Three months after the death of my father, my mother under some pressure from friends and family, hosted memorial/get together/party/wake. My dad was an atheist, was cremated and did not believe in an afterlife. However he was well known and liked, and it seemed disrespectful not to do “something”. It was held at my mother’s house and close friends and family were invited.
It was informal and towards the end people got up and told their favorite story. It was actually a pretty nice event and my mom and I are glad we did it.
However, the day and time of the event corresponded with this year’s AFC Championship. After the party, I noticed that the TV had been turned on to the game and there were several glasses and plates in the room. My mom and I had a chuckle, since my dad was a terrible host and would often leave halfway though a party my parents were hosting if there was something on TV that he wanted to watch. Had he been alive, we have no doubt, he would have watched the game himself abandoning my mom and the guests.
My question is, what is the etiquette about watching TV when at another person’s house during a planned event? 0126-13
Regardless of how informal the party, or how relationally close the guests are or how Dad would have done it, for the guests to presume to turn on the host’s television without the host’s consent or knowledge is rude. The purpose of the party was to honor a deceased friend and family member, not an excuse to have a game viewing party. I cannot wrap my brain around people who live as though missing a sports game on TV is the greatest tragedy of their lives and will go to exceptionally rude lengths to make sure they are not deprived. I had only one incidence of this type of rude presumption upon the ownership of my TV and usurping of my planned hospitality during an event I was hosting at my house. I quietly went over to the remote, turned the TV off and closed the entertainment unit doors again which had been closed prior to the young adult taking it upon himself to open them and turn on my TV. Had he had the audacity to complain, I would have calmly told him that he was free to continue viewing the game at his own home…may I get your coat?