Feel Good Friday – Real Beauty And Interesting Women

by admin on July 12, 2013

 

Dustin Hoffman discusses his role as Dorothy Michaels in the movie “Tootsie” and how the movie was not a comedy for him.

 

But then there is a parody….

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

katylou May 24, 2013 at 9:08 am

I think I seem to fall outside the average response to this video. I love the thought behind the video, that we’re hard on ourselves and need to sometimes stand back and see the beauty that others see in us. But in the end, I’m just really disappointed by this video. Firstly, these people are letting others decide how beautiful they are and a lot of the “negative” descriptors include things like “fat face, wrinkles, freckles,” but who’s to decide these are negatives? This video assigns fat and thin values rather than leaving them as objective descriptors. The second issue that I have is that the participants they focus on the most are all white women who seem to be between the ages of 25 and 40. There are glimpses of other races, but the focus is on white women. You could argue that Dove is just trying to reach out to their demographic, but the result is perpetuating the idea that minorities can’t be as attractive to a mainstream audience.

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Tanz May 24, 2013 at 2:25 pm

I hate the original (but then, I take exception to Dove’s message of “You’re beautiful – so long as you fit into this slightly-bigger-than-usual definition of beauty!”) but the parody is hilarious!

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Merrilee July 12, 2013 at 5:58 am

My co-worker’s daughter is the one who created the original and she won an award at the Cannes festival for creating it. I really like the video as my daughter is struggling with her self esteem and the video really showed her something. I’m sorry, I don’t agree with the other comments. I found the video powerful to my 10 year old, who needed to see how hard we can all be on ourselves, which is the point. Thanks for sharing, admin! p.s. I do love the parody as well :-)

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Ginger July 12, 2013 at 6:10 am

I LOVED what Dustin Hoffman had to say. In fact, I loved it so much, that yesterday I asked my high school Accounting class if they’d like to start the day with a little life lesson. I then showed them an extract of that clip where he said that there were too many interesting women that he had not met. My class is mostly male. We then had a little chat about what he had said and the fact that they are still young and have the opportunity to go through life differently and choose to get to know people irrespective of what their shell looked like.

It’s funny that this somewhat spoke to something that has unsettled me over the past year. Over the past three years, I have lost over 25kg and have developed a very toned physique. I suddenly find that I catch the eye of men (not the reason I did it as I am happily married but also not an unexpected result) but not only that, people (male AND female) give me the time of day and want to get to know me … because of how I look. It really unsettles me because that is the least of what I am and if that is what makes you suddenly interested in talking to me, then I’m not sure you’re the type of person I want to talk to. I’m incredibly bright and have a broad knowledge across many topics, yet my physical attributes dictate whether or not you want to get to know me? Where once I was invisible when I walked into a store, I now have people falling over themselves to help me when I walk into those same stores. Random people seem to want to do more favors for me out of the goodness of their heart. I have stopped short of really going after the physique that I would like because I am apprehensive of the attention that would come with that sort of a look.

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Shannon July 12, 2013 at 7:58 am

I like the message, but Dove is owned by the same people who own Axe Body Spray. They use inspirational messages of the female body to sell Dove soap the same way they use sexual comments towards the female body to sell Axe deoderant.

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Lori July 12, 2013 at 2:41 pm

I have never cared for Dove’s “real beauty” campaign either. This ad in particular bothered me, because it is predicated on the assumption that all women hate how they look. Where are the woman who don’t care to describe themselves in the worst possible terms? Well, we must just not have been adequately informed yet about our shortcomings, because look, all the OTHER girls hate their appearance. What about the women who really DO look like the “bad” version of those drawings? Instead of telling everyone “we are all beautiful,” how about telling everyone that beautiful or not, we are all valuable?

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Phoebe161 July 12, 2013 at 4:44 pm

I can see good & bad points about the Dove ad, & even the Hoffman interview, but everything in life cannot be covered in 3-8 minutes. The Dove ad addressed *one* issue, & did it beautifully. Hoffman talked about one issue, & it was an epiphany-type moment. Admin, thanks for posting these two videos–they made my day. (I was unable to get the parody one to work!)

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Lynne July 12, 2013 at 6:10 pm

Lori, thank you.

” Instead of telling everyone “we are all beautiful,” how about telling everyone that beautiful or not, we are all valuable?”

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Cashie July 13, 2013 at 2:31 pm

@Lori, yours is the perfect sentiment. Thank you for posting that. It is a sentence I will repeat often. ” Instead of telling everyone “we are all beautiful,” how about telling everyone that beautiful or not, we are all valuable?” Wow.

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shelly July 14, 2013 at 6:27 am

I have to agree that the Dove commercial left me feeling rather cold too. To me the message was beauty is important the people they showed were all still rather nice looking, middle class looking people with great skin. There are some pretty ugly looking people, why were the not featured in the commercial? Where were the 300lb women? The poor teen whose face is covered in zits? Where was the poor haggard looking mom with thin hair and dark circles under her eyes from lack of sleep?

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VM July 14, 2013 at 8:57 am

Somebody looking at a face in the mirror their entire life at point-blank range is going to notice more than an fleeting outsider. They’re going to be in a position to note the “starting” to have crowsfeet or a chin protruding “just a little.” And as far as I can tell they weren’t allowed to work with the police sketch artist how a witness would, being asked whether this or that looked right according to their impression.

It’s good to be reminded we can fixate on our observations too much and good to remember that the world sees us more generally and forgivingly. But for me the piece just didn’t prove its premise.

And the premise, supposedly so affirmational, leaves me insulted. Why should my sense of self-worth be so tied to my appearance AND how the world treats it that the idea of others thinking I look better than I think I do is a glorious epiphany?

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Barney Girl July 15, 2013 at 4:21 pm

I felt uncomfortable looking at the women’s responses in the Dove video. They seemed to be variations on the theme of ‘I have done something wrong, because I don’t see myself as others do’. The intention may have been to make them feel more positive about themselves, but what I saw was women believing they were at fault.

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Kay L July 16, 2013 at 1:23 pm

The Dove body thing isn’t really “real.” The artist is choosing to make them look more attractive rather than less attractive.

And Dustin Hoffman? Really? I am unimpressed that he sheds tears because he suddenly realizes that he’s shallow. And then to try to blame that on what? Society? He’s been brainwashed?

Give me a break!

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Michelle C Young July 19, 2013 at 5:01 am

I was just telling my sister today, “Everyone is beautiful in Heaven. Not that we will look any different than we do, here on earth. However, in Heaven, everyone will SEE the beauty in us, as we are.”

And that beauty includes people of every color, shape, size, and feature. It’s what’s in the heart that matters.

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Rebecca July 19, 2013 at 8:29 am

Dove wants us to feel good about ourselves because we may actually be closer to the “accepted” standard of beauty than we originally realized? I understand what they are trying to do with this campaign, but for me, they missed.

I do like the fact that they’re doing it at all, but they’re a corporation, not a charity. They don’t want us to feel good about ourselves for our own sake. They want us to be put in a good mood, and then flash their logo so that we associate these good feelings with their product. I want to feel good about myself, but I don’t want to be manipulated.

Dustin Hoffman. I’m not entirely sure those tears are real. He is an actor after all, and are we really supposed to believe that every interview he’s done about this film since his “revelation” included an emotional breakdown? The movie is over 30 years old.

The sentiment is a nice one, and if it brings attention to body image issues and the way they’ve been manipulated by society, great! Thank you Dustin Hoffman. And thank you to his publicity team, who probably suggested he say it since the issue is currently trendy… due, in part, to Dove.

I prefer the Patrick Stewart clip about domestic violence. It’s clear he’s speaking from the heart, from a true, gut-wrenching experience, and that he’s been working quietly on behalf of the issue for years. He is a true example of a person taking a negative and turning it into a positive.

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