This story is about a couple of co-workers both in different departments at the same office. Bob and Nancy met at work and were married a year or so later. They are both fairly young and get along with everyone, so we were all happy for them. The office threw them a wedding shower at work and it was very nice. No thank you cards and no invitations to the wedding, but nobody said much.
A year passes and Nancy becomes pregnant with their first child together (fourth total between them) and a baby shower is planned. The office is very generous and there are lots of gifts, food, decorations etc. At this point Nancy has decided to take the month off prior to her due date, but plans to come in for the shower. Forward to day of the shower and she no shows. Bob is at work and takes her place opening gifts, etc. He explains she doesn’t feel well enough to come. Okay, she’s close to her due date (couple of weeks) and maybe doesn’t feel up to it.
A couple of weeks later the manager for Nancy’s department confesses to me that she just found out Nancy had the baby a week before the shower and kept it a secret from work. She, the manager, is upset and had asked Nancy why they didn’t just say something. Nancy tells her they didn’t want to ‘ruin’ the baby shower? Manager is hurt and says she won’t be hosting anything for Nancy and Bob again. Still no thank you notes for anyone on this shower.
Now it’s a year and some months later. Nancy and Bob announce they are expecting again. Fifth child total, second together. Nobody says too much. Now Nancy is six months and word is going around that she has convinced another co-worker to host another shower at work! I think I’m going to be too busy for this one. 1019-13
Work showers are a perk of being employed and as such should have written policies regarding the distribution of this “perk” on company time and on the business premises. What happens off site during non-working hours is altogether different and employees can choose to attend or not.
Work sponsored baby and wedding showers should be clearly defined by company policy to include the following rules:
1) One shower per employee (or in this case, per working couple)
2) A cap on the amount of money employees can be solicited to contribute for a gift
3) A budget for how much of a department’s funds can be allocated to hosting a shower
Any other rules I am missing, readers?