A couple of years ago, an old friend that I had grown up with was in a terrible car crash, and unfortunately did not make it. She left behind a young son, and as an only child, her parents were understandably heart broken.
To help cover the cost of her funeral and the costs associated with raising her son, her parents held a fund raiser by selling port-a-pit chicken. I was in town that weekend, and my mom wanted to go show her support, so we went down to the fund raiser. It was at a gas station, and absolutely packed, so my mom jumped out of the car to go get the chicken while I circled the station.
A few minutes later, she hops back into the car, her face was the color of a cherry tomato, and she looked really upset.
“What is wrong?” I asked as we pulled onto the street.
“I really put my foot in my mouth this time,” she answered.
She then told me that while buying the chicken, she bumped into “Leona” the mother of my friend who had passed away. She said hello and asked how “Leona” was holding up. “Leona” responded and then asked my mom how she was doing.
My mom replied just as she always does when someone asks her how she has been.
I think people do and should overlook “shallow stupid” things people say in awkward moments. The intention was not to be hurtful, just mindless for a moment.