I have an etiquette question that I hope you can help me with. For the past several years, I have been invited to a fabulous annual event due to some work connections. In past years, I have been offered a handful of tickets, allowing me to invite 3 or 4 other couples along, and we have had so much fun that we talk about it throughout the year.
This year, however, there are not as many tickets available, so I will only be able to invite one other couple. I’ll be inviting a couple who is clearly closest to myself and my fiance.
I made it a point to mention, when it comes up, that I think the tickets will be limited, so I don’t think that anyone is expecting an invitation, but how do I handle this gracefully? Do I ask the other couple not to post photos, and not to discuss the event? Or do I just let it be known that I can only invite our closest friends? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but it’s not possible for me to get additional tickets and I don’t want to let the tickets go to waste. 0319-13
If it has been your tradition for more than 2 years in a row to invite these same 3 to 4 couples to this event, then you might want to gently inform them that due to a scarcity of tickets this year, you are unable to secure no more than a couple. What you want to convey to them to avoid any hurt feelings is that you regret not being able to continue this fun tradition this year, that you enjoy your time at this event with all of them but that you look forward to next year when perhaps the ticket scarcity will not be so severe.
I am disappointed to inform you that this year I was unable to secure any additional tickets to the fabulous event we have all enjoyed due to the scarcity of available tickets. Fiance and I have had so much fun in prior years with you all and it won’t be the same this year without you. My hope is that next year I can once again pass on the generous offering from work of many free tickets to share with you all.