothers ever teach them how to behave at a party? I guess obviously not. I’m always on my kids at parties to take just a small serving and that you can get seconds if offered more by the host/hostess later. And I’ve seen just as many kids snagging three or more pieces of pizza at one time at parties, but I consider that rude – there is never enough for EVERYONE to get more than one piece.

I seriously wondered how anyone could eat an entire crockpot full of anything, considering anytime I make crockpot recipes, it makes A LOT. And now after reading what it is, I would think anyone that would eat that many rich mushrooms would be horribly sick!

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Angel December 6, 2012 at 4:23 pm

People who do this are the worst! My DH’s friend can eat half a pan of lasagna without batting an eyelash. The difference is, he often shows up at the END of a party when we are putting leftovers into the containers. He has saved me from having to store a bunch of leftovers so for that, I am grateful.

Showing up before a party is about to start, eating an entire crockpot full of food (I don’t care how much you love it, eating the whole thing is just bad manners!) is something that friends do not do to each other. If you are afraid of your friend, OP, there’s something wrong there too. Friends should inspire warm feelings and happiness, NOT fear! I would cross her off future guest lists and cut off contact. Don’t answer emails or texts, let her calls go to voice mail. If you haven’t sent out invites to your wedding yet, I would strongly discourage you from inviting this leech.

I have been reading this site for 10 years, and I don’t know why but these types of stories never cease to amaze me! There are some really self-centered a-holes out there among us!

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