Bride and Gloom

by admin on March 12, 2008

Ehellions know I have no kind thoughts for theme weddings that look more like theatrical productions than the serious sealing of vows a wedding ceremony is supposed to represent.   The overuse of theatrical type make-up and theatrical props to pull off this Goth wedding ceremony puts it way over the edge as one of the worst examples of “wedding theme gone bad” I’ve ever seen.  JH

Bride and gloom: Meet the happy couple behind this goth wedding
By DEBRA KILLALEA – 8th March 2008, Daily Mail

The bride was smiling and the groom looked a picture of happiness.But while this black wedding was a joyous occasion the two newylweds involved have certainly taken the phrase for better or worse to a whole new level.

Childhood sweethearts Julie Williams, 45, and Dylon Holroyd, 49, decided to tie the knot goth style, although judging by the amount of people dressed in black one could be forgiven for thinking they were attending a funeral and not a happy celebration.

Goth weddingJulie Williams and Dylon Holroyd tied the knot goth style

Goth weddingJulie arrives for the ceremony in a black lined coffin

Arcade worker Julie, who arrived to the nupitals in a coffin and hearse, said their wedding seemed “like the most natural thing to do.”

Julie, nicknamed Morticia by friends, walked her husband down the aisle with none other than a dog lead and said they decided to tie the knot after first meeting 27 years ago.

“We went our separate ways when we were young, married other people and had children,” she told the Mirror.

“But then we bumped into each other last year and realised we were meant to be together.

“So the first thing I did was put a dog collar around his neck and say ‘It’s taken me this long to get you, I’m not letting you escape now’.”

More than 100 guests attended the register office wedding in Wakefiled, Yorkshire, and Julie’s wedding coffin now takes pride of place as her lounge room coffee table.

Goth weddingJulie literally led her husband down the aisle

Goth weddingThe happy couple say a goth wedding was ‘the natural thing to do’

{ 17 comments… read them below or add one }

Alexis July 13, 2009 at 6:53 pm

Can’t you have a quiet little civil ceremony with your immediate family and your elderly relatives, and leave the theatrics for a party with your friends at a later date?

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carolinadewitte July 20, 2009 at 2:03 am

OMG!! Julie Williams, 45, and Dylon Holroyd, 49 ? Really? This sounds like something two 16-year-olds might think was ‘cool’, but at their ages? They should be SO ashamed. The article also says they each have children as well. I wonder what THEY thought of their parents? I’ll bet they were embarrassed badly. They could well be the butt of all their schoolmates jokes now. No, this was wrong on SO MANY levels. The rumours are true…Mr. Common Sense DID die! I just found his obituary. (http://infohost.nmt.edu/~armiller/commonsen.htm)

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purity July 28, 2009 at 7:48 pm

Wow, who’s it hurting if they want to have fun with their wedding?

Lots of goths have families who aren’t embarrassed by them (check out the annual goth meet at Disneyland to see some happy Goth families).
I think it’s great to see two people happy with being themselves, and happy to be together. I say “Way to go, congrats, continue to enjoy life!”

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Robert September 28, 2009 at 7:21 am

Me personally, I enjoy the concept of theme weddings even if some of them are not to my taste. It is to me, a celebration of what makes the couple unique. Really, so long as all parties involved are in agreement with it, I see nothing wrong with making the wedding a little bit “fun.”

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Cour October 5, 2009 at 10:05 pm

An offense against taste is not the same as an offense against etiquette. After all, ‘de gustibus non est disputandum’.

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Brenda October 21, 2009 at 3:17 pm

At least they didn’t:

1. Make everyone fly to Baltimore to hold the ceremony at Poe’s tomb

2. Make everyone dress up in expensive costumes

3. Set up a registry at the most expensive store in town, so they could return the gifts for cash

4. Have a cake that cost more than a month’s salary

5. Have an engagement ring that left them in debt for years

6. Have a fancy ceremony and reception that will leave their children in debt

Frankly, I don’t see what they did wrong. They were married in a simply ceremony with happy friends at the registry office. They dressed the way they wanted. Everyone apparently had a great time. Isn’t that the essence of a wedding?

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Michael NOT the Archangel October 25, 2009 at 4:13 am

I agree with Purity.. I think a little creativity is a healthy thing, even in weddings.

When my wife and I were planning OUR wedding we toyed with the idea of a quasi-shotgun wedding with her dad and stepdad standing up with us; her dad was a cop and her stepdad is from the mountains in eastern Tennessee. I would have been dressed in prison dungarees, her dad would have been in uniform, and her stepdad would have been brandishing the shotgun.. We even gave thought to having a DJ friend of mine perform the “ceremony” in a gaudy polyester suit, complete with the bad hair, gold chains, sunglasses, and dollar bills bulging out of every pocket. (I hope I’m not giving anyone ELSE any ideas here!)

But ultimately we went with a not-over-the-top Pepe LePew motif, with the cake topper and utensils, Pepe LePew champagne glasses, and we went with black and white for our outfits– yes, she was the one in white! :)

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helena razorkiss November 3, 2009 at 9:21 am

whoah, i wish i would marry my future husband like that and stay gothic forever..then i’ll name my children wednesday,todd,misery,mortisha and moonlight…

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helena razorkiss November 3, 2009 at 9:54 am

i would marry my vampire edward (not edward cullen, but he does seems to look like him) hehe..the whole family would ride a hearst! whee!

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Kitty November 8, 2009 at 2:20 pm

I think they look ridiculous and their wedding is light-years away from what I would plan, but if that’s what floats their boat I see no harm in it. Yes, starting a marriage is a serious business, but as long as both parties understand that then I don’t think this sort of shenanigans undermines that seriousness. There are plenty of more traditional weddings where everything is just so and appears to be taken seriously which are in reality not taken seriously and end up in divorce a few years down the line. The appearance of frivolity at a wedding does not necessarily mean that the couple are not taking the proceedings seriously.

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CyanideButterflies May 22, 2010 at 12:03 pm

Bless them, they look incredibly happy, and that’s what matters.

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Anya May 22, 2010 at 9:57 pm

Bravo for them! A wedding is what you want it to be – they’re old enough to have been first generation Goths (did they say if that first meeting was at the Bat Cave?) Weddings should be what make YOU and your Fiancee happy, not merely a bunch of obligatory mishmash traditions from previous centuries.

Personally I think the both of them are totally precious!

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amazon September 17, 2010 at 10:59 am

yay for elder goths! keep on being true to yourselves. your wedding to your true love should be “your way.”

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CherryBlossom October 2, 2010 at 1:03 pm

Oh that’s just adorable, seriously, it looks like they were made for each other! We should all be so lucky. I must admit I fail to see any breech of etiquette here; they did something unusual that represented their own unique quirks and had a bit of flair to it. Where is the harm in that? Why all the negative feedback from total strangers?

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Shayna October 2, 2010 at 3:58 pm

It’s what they wanted. And since there’s nothing to suggest someone else paid for this wedding, who are we to judge?

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jenna October 2, 2010 at 10:33 pm

I don´t see what they did wrong either – honestly, and I mean this with all kindness toward etiquettehell because I love this site, who is to judge whether something is “too theatrical” or “a perfect reflection of this couple”? Clearly they are goth type people, so a white wedding with flowers and whatever wouldn´t suit them at all…why force a typical wedding down the throat of a couple who would feel uncomfortable in it?

Also, frankly I think many weddings that would never make it into e-hell (because no etiquette rules were broken) count as just as theatrical and as some might think “ridiculous” as this one. Matchy-matchy bridesmaids? Ridiculous to me (but not others, which is cool and I respect that some people want attendants to match) and VERY theatrical and has NOTHING to do with a “serious sealing of vows”. Huge white princess gowns and massive flower arrangements – what is not theatrical about that? Long processions down the aisle, garter and bouquet tosses, “giant frosted castle” cakes, random unity candle etc. ceremonies, first dances…all pure theatrics and completely divorced from an actual wedding ceremony and what it is meant to represent.

So just because this couple has a different aesthetic regarding all the theatrics does not merit a stay in e-hell! (And Alexis – if this couple has to have a small ceremony and save the party for later, why not all the couples who have foo-foo theatrical weddings that are to more mainstream tastes?)

PS. Go check out Offbeat Bride. Seriously. It doesn´t always have to be done the same way.

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Sugaryfun February 26, 2012 at 6:51 pm

If the theme is a gimmick just for the day it’s weird and tacky, but if the couple lead a Goth lifestyle it makes sense for their wedding to be in keeping with that. It’s about the couple, not what anybody else thinks of them.

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