Help! It’s now February but for Christmas my husband’s grandparents sent us a gift via his parents as they live out of state and his parents visit them on occasion. Apparently his mom accidentally unwrapped the gift, thought they were for her and have not given them to us, or told us about them till now.
The catch is she told us “don’t tell!” (That she unwrapped them and neglected to give them to us, I guess.) So now I’m stuck in the middle of sending a thank you card 2 months after the fact with no real excuse for the lateness, and his mom getting mad for telling them of her negligence with the gift. In other words, give his grandparents the impression that we are ungrateful rude boars, or give his mom the impression that we are tattle tales and blamed it all on her. What should I do? 0221-13
This story was submitted many months ago before being published but I hope that the OP has since written a nice thank you note to the grandparents.
One hard and fast rule I have is that I will not lie for others. It is not my responsibility to rescue you from the consequences of actions at the peril of damaging my own reputation and conscience. So, I would not agree to specifically lie to the grandparents if asked by them if you received the gift in time for Christmas or asked directly why a note of thanks was so late in coming. You can be discreet in not offering that information, however.