I went on a date with a casual acquaintance of my sisters. It was sooooo bad I really did expect a Candid Camera film crew to pop out at any second.
It started with him asking if we could drive my car since his big SUV got horrible gas mileage and we were driving to Las Vegas over an hour away. I said that would be all right and he jumped in the drivers seat and demanded the keys. When I said I would drive he got all indignant and said HE was taking ME on the date so he would drive (him saying that is important later in the story). I was young, naive, a little shy at that time so I let him drive.
We drove to Las Vegas to see the 4th of July fire works show. He drives into a residential area and we stop at his cousin’s house to “say hi”. Turns out his cousin had some free tickets to the show through his work and we are there to score free tickets. The hitch is the cousin’s wife didn’t know anything about it and had wanted to use the tickets so after much very uncomfortable talk between my date and his cousin we are given two tickets and asked to just leave.
Since the fireworks wouldn’t start for a couple of hours we decide to go to a casino then go to dinner before the show. We go to a casino and I go to the window to get some quarters. My date calls out over his shoulder, as he’s jogging away, to get him $20 worth of quarters too and he’ll go stake out our machines. Um … okay. When I find him and give him the quarters he tells me he’ll pay me back when he gets a chance to break a $100. Fine. We play until we’ve lost all the quarters then he tells me to go back to the window and get $20 more in quarters. I tell him it’s his turn and he needs to break his hundred to pay me back anyway. He decides we’re leaving and walks off toward the door. I chase after him because he has my keys and he doesn’t look like he’s kidding about leaving me.
After the casino we drive around looking for a place to eat. He pulls into Red Lobster and we go in. As the hostess comes up to seat us he snaps at her to get him a menu BEFORE we’ll sit down. She does and he opens it and exlaims loudly that it’s too expensive and we’re not eating there then pretty much throws the menu back at the hostess, wheels around and walks out. Again, leaving me standing there to chase after him. We go through the whole routine again at Sizzler but we get to sit down there. The waitress takes our order and he orders first. When she asks what I’ll be having he cuts me off and tells her I’ll be having the salad from his dinner. I cut him off and tell her I’ll be having the salad bar and an iced tea. He sat there glaring at me from across the table until the waitress came back with our drinks and his salad. Then I went and got my salad. When I got back he informed me how rude I was for just assuming what he could afford for dinner. I told him he could deduct the $6.99 from the $20 he owed me and he shut up but continued to glare and sulk.
We head to the fireworks show and are only there ten minutes when he declares this is “stupid” (the fireworks hadn’t even started – it was the pre-show entertainment while they waited for the stands to fill up and it to get dark). He gets up without saying anything and leaves me there again. I realize he is walking toward the parking lot and chase after him again. I try to get the keys back as I’m tired of getting left and am seriously concerned he might actually steal my car and leave me stranded over an hour from home. He won’t give them to me and actually threatens to leave without me if I con’t get in the car. So I get in the car and we head out of town. We stop at a gas station and he starts the gas pump then goes inside. He’s in there so long the gas pump kicks off so I get out and hang the nozzle back up and get back in the car. He’s taking forever then I see him with his arms full of chips, soda and snacks and he’s signaling to me from inside the store. I figure he wants to know if I want anything so I go in to tell him I don’t. What he wanted was for me to pay the clerk since it was MY car we were filling up (we could have easily made it home on the gas already in the tank). The snacks were all rang up with the gas. I told him HE was taking ME on this date and so far he owed me about $13 so he could pay for the gas otherwise it would be ME taking HIM on the date and I knew that just wasn’t acceptable to him because that’s why he had insisted on driving. I went and sat in the car. He just stood there gaping at me for a while then paid the cashier and got in the car.
On the drive home I began to feel very, very ill and had to ask him to pull over. I was so sick I couldn’t even get the seatbelt undone fast enough to get out of the car and ended up violently throwing up out the open door. As soon as I was finished I laid back against the seat to try to pull myself together as I was having chills and felt faint. Staring straight ahead he says, “Well, that was a waste of a $6.99 dinner.” I couldn’t believe it. I didn’t have the energy to verbally spar with him so I pretended to sleep the rest of the way home. As we approached my house he turns and asks me if we can go out again the following weekend. I told him I wasn’t interested in seeing him again and he started whining and asking why. He thought we’d had a really good time!
Sorry this was so long but the agony of the date just went on and on and on and ….. 07-18-08
There are points in this story that it gets really scary. This man sounds very dangerous and in hindsight, the best course of action should have been to obtain police assistance in gaining ownership of the car keys and leaving Quido to find his own way home.