Book Give Away! “How Can I Help? How To Support Someone Who Is Grieving” by June Cerza Kolf

by admin on October 8, 2013

To be given away to some lucky reader, “Reaching Out…How Can I Help?…To Someone Who Is Grieving” by June Cerza Kolf.

 

June Kolf wrote this book in 1989 yet it is still the best little book on how to help people in mourning that I have found.   Kolf maneuvers her readers through the landmine of possible faux pas and offers very practical ways to console, bless and serve people who have lost a loved one.   It is one of the top ten “go to” books in my personal library and should be in yours, too.   The copy being given away was published in 1994 but is in pristine condition.  I kept several copies of this book to give to friends and family over the years…it’s that good.   Buy it here from Amazon or try to win this copy by replying in the comments.  Entries close Friday, October 11 at midnight EST.    Winner chosen by random on Saturday,  October 12th and notified by email so be sure to use a valid email address when replying.

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Wild Irish Rose October 7, 2013 at 3:45 pm

This book would be a HUGE help to me and my family and friends. After my stepson committed suicide, people avoided his mother like the plague, and I’d like not to do that if, God forbid, it should ever come up. That has to be the hardest situation to face.

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Margaret October 7, 2013 at 3:49 pm

This sounds like a very interesting book. I am getting to that age where attending funerals and comforting others who have lost loved ones will be something I will be doing more and more.

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Jayhawk October 7, 2013 at 4:02 pm

Always hard to know what to say and how to help.

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Athena October 7, 2013 at 4:24 pm

This is the type of book everyone should have on their shelf.

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Rosie October 7, 2013 at 5:24 pm

I would love to have this book. It would help me so much in reaching out a close family member right now.

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Andi October 7, 2013 at 5:45 pm

I wish I had that when my neighbors daughter was killed last year – it’s always so hard to know what to say

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sidi-ji October 7, 2013 at 6:11 pm

I will either win, or buy this book.

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Erin October 7, 2013 at 7:16 pm

So many people in my immediate circle are suffering from deaths of spouses. This would be a great help.

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Lynne October 7, 2013 at 7:55 pm

Would love the book. People close to me have lost people close to them — and struggled w societal expectations to “get over it” already, or even to not be sad in the first place.

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Julia October 7, 2013 at 8:00 pm

Would love to win this one :D

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Anonymous October 7, 2013 at 8:13 pm

I think Wild Irish Rose should get the book.

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Aje October 7, 2013 at 8:40 pm

It´s almost impossible to say the right thing, even when you´re really trying. Such a good idea to encourage people to learn this since unfortuantely, on this side of heaven we´re all going to deal with it at some point.

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Karen L October 7, 2013 at 8:57 pm

Thanks for the opportunity to win!

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Raymee October 7, 2013 at 9:11 pm

I would love to win, please enter me!

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Margaret October 7, 2013 at 9:20 pm

Thank you – sounds like an extremely helpful book.

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I LOVE BOOKS October 7, 2013 at 9:59 pm

this would be a major help for me! im working on my LSW and getting my clinical license as a Social Worker. thank you!

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saurus99 October 8, 2013 at 1:37 am

I would love to win this book!

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Floweramon October 8, 2013 at 2:18 am

Sounds like an interesting book!

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Kate October 8, 2013 at 5:38 am

As a volunteer EMT in a small town, this book would be a huge help to me. People always want to talk to me, and my fellow EMTs after someone passes. It’s not always easy to find the right words to say. Thank you for this opportunity to win!

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Kate October 8, 2013 at 6:51 am

This would be a great book and a huge help for me.

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Marian Perera October 8, 2013 at 6:53 am

Oh my word. I lost count of the unhelpful things people said after my mom died – everything from “Life goes on, get over it” to “Your mother will always be with you. If ever you need anything, just ask her for it”. One person sent me a beautiful poem about loss, though, and I still remember it even though it’s been nine years since I lost my mom. I’d love to win a copy of this book.

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Amber October 8, 2013 at 8:25 am

So, how many copies do you have? lol I think Amazon might sell out. :)

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Kathy October 8, 2013 at 8:34 am

I’m sure anyone can benefit by reading this book. I would love to win a copy.

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Elizabeth October 8, 2013 at 9:25 am

I would love to win this book. I think many of us have the best of intentions but sometimes say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Making a situation worse is a horrible feeling, and frustrating when trying to be a good friend.

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Chrysla October 8, 2013 at 9:59 am

I’m going to be taking my turn as our Sunday school help and outreach coordinator soon – a book like this will be so helpful. If I don’t win – I’ll purchase one. Thanks so much for the opportunity!

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Jan October 8, 2013 at 10:32 am

I think we all want to be helpful when someone is grieving. It’s just hard to know what to say. I’d love a copy.

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Evie3 October 8, 2013 at 10:43 am

I would love to win this book. Everyone should be given this book around the age of 12 or so, don’t you think?

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Mae October 8, 2013 at 10:53 am

I think this would be a great book to have. Please enter me!

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Chris October 8, 2013 at 11:23 am

I wish I knew about this book when my best friend’s father passed away. I never knew what to say to her or her mother. If I don’t win, I will have to buy this book.

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Lisa S. October 8, 2013 at 11:58 am

This would be so helpful for so many people.

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Challis October 8, 2013 at 12:05 pm

I also would love to win a copy.
-C

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Jen October 8, 2013 at 12:45 pm

Thank you for having this giveaway on your site.

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jd October 8, 2013 at 1:11 pm

I’d love to have it. I’ve put my foot in it once or twice before, but after suffering a few close family deaths myself, I’ve learned to be more careful. This would be a great help.

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Natalie g. October 8, 2013 at 3:40 pm

It looks like a great book!

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babs October 8, 2013 at 7:22 pm

I work as the Admin Assistant in the Pastoral Care ministry in a large church and we deal with this on almost a daily basis. It just never gets easier. I would love to have this for my own personal use, as I am usually the first that a grieving family speaks to before getting to a pastor. If I’m lucky enough to win it that would be great, but either way, I’ll check into getting one to have on hand in the office.

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Emmal2000uk October 9, 2013 at 6:25 am

This book would be a great help to me

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Cassandra October 9, 2013 at 7:46 am

Such a helpful book. I have friends who recently lost a child and I am at loss on how to help. I worry about her but I also worry about doing/saying the wrong thing.

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John October 9, 2013 at 10:21 am

If I don’t win, I will be heading to Amazon.

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Bill October 9, 2013 at 11:00 am

I would LOVE a copy!

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missmarie October 9, 2013 at 9:30 pm

I work in a retirement community. This could definitely help all of the staff! Many of our residents are recently widowed.

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CherylC October 10, 2013 at 2:19 am

I work for a hospice and would love to have this book to loan out when needed. Another excellent book, BTW, is Good Grief and has been very helpful for those grieving a loss, esp. if people are talking about how they should be “over it” by now.

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Roxanne Garland October 10, 2013 at 6:53 am

After so many moments of awkwardness and never knowing what to say.. I would love to read this book!

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Wendy B. October 10, 2013 at 7:20 am

It doesn’t seem to matter how often you’ve gone through grief yourself or with others, sometimes you seem to be totally at a loss.

About six years ago now my best friend died unexpectedly. Not only was I trying to cope with my own devastation, I found myself thrust into the role of trying to help another of her friends who kept asking me why. I wasn’t in any way in any shape to really help her, though at first I tried, until I realized it was making me even worse. Maybe if I’d had a resource like this I could have done more? I don’t know.

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MaryFran October 10, 2013 at 10:50 am

Always happy to take good advice.

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Krista October 11, 2013 at 4:48 am

I would love to win this book.

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Rynne October 11, 2013 at 6:12 am

I have several friends who have lost parents early – we are still in our thirties. This book would be amazing to help through this.

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Dena October 11, 2013 at 10:19 pm

Would love to read this book

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