A girl I knew in high school (20 years ago) posted this status on FaceBook just two days after she friended me.
Her name appeared constantly on my FaceBook sidebar because we have a lot of mutual FB friends and I’m sure she remembers my name as much as I remember hers. There was name recognition but we weren’t friends or even acquaintances (no animosity or bad history, we just did not run in the same circles). I was never motivated to friend her because I don’t think we ever spoke one word to each throughout high school.
When she friended me I was surprised and curious but accepted. Then two days later I saw her status. Her dad died and according to her message HE had set up a trust account for his two granddaughters, one of which is this woman’s daughter.
It is with a heavy heart that my father passed on Friday Nov 9/12. His memorial is on Friday Nov 16/12 at 2:00pm at [church]. In lieu of flowers my father has set up a trust account at [bank and location] in the apple of his eyes names [granddaughter 1] and [granddaughter 2]. As everyone knows my Dad was my hero, I will miss his strength and love everyday. He may be gone but he will live in my heart forever. Thank You so much to my dear friends for everyone’s support, I appreciate and love you all and I am eternally great full for everything.
Since the timing of her “friending” is interesting I feel like I’m being shaken down. She friended me AFTER her dad passed and BEFORE posting this message, after years of seeing her name on my sidebar (and if I saw hers, I’m absolutely certain she saw mine).
She has 1 child and 2 incomes (she and her husband both work). I have 3 children and 1 income (my husband is a stay at home dad). I did not and will not donate to the trust, will not send a card (don’t even know her address!) and did not acknowledge her post when I read it because I was rather bent out of shape over it. She makes a point of saying her father set up the trust but if her father wanted his grandchildren taken care of, he should have given them money. 0208-13
Just because someone sends you a friend request does not mean you have to accept it. If you have had no interest in friending her all these years, you should have ignored the request.
It is crass to publicly announce the death of beloved family member and in the same breath give out inheritance information that has the appearance of soliciting friends and family to join the deceased in bestowing an inheritance upon grandchildren. It does have that taste of exploiting the crisis for maximum financial benefit. Many times I have seen people request that, in lieu of flowers, to please donate to a charity, often one related to what the deceased died from. I’ve never seen one requesting donations for the benefit of grandchildren. I would ignore the obvious cash solicitation and quietly unfriend her from your Facebook list of friends.