My brother and SIL have a 2 year-old son, “Bryan” who I love dearly. They live quite a distance away and so the only way I communicate with my brother and his family is through Skype and telephone. While my SIL is pretty good about communication, my brother has picked up a habit over the last 12 months or so that’s driving me insane and I’m not sure how to respond.
My brother will call once in a while to say “Hi”, which is great. However, the conversation usually starts with a “Hello, how are you doing?” and then immediately gets sidetracked into a play-by-play of what Bryan is currently doing and a conversation between my brother and Bryan only. For example: “Hi sister! How are you? We’re great. Bryan is eating corn right now. He loves corn! Don’t you Bryan? Did you like the park today Bryan? Bryan played in the sandbox. Bryan loves the park.”
This goes on for a long time with me unable to get a word in edgewise. The majority of the time the conversation ends when Bryan begins to act up and my brother will end the call to deal with him (which sometimes occurs 30 seconds after my brother initiates the call, which is maddening in and of itself).
As much as I enjoy talking to my brother, I don’t feel like I’ve actually really spoken to him in almost a year. I’ve pretty much given up making attempts to call him on my own, because it always seems to be a very inconvenient time for him. The next time he calls I’m tempted to tell him something to the effect of “Why don’t you call when you’re not so preoccupied?” but I don’t want to seem rude, and I don’t think he realizes just how much he focuses on Bryan. How should I handle this? 0613-13