First Come, First Parked

by admin on April 25, 2013

Hello. Would like others opinions on who was in the wrong here.

Recently I arranged to meet my husband at the beach after he had been to the gym so he was in his car and I was in my car with our 3 young kids aged 1, 2and a half and 5 years old.

The beach was pretty packed but there were a few spaces to park still. I’d driven around a few times looking for a parking spot close to where I could see my husband who was already on the beach as I didn’t want to walk too far with my 3 small children.
A car left its spot fairly close to him so I turned on my indicator but as I went to drive into the spot a lady who was parked next to that spot jumped out of her car talking on her mobile phone and stood in the way. I thought maybe she hadn’t realized and was just standing there so I wound my window down to ask her to move which is when she walked over to the car so I started pulling in and she said, “You can’t park here I’m calling my friend to come and park here.”  I said, “Well, I’m sorry but I’m parking here as I have little kids and we are here before your friend. ”

I was now parked and getting out of the car and she said, “But she needs this spot next to my car.” I asked why is that? I figured if she said she has some very reasonable reason for needing to park directly next to her friend I would move, but she just said because they are going for a walk together. So I just said,  “Well, look, I’m parked here now.  I have little kids who can’t walk too far as I’m meeting someone already on the beach.  Your friend will just have to stay parked where she is.”   Then I got my kids out and went onto the beach.

I did feel rude but I figured first in first served? 0424-13

{ 56 comments… read them below or add one }

Redblues April 27, 2013 at 11:11 am

They were going for a walk, but didn’t want to walk?!? That’s like fighting for the closest parking space to the front door of the gym. Sheesh. Lazy AND athletic!

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Jaxsue April 27, 2013 at 8:30 pm

OP, you did nothing wrong. The other woman did.

As for passengers jumping out of a car and “holding” the parking spot, I don’t think that’s legit; I can’t think of any situation where it would be. The driver that gets to the spot first – or who sees it first (and has their blinker on) gets the spot.

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Anonymous April 28, 2013 at 2:49 pm

@Redblues–Sadly, the “jockeying for parking spots near the door” thing used to be a huge problem at our local YMCA. My mom used to joke that people didn’t want to burn any calories that didn’t “count” (as in, show up on the screen of whatever cardio machine they were using).

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Jo April 29, 2013 at 10:52 am

I agree with everyone who says that it was definitely ok to take the spot in this situation.

That aside, I did get the vibe that perhaps the LW has a bit of an entitlement going on because she has three young children…she mentioned this FOUR TIMES in the space of a few very short paragraphs. Having those children was her own personal choice and she needs to deal with them herself. Not to be rude, but nobody cares that her kids can’t walk far, etc. In this particular situation she seems to have been ok, but perhaps in others, she may want to keep a leash on this mindset.

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Goldie April 29, 2013 at 1:40 pm

@ Jo:

” Having those children was her own personal choice and she needs to deal with them herself. Not to be rude, but nobody cares that her kids can’t walk far, etc.”

I care. I want to drive through a parking lot without having to worry about hitting a small kid that broke loose, because his mother had to walk him AND two other small kids across the entire lot.

Of course, additionally, I don’t subscribe to the view that parents of young children have to “pay for their choices”, like their kids are a drug addiction, but mainly it’s for my own convenience that other people’s kids don’t spend too much time toddling around a busy lot.

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Enna May 4, 2013 at 5:09 am

@ Jo: I think the reason why the OP said this is she watned to establish who had the greater need: for example if the woman said “my firend is blind or is in a wheelchair” then the OP might have parked somewhere else as the firend would have had the greater need. Yes it could have been her choice to have children but if people don’t have children what would happen? Neither you or me would be here.

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