Oldie But Goodie Etiquette – Mind Your Manners (1953)

by admin on February 26, 2013

“Everywhere you go your manners are with you, and they leave their mark. They help you feel sure of yourself too, and they make an impression on people — on everyone you meet.”

Even though this is a vintage film, the message within is timeless.

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sidi-ji February 26, 2013 at 5:35 am

Excellent! Thank you.

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Mojo February 26, 2013 at 6:54 am

This should be compulsory viewing in every High School!

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penguin tummy February 26, 2013 at 7:09 am

A lovely film! The narrator has a great voice too. I wish more people could see this! Perhaps some points are a little old fashioned, but the message is clear: consider others and make yourself and them happy and feel comfortable.

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Sazerac February 26, 2013 at 9:44 am

I love the vintage films like this, and it was in such good condition, too! And what a timeless message. Thank you for this!

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Anonymous February 26, 2013 at 10:45 am

Manners are good, but I really didn’t like the parts about how females need help with everything, even something as simple as getting off a bus.

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Lisa February 26, 2013 at 11:34 am

Timeless

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AS February 26, 2013 at 2:40 pm

Nice video. Even though I don’t agree with some of the points, like, having to help ladies get off the bus and girls should let the men give you a hand to get off the bus because they enjoy it (what if a girl/lady does not enjoy men giving them a hand)? Same goes to ladies first.There is no good reason that men should allow ladies to walk ahead of them at all times! I do understand where holding the car doors come from – it is hard to get into the car wearing a dress with the door slamming into you all the time. But with most women wearing pants most of the time now, I think that custom is quaint.

I do agree with the other points though.

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Barney Girl February 26, 2013 at 4:22 pm

I enjoyed that, but did you notice that politely holding the car door for the girls gave him a front seat while they were squashed in the back?

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Amanda H. February 26, 2013 at 4:33 pm

@AS, I agree mostly that the custom of holding doors for ladies and the like is quaint, but it’s still nice when men show that courtesy. It’s the thought, rather than necessity. For the most part, my husband doesn’t usually do such things for me and I don’t mind that he doesn’t, but he does make a point of getting doors for me when we’re specifically out on a date, and I find that quite endearing.

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Xena Xavier February 27, 2013 at 2:15 am

I love these old teaching shorts, dated though they may look now. If anyone wants to see a whole slew of them – albeit with a humourous bent added by Joel, Mike & the Bots – I’d strongly recommend getting the Mystery Science Theater 3000 Shorts collections, available on video or DVD. They’re a riot. My favourite is “A Date With The Family”. If you can handle the show’s cast talking along with the narrator, they’re a great way to take a walk down Etiquette Memory Lane.

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AS February 27, 2013 at 2:39 pm

@Amanda H.: I agree with you. Same with my husband – he usually doesn’t hold the door all the times. But he does it just out of the blue, or when I am wearing a dress. I too think that it is very sweet.
My father always taught me to hold the door for elderly people (regardless of their gender), who have a hard time getting off the car. I think it is a very sweet thought. He would also hold the car door for anyone who we have given a lift in our car, just so that they don’t feel like they are a burden on us for asking a ride. He has strange manners, but it always made people feel good.

What peeves me more is when women expect men to pay for the date at all times. Hubby pays for me sometimes; but I pay for him sometimes too (both of us are earning). My now-DH had offered to pay when we had gone for our first date, but I had declined and opted to pay for ourselves. Luckily, it didn’t offend him, and that’s why we are still together!

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Goodness February 27, 2013 at 3:12 pm

The very first thing I noticed was ‘good mannered’ jack coming down the stairs and draping his presumably-wet towel on the newel post, presumably for Mom to deal with. Lousy manners and will ruin the finish on the newel post.

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Goodness February 27, 2013 at 3:17 pm

…And it seems to me that the easiest & most comfortable door-holding manners is for whoever gets there first to open & hold the door for the person(s) behind them, regardless of gender or age. At the door to a business, if one party is entering and another leaving, it’s smoothest for the person entering to open the door and step to the side while the person leaving does so, and then to go on through. Eliminates any possibility of jostling each other while allowing a moment of F2F for a smile and quick pleasantry.

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Lorraine March 2, 2013 at 8:43 pm

Thank you for the movie about manners. This was the time I was in high school! I don’t remember that everyone was that polite, however.

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Rayna@BrightCopperKettlesblog March 3, 2013 at 9:23 am

Thank you for sharing this video! For all its quaintness and some rather outdated suggestions (see comments above), it still shows how knowing manners helps ease our day-to-day interactions. My family and I were at the Garden State Plaza (a huge mall in New Jersey) yesterday. From rude behavior in the parking lot to people arguing over seats in the cafeteria to the two “gentlemen” who stood like sentinels in front of a garbage can I was trying to use, it was very obvious that too many of us need a brushing up on basic manners! Sites like this one reassure me that there’s still an interest in being polite, even when it seems otherwise!

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mumsyjr March 5, 2013 at 10:58 pm

@Xena- they’re on Youtube, as well. @Mojo- pretty sure high schoolers would tear this apart, our classes would have been nothing but stifled (or not so stifled) giggles and snark. I agree with some other commentors about the gendered messages: those are definitely out of date and I got a funny feeling in my tummy when the narrator said “and they ENJOY it”. But this is 1953 we’re talking about, it’s valuable to recognize the changes in social expectations, and therefore manners, and to remember that both will most likely continue to change. Also about that line: I don’t think manners extend to dictating how we feel about something, otoh the statement seems more about the performance of enjoyment than actual enjoyment and sometimes that IS required by manners (like when you get a gift that is utterly awful but you recognize the intent behind it and do your best to find something nice to say). Interesting.

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