Kids Only Drinks

by admin on October 1, 2013

Hi! Not sure if I was at wrong here, but I did feel kind of bad at the end of the day.

We had gone to a friend’s house for a cookout one afternoon. We knew one other couple there, the host, and my boyfriend knew everyone else, but I didn’t. There were about 3 other little families with 2 kids each.

Towards the end of the day, everyone was starting to leave, some people were still there, and we were all hanging out. I got thirsty and went into the cooler to get a drink and saw that they had CapriSuns.. oooo! I thought, “I haven’t had one of these in ages.” I took one, popped in the straw, and started drinking it. As soon as I turned around, one of the couples that had kids said, “Hey!!! Those are for the kids!” His tone was in the not-so-kidding sound. I didn’t know what to say, so I said something like, “Well, I’m a kid, too, haha!”, then kind of turned around and changed topics. I felt really bad after getting the drink, but I had noticed that there were still some left, and this was way after everyone ate their lunches, etc, and most of the kids had left or were either winding down.. Should I not have taken the drink? The person that said this to me was related to the host. My mind didn’t even THINK about the kids at that moment and I felt really bad. Let me know if I’m in eHell!! 0926-13

CapriSuns would not qualify as “child only”, imo.    Tiny juice boxes would.  If they are all mingled in the same cooler with other drinks, and there was no note advising guests to reserve the CapriSuns  for the kids, I would assume that whatever is in the cooler is free for the taking by any guest.

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NostalgicGal October 2, 2013 at 12:44 am

Unless the CapriSuns were for lunchboxes, I’d say they were fair game. Nobody said they were for kids only at the start of the fest, they weren’t in a separate cooler, they weren’t labeled kids only… you could have one. Good reply under the circumstances, along with a beandip… since the meal was over and it was in wind-down and there were some leftover, should have been no harm.

One gathering of friends and kids, I had made steaks for the adults (and a couple extra) and hotdogs and burgers for the younger ones… (roast corn on cob in husk and grill baked potatoes were for everyone) and I had most of the adults ask nicely if they could eat the hotdogs and burgers (sure, I had more than enough-I even put on another pack of dogs to make sure) and a couple of kids sat down to a chunk of steak. What I intended wasn’t what happened, but everyone was happy with the food and got full :)

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Ergala October 2, 2013 at 7:30 am

@kitkat My 7 year old LOVES raw Kale. I buy it all the time for smoothies and he will literally inhale the leaves as soon as I wash them. When I was a kid I ate liver, blood sausage, head cheese…you name it. My 7 year old also loves brussell sprouts. My 3 year old though….he’s a bit tougher to get food into. He has sensory issues galore so I have to be kind of sneaky. I turned cauliflower into “bread sticks” the other day and he ate them without a problem. I can make a smoothie and have it be 100% veggies he will not touch and he’ll drink it if it looks neat. I use beets to make them red/pink….I tell him it’s Ghast blood and he chugs it.

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Barreleh October 2, 2013 at 7:39 am

What kind of (very bad name) embarrasses a guest who innocently takes a refreshment that is not expressly reserved for some other guest/guests? Especially if that (very bad name) is not even the host??

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MichelleP October 2, 2013 at 7:50 am

@crebj, why should the OP apologize? She did nothing wrong. She said nothing even remotely resembling “screw you”. Pretty language, by the way.

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Abby October 2, 2013 at 8:56 am

@ MichelleP-

“@crebj, why should the OP apologize? She did nothing wrong. She said nothing even remotely resembling “screw you”. Pretty language, by the way.”

I completely agree. I don’t like the suggestion the OP should apologize when she’s done nothing wrong either. I think a lot of times people apologize in cases like this because they feel it’s the polite thing to do.

I think either he was planning on taking the extras home, and wanted to make sure people felt as uncomfortable as possible taking the remaining pouches. No, once OP opened it there was no going back, but he could make her feel extremely awkward if she was considering taking a second one. Or, the other possibility is the guy is just a busybody who feels it is his duty to scold those who do not adhere to his own standards, regardless if those standards are universally considered correct.

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Young at Heart October 2, 2013 at 9:03 am

@crebj, What an interesting assumption you’ve made!
An apology is completely unnecessary in this situation. In fact, an apology would make the rude person in this story feel justified about his rudeness. The op’s reply was perfect. I don’t think it looked like a “Screw You” at all either.

But, to push my point further, there are many many etiquette friendly ways to say “Screw You.” Just because the gist of it may boil down to the same thing, no matter how it’s said, doesn’t there is never an appropriate way to say it.

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acr October 2, 2013 at 3:24 pm

From the OP’s description, the person who scolded her wasn’t the host. If he had purchased and brought those CapriSuns for the kids, then I think he would have been okay to say so in a polite way. But if he didn’t buy the CapriSuns, then he had absolutely no reason to involve himself in the OP’s CapriSun consumption.

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LizaJane October 2, 2013 at 10:13 pm

The only apology I would have offered would have been, “Oh, I’m sorry…are they yours?” Put him in the spot he attempted to put you in. If he says yes, he’s outed himself as stingy with his Capri Suns. If he says no, he’s outed as a busy body who secretly covets the “must’ve Fri.jpg for himself. Either way, he looks bad, but he did it to himself.

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LizaJane October 2, 2013 at 10:16 pm

kids’ drinks…not whatever my phone thought he was coveting

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just4kicks October 4, 2013 at 1:31 am

We have five kids involved in sports and my husband has coached baseball for many years. We have held several end of season picnics at our home. We always put out two coolers. One for beer, wine, mixers etc, and another one with Gatorade and sodas and Capri suns. While the kids are only allowed to choose from the non alcoholic cooler (obviously!) the adults may help themselves to either. I am one of those people who does enjoy a delicious adult beverage, but while I eat my meal, I prefer a non alcoholic drink. I have noticed many of our friends do the same. I would never yell at an adult to leave those for just the kids. Some people don’t drink alcohol, and we provide many choices in both categories. I don’t think you did anything wrong, OP, and I think it was very rude for that guy to say that to you.

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just4kicks October 4, 2013 at 9:21 am

@DGS: although I agree with you about juice boxes having lots is sugar and artificial flavors and colors, CapriSun has no artificial colors and 25% less sugar. I am reading this right off the box in my fridge. Don’t get me wrong…our kids drink soda and Gatorade etc, but do take Capri Suns in their lunches.

And to the poster who brought up the “hugs” those are always in our fridge come summertime. The kids even freeze them and eat them with spoons, like Italian ices!

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SJ October 7, 2013 at 1:00 am

It did not appear that OP was depriving any children of a drink. The hostess didn’t specify those were for kids only. Not a big deal. She handled it fine.

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Cassandra October 9, 2013 at 7:56 am

The only problem I could see with it is if the parents were the ones to buy the caprisuns for the kids. But still you have to expect to share! I have been in situations though where I’ve bought drinks for kids and so many adults drank them that the kids had none and we had to round up other drinks for the kids whose parents didn’t want them drinking soda.

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